How to avoid divorce, for sure
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The ultimate answer
This option is guaranteed to work. It's brilliant in its simplicity and will do the trick for anyone, no matter what social or ethnical background they have.
I have checked and double-checked and I challenge you to prove me wrong. Intensive reasoning, using each and every divorce I know of - including my own - has made me 1000% certain that this is going to work. There are no exceptions, no prerequisites that have to be met for this golden rule to work.
It has worked for many people and it can work for you too. I promise you. Avoid the pain, avoid the disappointment, avoid the resentment and avoid the grief by sticking to this single premise.
Apart from being the solution to avoid divorce, living by this rule will also have other positive side-effects. It will save you money, significant amounts of money. It will save you annoyance and frustration too.
And again: it's simple.
To test this formula I have done quite some research. And you can repeat this research for yourself to see if it works for you. I'm sure it will work for you. But if you're in doubt please feel free to verify. I've examined all divorced couples in my circle of acquaintances. I've applied this rule to each and every one of them and all came out with the same result: they wouldn't have divorced, if they had done things according to The Rule. To be on the safe side, I have also run this sanity check on famous, yet divorced couples. Elizabeth Taylor was a wonderful sample and she would have benefited so much from this rule. Just imagine how much money was spent on lawyers and alimony by Liz and the likes, such as Marlon Brando and Rod Steiger. All that could have been avoided.
You may wonder: "Is it really all that good?" Of course not. There's a backside to every coin. And I think it's only fair to reveal that too. You need to be well-informed to make a decision and I don't want to be accused of malpractice. So here it is. It's bad for the economy. If people get a divorce, they usually split up. And in most cases, half is just not enough for either one. So both ex-partners will complement their share of the assets. Both ex-partners will be spending money to buy things. Television set, furniture, a house, you name it. And that's good for the economy, we all know that. If we avoid divorces successfully, we will have to take into account that this will have an effect on the economy. Personally I think that this is a sacrifice we should be willing to make, but at the end of the day it's your choice, your decision.
Now then. I think it's about time to let you in on The Rule. You'll be surprised by it's sheer elegance and applicability, trust me. Like I said, there is one very simple and extremely effective way to avoid divorce:
do not get married.
Some serious hubs on relationships and divorce By Ananta65
Should you - for some reason - decide to ignore this valuable piece of advice, I recommend reading the other hubs that were published as an answer to this request.
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Nothing wrong with plans. In most cases however (regardless the subject) they just shouldn't be executed :)
LOL! I love it! There's a comedian who does this joke: Why should I get married? It's cheaper to just find a woman I hate and buy her a house.
I've been divorced THREE TIMES. I give up. I am completely incapable of the institution. Bill and I are not married, and we are very happy. I think for me part of the problem is that when I'm married it's easy to just fall into a role, the wifey thing--if I'm not married, I'm actually being who I am a bit more. I can't speak for others though.
Also, I think the institution is suffering. If you look at plain statistics, it's not a good bet anymore. In years past I think it worked better because women died in childbirh at young ages (no divorce there) and women also couldn't get good jobs, except as maids, seamstresses, or whores. Now if you get tired of a man you can just leave, and vice versa. People used to be more locked in due to practical considerations.
Great. I made this Request because my own Uncle living in Portland got divorced twice. There seems like too many personal disagreements between couples in the US. I asked them the reason and they simple said - " Things are not that rosy as they look from far away". Divorce is something that is too rare in India.
Pam, I agree that in the past it was much and much harder to get divorced. Both the public moral and the circumstances prevented that. The marriage provided a level of security. So a woman would rather stay married to a complete *sshole than start a new life at a bare minimum.
As far as the role-thing is concerned, that’s all in your head, isn’t it? And that’s thanks to centuries of conditioning. The archetypes of husband and wife have been depicted in so many ways, for such a long time that we collectively don’t know any better.
I just couldn’t resist answering the request, guidebaba. And a serious answer would have cost me way too much time and reflection. In “Divorce is destined. Deal with it.” I go into the topic in a more serious way, although I still can’t offer the ready-to-cook recipe to keep your relationship healthy. I doubt whether such a recipe exists. Many people will try to make us believe that they have the answers. Often in the form of “ten things to do”, but at the end of the day we’re always, ALWAYS talking about a connection between two UNIQUE people. If a couple wants to keep their marriage working they should find THEIR OWN conditions that need to be in place or consult a therapist. Advice ilke this doesn’t come from books or hubs.
Thank you for all the explanation.
You're most welcome, I enjoyed writing this.
The funniest part to me is that when I read your title, not getting married is the only way I saw as truly avoiding divorce. I'll get married one day, but since I believe in the words that are in the vows of marriage, marriage won't be something I'm going to jump into carelessly. Good hub!
Even though we 'jump in' after careful consideration and with the best of intentions, there will be no guarantees, talented_ink. But I do hope that you'll meet the right one and that it will be a rewarding and valueable experience.
"rewarding and valueable experience" - Nice
That's how I look back at my marriage. I don't see it as a failure, even though we have divorced. I have learnt a lot from it, I've had countless positive experiences (among which a beuatiful daughter) and it has broadened my world.
I just celebrated my 25th anniversary this year. Was it by coincidence or fate? That is the question. Do I have a secret recipe? HELL NO!!!!
Congratulations, Dottie. Good for you! It's probably coincifate ;)
The way I see Ananta65, 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous heartbreak than take arms against against a sea of loneliness. I knew reading Hamlet would come in handy someday.
O yes, good ol' William wrote his best after a lot of wine ;)
heard this one liner when i was a kid...but still those lines make lot of sense indeed..in a true way...wish many people followed it...
Unfortunately (or not) there's more to life than 'making sense' :)
I predicted the answer, but it was a great, super, wonderful read!!! smiles are on my face, and this has been a ruff week, so this is greatly appreciated!!
on a more somber note, as somse of your informationw as somber, I am reminded of many many kids who came into my home from domestic violence. Sometimes, parents argued so much over the kids that neither one got them. Divorce is a painful issue, thinking of the kids first, would help somse couples focus on the important.
That was exactly the intention, just to get a smile. I've seen the grief and pain caused by divorces. As you can read in my other hubs on the subject, I think we adults should treat divorces in a mature way. It will not only keep the children from harm, but ourselves too. Thanks for commenting!
sorry for the typos...i typed in the dark ( small excuse ) as i always do in the morning and late night. fingernails got in the way. whine whine ok, I'll just fess up, I misstyped. =)
Got your point. But it's always for the person to decide and face what his or her choices end up to be. Will check out your other hubs, too.
As long as the meaning and intention come across, it's ok with me, Marisue :) My typing and English won't be flawless all of he time either :)
This hub was merely humorous than serious, Betherickson. You're right, we all make our own decisions in life. And we all have to deal with how these choices turn out.
How absolutely true Ananta. I was divorced ( not got divorced) after 34 years. So who can tell and who can predict what the future holds. Great Hub. I liked your take on The Secret!
Thanks Sixtyorso. I divorced two years ago, after some 13 years. Maybe I should have followed my own advice, but on the other hand... it was a learning experience :)
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Lazur says:
11 months ago
damn... *throws away the plans for a marriage proposal*
*lol*