I am currently engaged with my girlfriend. We have been together for less than one year, and we are going to get married at the end of the year. My girlfriend and I have very strong personalities, we fight and argue a lot, but at the end of the day we are the happiest couple in the world! So you ask me: How? Why? What does it take to be a good boy or girlfriend?

Well, many people will say that it depends on the "chemistry" between the couple. I don't believe so. Of course you need chemistry, but more than that, is the decision of "I will love and stay with him/her" that makes the difference. I really love my girlfriend and I know she is the woman of my life. I decided that we are going to stay together come hell or high water. Of course you can't make such decision if you don't love you partner! However, the problem is that many people do love his/her partners, but do not make this decision, ending up alone or married with a person they don't really love.

Love is beautiful, hot and sexy, but you are always going to have problems. It is exactly when the problems arrive (and the love went out), that the decision of "staying together no matter what" will kick out the problems and bring back the love. So, if you love your partner, make this decision!

We know that love comes from the heart, but to be a good boy/friend you need to use your brains! The advice about "follow your heart" isn't going to help you much. If you are a boy, remember that sometimes it is nice to call your girlfriend just to say hello and ask if she's OK. If you are a girl, remember that you boyfriend does love you even when he spent all the Sunday playing cards with his friends. My girlfriend always comes late, but I learned to understand this. That is how she is. I just say "You are late, again" with a smile in my face and so I kiss her. She knows that she shouldn't be late, but she knows I love her, and I am not going to fight because she’s late, since this is a minor problem. But it could turn into a huge problem if I get pissed off because she always comes late. When I am working, I just focus so much on the work, that a completely forget about her. She understands that. She still argue about that sometimes, I guess it’s woman nature, but we always talk about the issue e try to find the best solution. So, you have brains, right? Use it! Brains were not designed only for Math or Science. You can be a so much better boy/girlfriend if you just think a little bit!

Reading about how to have a good relationship is my last advice. Here in Brazil we have a very nice book call "Why men make sex and women make love". The title is funny, but the book is very good. It explains the differences between men and women, helping you to understand better you partner. I am sure you guys can find similar book written in English at Amazon.com. Don't go for the crap self-help stuff. Try to find the good ones. The more you read about it the more you understand it. Also, reading is a very good habit!

1. Make the decision: I am going to stay with my girl/boyfriend no matter what, and I am going to be the best boy/girlfriend ever!
2. Use your brains! Love comes from the heart, but brains solve problems!
3. Read and inform yourself about it. The more you know the better you are!
4. Love her/him!
   

Have you found any mistakes or strange usages in my text? That's because I'm not an English native speaker. If you want to help me improving my English skills, feel to correct my mistakes! Just leave a comment. You will help me very much, and my future Hubs are going to be much better! Thanks! If you don't want to correct anything, just enjoy the article and leave you opinion!