create your own

How to deal with problems in life?

80
rate or flag this page

By jacobkuttyta


problem?
problem?

How to deal with problems in life?

One of the common complaints we hear from the people surrounded us are problems they are facing. Every day and everywhere there is problems. Many times we find it hard to stay happy. When one problem is solved, another one comes up.

People have money problems, work problems, Relationship problems, family problems, health problems..... the list goes on. And we tempt to think that people who are happy and successful are having less problem than us. Looking at the successful people we say, look, they don't have much problem. They have money they needed, they have job they love, they have the successful business, they have loving family etc. Everything going to their way. That is why they are happy. But the reality is that the more successful you are, the more problems you have to face. The more successful, the more challenges, The more successful, the more risk they have to take.

The number of problems that they face are making them successful. In India, for leading a peaceful life people go to the forest or lonely places like mountains or valleys to sit there and meditate. They are called "Sadu" or "Sanyasi". They leave behind their obligation to the family or relatives. They are happy and peaceful. They are running away from life. The other group they do not have problems are the people rest in peace at graveyard! Rest every one has problems.

No wonder, you would be happy, if everything goes well with you.

Young and old, rich and poor, successful and unsuccessful, all have problems. The difference is the level of their problems. Rich and successful have big problems. Poor and unsuccessful have small problems. Still they all have problems which they can face. Successful people are successful just because they are ready to face challenges and large scale problems.

Poor are poor just because they are not ready to face challenges and problems which rich people are ready to face.  That is the difference.  Winning the US elections make Barack Obama very happy.  As a new US president, he has to face bigger challenges.  He has to do right and innovative things, otherwise he will loose his position.  If he has to keep his position, he has to face new challenges.  He has to more careful about his work and dictions which he makes every day.   Looking at him, we may say he is lucky, happy and successful.  But, I think, as a US president, he has more stress than he was an ordinary citizen.

"How can we find happiness in life"   you may ask "if life is loaded with full of problems?"  The answer is find happiness in dealing with your problems.  Learn to laugh at your problems in our journey.  Don't take life so seriously.  We must remember the key strategy of the greatest philosopher ever lived in this world.

"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?   "And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?'

On the other hand we need problems.  They will make us grow.

Problems are there to make us grow and learn.  When you face a problem, it is an indication that we need to change our way of life or improve ourselves and change our behavior.  If you are fighting with your spouse or partner, no matter whose fault it may seem to be, it is an indication that you need to change the way you behave and communicate with your spouse.

As a responsible husband/wife, if you decided to evaluate yourself and choose to take  some positive actions like spending more time with them, showing more love, appreciating your partner more, listening with your heart and communicating honestly you would solve the problem and end up as a better person yourself.  You would grow when you face problems.

If you have money problems, it is an indication that you need to improve the way you spend your money.  You need to analyze your financial status and learn to manage your money.  Learn to avoid unnecessary expenses, and learn to purchase value for money.  Don't run after branded items and first class seats.  By analyzing and correcting your way of spending and investing, you have gown.  You learned from your problem.  So there must be problems for the growth. It make us grow into a better person.  When we grow in that level, life will take you to the another level of success.  So problems are the steps to your growth and success. It will get you into a successful business or having a love life in your relationship.

When you avoid problems or not dealing with your problems properly means you are growing downwardly.

Let me explain. When you having a small fight in your family, instead of dealing with it properly, you can run away or ignore and start blaming others. Then these problem will grow day by day, which will brake your relationship. Then you enter into another relation hopping a better life. But very soon you will find the same problem in the worst form. If you ignore the knock of the life, life will come with a bat to hit you. If you avoid that also and not changing, life will hit you with something heavier than the bat and crush you. Your growth will be downward and you will grow to a worst person in life. We see such shattered and bitter persons around us. So be careful when you face problems.

When you have money problems, it is a knock from the life. If you avoid or ignore it, very soon you will become bankrupt. You know Mike Tyson earned around $ 300 million in his boxing Carrier but lost everything and filed for bankruptcy in 2003 owing to a debt of $ 27 million. There are a number of successful persons out there who lost their fortune by wiled life. They are successful in one area, but not successful in another area of life.

Unless you change yourself, the same problems will come in your way from every walk of your life.

If you learn and change, life will take you to another level of success.

Have you ever noticed that some people keep on experiencing the same problem in every company they are working and in every relationship they are entered into. They often fail to realize that they are the ones who creating the problem consciously or unconsciously. Instead of blaming others, they need to change them self. What they need to do is change themselves.

Solve it when it is small.

Problems starts with small arguments, ignoring it, occasional fights, ignoring it, then it happens frequently and you fell into bitter fight which will end up in separation or end of the relation. See, problems also grow day by day.

Successful people know how to deal with problem when it is small. That is why they are happy and successful. They do not have much problems.

Successful people know how to manage their money when they face small money problems. Start act on it. Deal with it. Correct it.

When you have small health problem, manager your diet. Deal with it. You will become successful, healthy millionaire, with a happy relationship very soon

If you are looking for reduce your fat please click here

Print   —   Rate it:  up  down  flag this hub

Comments

RSS for comments on this Hub

habee profile image

habee  says:
3 weeks ago

Thumbs up! Good advice.

RevLady profile image

RevLady  says:
3 weeks ago

I am not sure I agree with all you stated, but I do agree that we need to deal head on with issues as they arise, lest they become compounded and your find you life spinning out of control. I'm with habee, Thumbs up!

"Quill"  says:
3 weeks ago

Problems are only that simply problems, sometimes we blame others but most of the time we need to look, listen and learn.

Our problems leave us feeling alone as often as not, but we are never alone, Christ is right there with us. All we need to do is reach out and lean on Him.

Thought provoking hub, but again we all deal with things in a different way...mine is with Christ at my side.

Blessings

r2moo2 profile image

r2moo2  says:
3 weeks ago

Some advices are really good. Just that not everything can be solved by dealing with it.

And not everyone is going to have a million dollars in their bank.

Good hub anyways!

hryt4  says:
3 weeks ago

rich people do not have bigger problems that poor people. I consider not knowing where your next meal will come from a bigger problem than divorcing your 3rd golddigger wife. obviously we all have problems but human suffering is universal, whether rich or poor everyone is seeking something in life. the point is life is hard for everyone this is what motivates us to keep going from day to day.

aizwan_ali profile image

aizwan_ali  says:
3 weeks ago

hey good advice! please post more like this

GPAGE profile image

GPAGE  says:
3 weeks ago

Interesting hub. I think in this worlds struggling economy that everyone has the same problems nomatter what the scale is. Rich or poor. GPAGE

jacobkuttyta profile image

jacobkuttyta  says:
3 weeks ago

Dear all,

Thanks you verymuch for your comments.

Thanks once again from the depth of my heart.

fatima  says:
3 weeks ago

really good advice..thanx alot

Dame Scribe profile image

Dame Scribe  says:
3 weeks ago

Good tips. :)

tim-tim profile image

tim-tim  says:
3 weeks ago

That's right! Whatever the problem is, find a solution. If you don't, it becomes whining and worst. Problems do not go away by itself. Thanks for sharing!Great hub!

Carly52  says:
3 weeks ago

You gave some good advice. I would just like to add that it doesn't matter what back ground you come from you still end up with big and small problems. Mainly the outcome is how you handle the situation. There are also times you just have to accept what you can not change.

tvance profile image

tvance  says:
2 weeks ago

We need to deal with problems, but if we stay there trying to fix things, too long -- by the Law of Attraction we just vibrate at that level -- and soon we attract -- More of the same! Do we want more problems to fix??? No!

I'd say just "notice" that you have a problem and move on to more happier times. Give up trying to fix everything... When I came to terms with everything I have done as -- a divine experience, my life changed. My life became: Happy, happy, happy!

more hints at my hub... "giving up mind chatter!"

Hope Wilbanks profile image

Hope Wilbanks  says:
2 weeks ago

Very nice hub!

Submit a Comment

Members and Guests

Sign in or sign up and post using a hubpages account.


optional


  • No HTML is allowed in comments, but URLs will be hyperlinked
  • Comments are not for promoting your hubs or other sites

working