Finding love has always been the ultimate desire of everyone, yet, many fail to come across this elusive endeavor more so being with Mr. / Ms. Right. Its always a matter of “love at the wrong time” or having the “right feelings with the wrong person”. Whatever it is, what I want to share here is about that near perfect or ideal person whom we want to be with, and I having the familiarity of the topic will be talking about my experience and those people around me; First, let me give a brief description of my “encounters”. I first dated when I was 17…uhh ohhh of course, many will say I’m a late bloomer, Yes! Why wouldn’t ? I was so skinny and besides I don’t have the urge to do that until that time when I started wearing a bra (I did when I was almost 16), for me that was the right time to be "noticed" you know.So, it begun, it was like at first a group dating, which before was the trend as people then, were kinda conservative no serious involvement until I turned 23 and we got married five years later which ended in annullment. After, 2 years of being separated, I started dating again,and surprisingly found out the same thing ...Anyways, it took me years and almost gave up until I finally, found Mr. Right and who would ever thought that he would be from the other side of the planet that makes me deemed to trust in "magic" the enchantment of that extra ordinary feeling called "LOVE". No matter how mysterious it is,it requires a process just like science and I can sum up in 5 ways in a particular order as a result of my labor of love and eventually living with "the one"...

1. Ask the Lord’s guidance : God has all the plan in his right time, as HE claim; "ask and ye shall receive, seek and ye shall find... I was 34 years old when I broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year (actually, he's not a boyfriend,ours were just a matter of "mutual-understanding").Two months after that, I made a dialogue with the Lord one night, asking him for a "sign" if I couldn't find a Boyfriend at 35, that means Im bound to be single, then came June 5,2007- my 35th birthday and I thought that the time had lapsed,then,I met my CN just a month after my 35th birthday!

2. You cannot give what you do not have: Love be gets Love...if you wanna find Love, plant it in your heart, how can you attract someone nice and adorable if you don't know how to show affection- smile,care, be kind and it's like magnet you'll see one day it'll draw just the same.Though sometimes things doesn't always go the way we wanted them to be,yet we always have a choice to be sweet or to feel bitter.

3. Set standards- now that you have worked out your"aspirations" with the Lord, asked your self, what we'll he be like? characteristics of that person,values, be definite and you'll be surprised what may come along;

4. Be realistic : after setting your goals be sure you take some practical consideration; are you hoping for a "Brad Pitt looking guy?" or a millionaire "Bill Gates type" ohh..No! you may end up having false hopes,it could be sensible if you are a "Jessica Alba" or "Paris Hilton" who often rub shoulders with those type of men, but, being an ordinary lady, you may wanna consider ordinary guys,but,of course, please don't get me wrong high hopes are not bad at all but be sure its probable.

5. Believe and Don’t stop believing! Now that you have come up to this all, pray unceasingly,trust,sit back and have faith to believe that all of the love that you'd given away will soon come back one day...

However, I wanna say my last words: no matter how bad one wanted to be in a relationship, don't be too obvious like a "desperatley seeking Susan" it will just lower your market value as it said..cheer up and hang around!!!