As a young woman you naturally have a desire to be relevant particularly among your girl/woman folk. One of the ways by which women relieve themselves of tension or address their feeling of inadequacy is to have a boyfriend. If you want a trophy for a boyfriend, then any huge, well built guy with a handsome face and a fresh breath will do, even if he has character and personality issues. However my guess is you want a guy who is caring, intelligent, confident and talented, one who has a strong desire to make something productive out of his available resources. A boyfriend who is real and has a good behavior to match his other attractive qualities especially his looks (if he has it) and his mind as well is an ideal choice. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying you will find a perfect choice, but finding one you will be happy having is what you should aim for. By the way don’t set unrealistic expectations like if you are selfish yourself, requesting a very caring person for a boyfriend is highly unrealistic since you are not likely to reciprocate his kindness towards you.

But before you say I need a boyfriend you need to ask yourself these questions and answer them as honestly as possible.

Why do I need a boyfriend?

Do you need a boyfriend because you feel mature enough to have sex? Or perhaps every girl or young woman around you has one and so you don’t want to be left out of the action. Maybe you believe having a boyfriend demonstrates your level of attractiveness to men and hence should give your ego a real boost. If any of these is or are your reason(s) of wanting to have a boyfriend I regret to say dear sister that you are in this business for the wrong reason. You definitely want a boyfriend who will stick with you through thick and thin not one who simply wants you for sex. You want a boyfriend who will feel emotionally responsible for you and not a shallow loud mouth, bragging two timing Casanova.

What should my boyfriend be like?

What you should aim for at the very least is a boyfriend who understands you and whom you also understand very well so you can build a fruitful and long lasting relationship together. He should be a person who has similar interests with you or who is adaptable to diverse interests and lifestyles. So even if you both do not like the same things you could at least learn to live with each others different tastes. Definitely he has to be mature and straight forward, not a crooked three legged sissy. He must have acceptable behaviors and manners regardless of his looks and height or frame (some ladies just lose it with well built and good looking guys). Ideally a qualified customer for this job is a man (not one with a third leg if you no what I mean) and by man I mean a MAN who can stand up and face reality without fear, who isn’t afraid to be himself, who can summon courage to accept mistakes even if he would be highly embarrassed, who can face challenges happily and who would not cry to mummy when someone really pisses him off. A real man is the author of his destiny, making choices for and by him self and standing by the outcomes of those choices and actions.

How can I attract him to myself?

It is very often said birds of identical feathers flock together. People with similar interests and expectations tend to relate well with each other. So it follows that guys who love to have fun will naturally find fun loving girls more attractive than the quieter and seemingly boring type. Although there are exceptions to these most times girls are attracted to guys that meet their own expectations of what men should be like likewise serious guys or real men are attracted to the qualities they desire to see in women. Players on the other hand can’t be bothered about qualities, all they want is to take any fine looking, well shaped babe to bed and if you fit their bill of a bedmate, you will likely be their next target.

To attract the right guy first you have to be yourself.

Put on clothes you are comfortable with. Do not overdress but dress to look as attractive as possible without being seductive or profane in appearance. You are not in competition with any girl or woman to attract the tallest, richest and most handsome guy in the world, rather what you are after is a real guy. So be true to yourself do not pretend to be who you are not.

Next pursue your hobbies and interests with a passion.

There is no need to hide your love for anything because you do not want to be seen as being odd or queer, if you love mountain biking feel free to bike. As long as your interests and hobbies do not infringe on other people’s well being you are good to go.

Go out to places where people of your kind usually meet or interact.

Maybe you love seeing movies, you could visit local cinemas and video clubs occasionally or frequently depending on how much time you have and how well off you are. People who love the same type of movies like you do and have other similar hobbies are often times your kind of people although there are exceptions. Associate with them so you could learn more things from them.

Feel free to start off conversation with people you are attracted to.

Some guys may be attractive to you but might seem aloof not because they are shy, but possibly because they do not like small talk, if you can engage them productively in healthy conversation it might be the start of a remarkable discovery of who they really are.

Join online social and dating networks.

Many online dating services work like match makers helping to link compatible pairs together. When you visit such places though you have to be careful as many impostors are out there waiting for whom to hurt, however many real guys visit dating networks in search of a compatible girlfriend you just might be a good match for one of them. The more people you get to meet and know the more likely you are to be found by someone who is attracted to you but of course you also would need to find that person attractive based on the qualities you have set out in the guy you wish to have as a boyfriend. 

Associate with match makers in real time as well some of whom might include your friends, siblings or colleagues. You could also talk with relationship experts.

Tips

Naturally with time the right guy will show up, so don’t be impatient else you become desperate rather wait patiently for your Mr. right but make sure you do your home work very well.