Real Love is something that is quite unique.  It's simplicity is perfect in all its form.  It is best described in 1 Corinthians 13 where it states:  Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails. 

These words are worth your time to "study" to analyze.  To get inside of you and your heart.  If you are in search of "real love" then you first must know what it is in order to recognize it when you do see it.  You need to be familiar with it, live it in your own life, accept it as "truth" and take nothing less than in your life and the lives of those you love and care.  Once you begin to meditate on "real love" then it will get inside of your mind, flow through your heart, and soul and act out in your hands and words.  That's how God's word is alive and living today. 

Begin with loving yourself first.  Because when you learn to love you and really begin to love you, then all else will fall into place.  Respect is very important in love.  Respecting yourself, you mind, your body, your soul - your life.  Feed your mind with the Word of God everyday, some way, sign up for bible verses to be sent to you via email.  Take a minute each day and just love God for a minute.  Respect your body.  Be cautious of what you put in your mouth, moderation is the best, allow yourself your pleasures once or twice a week and keep yourself on a disciplined path the other five days. (I know it may be a struggle with this one as I myself have trouble here too) But, try.  The effort makes all the difference.  Also, be cautious of what you wear.  You can be sexy, and cute, without showing all your God given gifts to the world.  Study different styles that show off your unique qualities and enhance what you have been blessed with - no need to reinvent the wheel or to be trying to keep up with the "younger styles of today" - the goal here is to be a lady.  In all ways.

If you have nice hair, keep it up, get it trimmed regularly, keep it washed, conditioned, colored.  As a woman's hair is her crown and glory.  If it is your nails that is your one of your fine qualities, keep them up - get a regular manicure, or do it yourself at home.  Just learn the difference between "looking nice" and "standing out."  You do want to keep them up and enhance your better qualities, but you do not want to stand out.  Your goal is to be as close to natural and clean as you can.  Image is the first impression of anyone about you.  So, here is where love can begin and shine its brightest.

Encouragement is necessary for us all.  Sometimes we do not have a person to do that for us and the bible says that we should encourage ourselves.  Sometimes you just have to look that girl in the mirror and tell her a few things or two.  Let her know that even though things may be a certain way, it will not stay this way always.  Remind yourself of your strengths, past accomplishments and the amazing things you have the ability to do.  By doing this, you will never forget just how "great you really are and your challenges will remain small in your eyes."  This is one of the most loving things you can do for yourself.  So make it a practice.  It's not silly.

Nurture and care for yourself just as you do for everybody else in your life.  I mean think of things you can do for yourself that would give you back a benefit.  Regular check ups, routine cleanings, are just a couple of things that come to mind.  But, on occasion plan something just for you to enjoy.  Maybe a massage?  Maybe a seminar on something you have an interest in or a painting class.  Just make it unique and only for your enjoyment. 

When you start to practice loving yourself and nurturing yourself, it changes you from the inside out into the world.  It shows everyone that you know what "real love" is all about.  It shows you have a quality about yourself.  You focus is different.  You interself is at peace because you are in control and genuinely care about yourself and your life.  These things alone are very powerful to attracting the "Mr. Right" you seek.  Real Men know a "real woman" when they see one and when they do they react. 

One other thing that is very important to helping you find your true soul mate and husband is to allow yourself the freedom to see him with your heart.  What I mean is take a few minutes in your day and just think about how he would be - your similar likes, interests, how it will feel to conversate with him about your similarities.  How good it will feel to find someone who feels the same way you do about God, families, children, true quality of living.  Someone who knows how to respect you and knows the value of trust in a relationship.  Someone with no conditions on his love for you that will love you and be in love with you from the moment he first lays eyes on you to the day you part.  The intimacy you will share - how special it will be - because it will be blessed by God himself.  How you will feel about building a life with this special man.  The man that God himself, tore a piece of his own heart and made with his own two hands just for you.  Be blessed and enjoy what God has in store for your future. 

If you do these things and open your heart sincerely, God will provide and you will never have to look for Mr. Right - because he will find you and you will know its him because you will not find anything wrong with him - he'll be the one and God's work will be done.  Amen