How to fit in a new country?

I believe that I have some gypsy blood running inside me as I cannot stay in a place for too long. Thankfully, I have been blessed with a husband that also likes ‘seeing the world' so together we have travelled a lot and have set up home in different countries.

The first time that you make the big move is always the most difficult. After that, the second time is easier and by your third time moving countries you are an expert expat, even looking forwards to your next move.

My family has always been a bit nomadic. I was only 3 months old the first time we moved from the coast in Peru to the jungle! And for as long as I remember because of my dad's work we were always on the move. Later on, this way of life continued and now married with two children we are settling in our third country together.

This last time, setting home in France has been a delight. Despite not knowing the language when we arrived and not knowing anyone, I can proudly say that after three years we are fully integrated into French life. How did we do it? Here some tips:

1. Learn the language. It doesn't matter where you go in the world; always try the native language before asking whether English is spoken. The local people will appreciate your efforts and help you along. Carry a small dictionary in your pocket or handbag for when you are really stuck or use body language, this will ease tension and they will remember you for a longer time!

2. Do not assume that people in the new place where you have just moved don't speak your language. In Europe there are several languages spoken and learnt at school and even if someone does not speak English they might understand it very well. So do not use your language to be rude... sure as heck, they will understand you!

3. Keep up your old hobbies and pastimes. If you always enjoyed gardening or painting, join the local clubs and you will have a new bunch of friends who share your passion.

4; If you do not have a hobby yet, start one! In France I started cookery classes with the local "rural families" club. I not only learnt a lot about French cuisine, but I also made lots of friends and they were happy to teach me the language and usages around here.

5. Join in local events - check the local tourist office for local fêtes, charity events etc., and try to go at least occasionally. After a while you will notice that you start finding some of the same people and they will start seeing you as part of their community.

6. Find out local customs and rules. Neighbours will be happy to inform you about almost anything!

7. Introduce yourself to people and make it known that you want to be sociable. If you have children at school, invite their friends to play at home. Go to school meetings, ask the other mothers about school dinners or school events it will give you something to talk about.

8.If in doubt, ask. Whether it is etiquette or administration ask a friend or neighbour to help you out. Most people like to help, even if it is just out of curiosity!

9. Relax - you will be forgiven if you make a mistake. People will be interested in you because you are foreign and ‘different'.

10. Smile, say hello to neighbours and shop owners. Remember that a smile is universal, doesn't cost a penny and gains friends.

Good luck!