How to get over a crush
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How Can You Get Over A Crush?
You have liked the same guy for a very long time, you feel that he likes you too. The two of you are always flirting back and forth. You wanted to make something more from your friendship, you thought he did also. Then it happens...you and your friends are out one night and you spot him kissing another woman and it is a woman that you know. After this night you hear that he has been seen all over town with a lot of different women. You now feel hollow inside, you feel like crying every time that you see him. You really believed that there was something there between you two, now you know that it will never happen. Now is the time to get over your crush.
You could take this advice: The only thing that can cure a crush is time and tell yourself that this guy is nothing more than a playboy.
The only way to get over your crush is to let go of your idealized version that you had made up for him in your heart. It is no doubt that you are crushing on this guy that you made out of wishful thinking and very hopeful expectations. It's time to face reality...this is a guy who didn't like you well enough to date you! What you felt was meaningful to you (all that flirting), was probably just a way for this man to get in some shameless female attention.
Yes, you have all these ideas on why he didn't choose to date you, but you know what...when it comes down to the nitty gritty...he just didn't want to date you! You need to let go of that silly idea that the "cosmic forces" are keeping the two of you apart. Because, as long as you feel that outside influences are keeping the both of you from getting together, you may never get over this guy. There was only one force keeping the both of you apart and that force was him.
There really is no trick on letting go of an idealized person. You can let go of people very easily... hope...is not that easy to let go of.
For a time, you need to arrange that you not see him, talk to him, or have any contact with him whatsoever. Lock yourself into a no-contact rule. Go out of your way not to see him or talk to him. Make it point to not be in places that you know that he will be. Yes, time and distance will lessen any intensity that you feel, and this will happen gradually.
As far as playboys go, some women just want to feel that they are special and unique enough to uncover a playboy's heart of gold through a pile of mud...and turn him into a nice guy. I feel that some women think their worth lies in how well they can "help" somebody or "change" them with the power of love.
Ladies, digging through the mud rarely turns up a heart of gold! The mud shores may be somebody else's treasure, but if this guy presents himself as mud...there is no point for digging for this treasure he doesn't want you to have. All you will get is muddy hands and a broken heart.
How Do You Mend Your Broken Heart After A Breakup?
Your boyfriend or your husband tells you that he loves you and that you hold a special place in his heart. Then BAM! Out of nowhere he sitting there telling you how he has met another woman and he doesn't want to be with you anymore...he wants to be with her. He dumped you just like that, you didn't even see it coming...he ripped your heart right out of you.
It is really hard when somebody you thought loved you leaves you suddenly. It hurts like HELL and it feels like the END OF THE WORLD. Love makes you vulnerable and this man will be a part of your memory. Getting hurt is part of being human, it can happen to anybody and everybody is vulnerable. Facing the pain is the most difficult part of the process. The good news is that many people have gone through this pain and they have survived. It may seem impossible at first, but you will get there too.
How do you help mend your broken heart? Pamper yourself and do things that remind yourself that you are a good person: Treat yourself to a manicure, eat veggies and fruit, buy a special gift for a friend or relative to show them you care, take a long walk, and remember that things always look better in the morning. When things have changed and you have moved on you will not believe that you wasted your tears on this guy.
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Thank you Earth Angel! I have had that darn crush bug before, I know it really hurts trying to get over one. It's me I'm talking about, I was that woman.
I'm glade i read that.maybe it will help me get over my crush.I had a crush on him for a few months.i'm in high school.I know hes been dating other girls.I am friends with a girl he use to date,he dating some girl i don't know right now.i think hes goes out with a girl for a few weeks then stops going out with her.he keeps leeving these signs that makes me think he likes me.if u can eamil me back i can explain what he does.he does't act like the one you were talking about.he mostls just stars at me but theres more signs then that.
Good advice. Those who ditch a girl after they have 'conquered' her, let them go.
They are not worth it! But when does the heart listen to the head?
I have been crushing on this girl for a long time. She is someone I have worked with and up until a little while ago, just saw me as a friend and ultra sweet guy. Recently we begin seeing each other, unofficially for a while and it all felt surreal. She ended it, moved and I can't stop thinking about her. How can I get past her as I haven't been able to transfer these feelings to another lady when all I can think about is her?
Do things that would distract you or occupy your time so that you wont spend it thinking about her.eg. PS2, Work, Sports, Sports on tv things like that.You know generally things you like that will take your mind off things.If you have her on your cellphone address book or in your e-mail contact list etc. delete the contacts as well. I mean you can write them down and put them in the back of a drawer but dont have them around where they can be seen frequently.As a matter of fact get rid of everything around you that brings back memories of her.
Its like giving up cigarette smoking go cold turkey
Its marvelous
Been there what an experience
Yes MrMarmalde the best thing is going Cold Turkey!
hey there
THANK YOU FOR THE ADVICE. i HAVE FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE WHO I SHOULD NOT HAVE AND I NEED TO GET OVER IT SO IM GONNA USE YOUR ADVICE. I WANT HIS FACE OUTTA MY HEAD! OMG.
i have been liking thisguy for almost a year now...he's actually perfect exceptfor the part that has to do with him ditching me...we were very close before...and we'd practically spend the whole day together.. then suddenly he started hanging out with a diff crowd ..and before i knew it..he started treating me as if we were strangers to each other...it sucks so much that i still think about him a lot and it's even worse now because we'll be having more classes together.....='(
I have the same problem Sarah!
thanks heaps but i guess the best cure as you have mentioned is time n believing you'll get over it. hang in there - the tide does turn n this page has helped!!!
thanks for the advice i really have this crush and now i know why they call it a crush you really know how to give good advice thank you
thanks for the advice, but sometimes its just really hard to get over him, i tried my very best to do that but still, it's still him who I see? I'm mad at him because he made me believe that there was something there well, infact it was nothing but lies! and i cant hate him, it's too hard... even if i feel all this pain, he's still there.. help me!
I never thought getting over a guy would be this difficult. What started as a friendship just turned into a big lead on mess! I want him out of my heart, my mind, and my dreams. Thanks for the advice. This is just one of those things you have to force yourself to do. Wish me luck.
To Stephanie and lalala, I had this crush on a guy 5 years ago and he made me believe that he liked me and all that fuzzy warm goodness, then I saw him with another girl, so wrong, I thought I was going to die, but I didn't and it hurt for such a very long time. To this day every now and then I think about him for no reason at all, and think if he never had broken my heart and I did't move on from there I would have never had met my husband and had our beautiful daughter. There is someone out there for you, this I believe, and it is going to be hard for a long time, this I know, but that one guy could be holding you back from a really wonderful man and they are out there.
Thank you for posting this Dudley! It has helped tremendously! I had a crush on a guy at a store I always frequent and we finally exchanged numbers. Went on two wonderful dates, he made tentative plans with me, then POUF!!! Never gave me the reason why, never returned my texts, but whenever I was at the store, he would continue to flirt with me and even said, "Long time no talk!!!" What? I was so crushed! At first I felt I didn't need to alter my regular course of business by having to avoid the store he worked at, but in the end, I realized I needed to go cold turkey and not see him for awhile. It's a bit of an inconvenience, but worth avoiding further heartache.
In some ways, a crush is even worse than a breakup because the senes of hope is so intact because events did not play out. You are left wondering what everything could have been like. But you're right, I hardly knew the guy; it is more the fantasy in my head combined with the fact that this person was packaged in so much sexiness that made me feel there was a "cosmic connection".
I find so much hope in your last comment post, the idea that there are plenty of men out there and had it not been for this guy "rejecting" you, you would not have met the man of your life. So the heartache might have been temporary, but the effects of that crush not working out proved to be the best thing to happen to you. I know it's hard, but I'm working on getting over my crush! :)
you've given some great advice, but u c, i already tried everything. i have been crushing on the same guy for about 2 years now and i think im wasting my time. he says he doesnt have a girlfriend, but i don't beleive him. i tried likeing other guys. BETTER guys. but i always fail. he's my best friends older bro and i still feel 100% compfortable around him. he doesnt like my friends, sometimes very boring to talk to and i still cant get over him! i feel stuck.
There's this guy I met from highschool and i've liked him on and off for about 4 years and counting. i've had some relationships in between but i always found myself still thinking about him and talking to him even wen i was with someone else. i'm in university now but i still talk to and see him a lot bacause we hang out with the same people. i really think i'm starting to crush on him again, but i know i shouldn't because i just recently ended a relationship with one of our mutual friends. what should i do? usually, i'm the one initiating the conversations, which made me think that he isn't interested, but lately, he's been msging me wenever i don't talk to him. i really want to get over him but i think i want something with him as well. should i go for it or just move on?
Great advice Dudley! I feel like you speak about my experience. There is this guy I have a crush on and we flirted for a while. He started all that flirting, I felt like he was chasing me. I finally gave in and flirted back, I started to build expectations. I saw this magical connections between us. We were out with our friends recently. I was such a fool thinking that was the night he'll ask me out or at lest take my phone number, but I saw him with another girl, She was all over him and they spent all night together. And he was still flirting with me! I sent myself on a guilt trip thinking I did something wrong or maybe he is shy. Maybe he can't get rid of her. I know now he is a player who likes female attention, but I am sill trying to get over this guy. Thanks Dudley, your advice is really helpful.
Thank you!
I've had this crush on a guy for a while now and there were deffinite flirting (and some touching...) and I am friends with his sister and she was talking about his new girlfriend one night....
this article was just what I needed.
oh wow, this is such a great posting. Thanks for the reality check, I totally needed it.
Drew looks at me,I fake a smile so he won't seeWhat I want and I'm needingEverything that we should beI'll bet she's beautiful,That girl he talks aboutAnd she's got everything that I have to live withoutDrew talks to me,I laugh cause it's so damn funnyThen I can't even seeAnyone when he's with meHe says he's so in love,He's finally got it right,I wonder if he knows he's all I think about at nightHe's the reason for the teardrops on my guitarThe only thing that keeps me wishing on a wishing starHe's the song in the car I keep singing, don't know why I doDrew walks by me,Can he tell that I can't breathe?And there he goes,So perfectly,The kind of flawless I wish I could beShe'd better hold him tight,Give him all her loveLook in those beautiful eyesAnd know she's lucky causeHe's the reason for the teardrops on my guitarThe only thing that keeps me wishing on a wishing starHe's the song in the car I keep singing, don't know why I doSo I drive home alone,As I turn out the lightI'll put his picture down and maybeGet some sleep tonight'Cuz He's the reason for the teardrops on my guitarThe only one who's got enough of me to break my heartHe's the song in the car I keep singing, don't know why I doHe's the time taken up,But there's never enoughAnd he's all that I need to fall into.Drew looks at me,I fake a smile so he won't see
I had a fliting thing with this guy for about six weeks and when i thought we were finally getting close, he moved out of nowhere. The worst thing is that he didn't say a thing about it. He just left and i found out about it two weeks later.
I had this thing for a guy that I work with for 5 months, and he had girlfriend and his girlfriend always come up there. But he had a thing for me to, I was worried about how much we use to flirt when his girlfriend wasn't up there. So I quit working there like 3 months ago and i am still have a crush on him.
i've liked this guy for 2 years or 3 & im a high schooler.
he was very popular & all the girls liked him.
from the begining i knew that we have no chance of being together cuz at that time i was more of a shy girl & didn't have confednt .
i remember i used to stare at him alot & sometimes he does 2
& then i thought maybe he likes me 2.
but then after i hear from a friends that he is going out with this girl & i was really crushed. & after that all i did was ignor him & try to stay away from whereever he was. But it was painfull & it still is. it's been 2 years now
& i haven't saw him since i graduated from junier high, & i recently saw him today & i remember my heart beating really fast like it did while back then
& i realized that im not over him, but i don't want to fall for his tricks again
so plz if someone out there knows how i can get over this guy, plz help cuz i really want this pain in my heart to go away so plz help & give me some advice
It's difficult, because as much as you've set your hopes aside, you can't stop wanting it to happen, not because you have any reason to, well other than the thought of having someone i suppose. It's been the same guy for about three years, on and off i guess, but still. Sometimes he's so close, I can just tilt my head back and feel as if nothing in the world could affect me. And as sound as this advice may be...i have every class with him. every single one. so it's pretty unavoidable. Something that was so fun and brightened my days has now turned into something much deeper and vindictive. Get over him? I hope so.
Great Advise ,
ive had a crush on this one guy for about a month and he said he might like me too, but the thing is that recently my friend has started to like him and now he doesnt know what to do . its like ever since she started liking him he started liking her more. and its upsetting any advise?
me and this guy have been flirting a lot for about 2 or 3 months .. at first i didnt really like him but i think he liked me ... at least i thought. we get to talking more and more and the more we talk the more i like him . i think he has feelings for me. but recentyly he just had sex with an other girl.. i was really heart broken i didnt talk to him and i told him we should just be friends ... but now we are talking again . he says he is sorry and that he was drunk and blah blah blah although he says he dosent have feelings for her sooo i have no idea what to do .. should i drop him? i like him a lot ! but is he worth it?
my bfjust dumped me after saying he loved me i will never get over it
perspective--you all need it. you have food clothing shelter hobbies projects passions--you have the world...a crush (that leads nowhere) is a BIG threat to all of this and the best thing that you can do is focus on your passions/hobbies/endeavors--these are the greatest gifts...when you are truly focussed, then the true loves (who are also focussed) will manifest something real. it is a sin to sacrifice a reality for a fantasy. as for "high school" age crushes, you are too young for serious comittments and need to focus on the fun of flirting/dating for now...
i recently made a few new friends who said they might be able to help me in finding a boyfriend. they had introduced me to their friend(lets call him #1), when we went over to his house. the friends i was with had asured me that he was single but when we had arrived i noticed that he was with somebody(lets call him #2). i was confused and amazed in the lack of distrust i had for these people so early in our new friendship. the friends i was with had said that #1 and 2 were going to break up soon, and knowing my STUPID STUPID self i decided to stick it out and possibly date #1 when they had broken up. but then another problem had surfaced. i realized that i actually started to crush on #2 instead of the original person (#1) my friends were trying to get me together with. later on that night i found out they were engaged! i was infuriated with my "friends" for even introducing me to an engaged couple. i felt like a home wrecker. later that night #2 (my crush) started txting me and talking to me behind his feyonce(#1)'s back. i felt bad but i realized that we could still be friends and i would have to ignore my feelings like i usually do. then the txting became somewhat flirting and he invited me over to hang out with him and his feyonce that following weekend. i agreed. i didnt know that subcontiousley i was falling for this person. what a mistake. the several times we all hung out together #1 started to catch on that i liked #2 more than him. and it quickly led into something i didnt expect, which was they were EACH cheating on oneanother behind eachothers back with me! i felt horrible and still do. so i sat #1 down and explained to him that i liked his feyonce more then him and that i didnt think i should hang out with them any longer. i havent felt like this about too many people in my life and its a shame that i fell for #2 considering his circumstances. so when they each found out what happened they had flipped out on me and we all three got in a HUGE fight. then they realized that they needed to fix the problem between them and that we could all still be friends. so idk what to do now, i mean, im falling for this person and I JUST ABSOLUTELY CANNOT! its horrible, heartless, cold, heart-numbing, and WRONG but i cant stop. i cant change the way i feel about #2 no matter how hard i try and what i try to do.
I'm a junior high schooler.See when I was 11 I had this crush on a shy but cute guy.But I wasn't able to talk to him cos He is the kind of guy who usuallly doesn't talk to gilrs.Then I started to notice that he stared at me.even when i looked he held on his gaze.there was a strange flutterng feeling in my heart.he started to talk to me a few times..he acted shy and there was a strange look on his face when he talked.but now he doesn't like me anymore guesss cos i never gave him the sign thAT i liked him.i was too shy.till now too i still like him and like gazing a t him.though he soimetime notices he jus looks away and rarely talks to me and acts as a common person.But i still like him and want to b with him.and i share every class with him.he doesn't even care abt me .i feel so hurt.Waht should i do?
pls if u have any suggestions abt my problem PLEASE send a mail to kaede_11@live.com.I'll be grateful.
k well i was on a trip with my skool and another skool...
i met this really cute guy from the other skool... well we were hanging out for most of the trip then the last 3 days he totally ignored me... i asked his friends y he wasnt talking 2 me and they said he said i was annoying and i was 2 clingy... it broke my heart cause he was saying all these things, trying to kiss me and leading me on making me think we were gonna be together then that happened...
soo after 2 weeks he txted me (this is after the trip) and we were txting and i asked his wat happened and he said that we lied about that stuff he just had some "family problems" and wanted 2 hang out with his close friends... he asked me to forgive him and i did he said he still liked me and a whole bunch of cute stuff... soo we started talking about a dance that was coming up... he said i was the only girl he wanted to slow dance with and all that stuff...
at the dance he said hi to me i gave him a hug and then he totally ignored me... my friends went to talk 2 him 4 me (without telling me) and he said he only liked me as a friend... soo i was sitting and a slow song comes on and he is slow dancing with this girl... right infront of me.... he keeps breaking my heart in a million peices... it really hurts cause ive never felt this way with a guy and i really do like him... its like i cant trust anything he says anymore... wat should i do???....
this suks
it made cry
wth is wrong with u ppl
So hurt,you need to completely ignore this guy he is an inconsiderate lowlife,and you can do much better.As soon as you ignore him he'll start clinging towards you,however don't fall for anything he says....and pray about your recovery because the only person that can heal a broken heart is God.
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sorry that was a typo. i totally understand eveyrthing thats been said on this page. im feeling the exact same way. me and this dude, who has recently become pretty popular (his pretty good in looks and although is kinda rude, is pretty funny) from school (im in grade 11) had an ongoing flirting thing for about a month and a half. it made me feel special and all that jazz, escpecially cause we had had some flirting experiences before this huge one, and nothing eventuated which crushed me. so when this big flirting thing happened again, i was completely ecstatic, it was like nothing could make my day bad. it was like living on a constant high. he would text me every single day numerous times and always talk via internet. we would talk at school but not as much as we would via text/net, etc. his friends kept telling me he was keen on me and i had to agree with them he was shooting out so many signs that made me believe he was keen. we went to a few parties and flirted heaps, it was obvious he was keen. finally we hooked up at one and spent the whole party (long party!) together, mainly just talking .... i had fallen for him; he treated me like i was so special. i thought something was going to eventuate. i waited. we talked a few times after this party liek normal and all of a sudden he just pretty much stopped. i was so confused, he started treating me so different. i didnt get it at all, so i confronted him and he was like im sorry if you read me wrong but im not boyfriend material. i was absoloutely devo, but as usual with me, i laughed it off and pretended i didnt care and told him i wasnt into it that much either, lalala. i did care though and its been like 6 months and i still do. i blamed myself. it was his fault though! later i found out he was also chattin up some other chik (apparnetly) just before/at the begiinning of our ordeal, and then after our ordeal, and a month after ours finished he got a gf, but they are broken up now im pretty sure. we go to school together so it gets awkward but we chat now, though very rarely and very differently than we used to. eveyrtime he does talk to me i still feel that warm buzz in me that i used to, although im slowly resigning myself of the fact that he was the one who didnt take it further, its out of my hands, and nothing is guna eventuate. sometimes he still goes out of his way to talk to me which gets my hopes up, and i still get teh feeling he may kind of like me. i cant help but think about the whole situation 24/7, because it was never an official bf/gf it makes me wonder what could have been; it was kinda unofficial and unfinished. it distracts me from life really haha. but im getting there i guess. i keep telling myself to be the best happiest person i can be and make him realise what he has missed out on. the hope of something happening is still inside of me, im just guna have to keep telling myself to shut it out, and live life to be the happiest i can be :)
Yeah, I've been crushing on a guy since the beginning of high school. It's about three years now, and he's a year older than me. He'll be going to college next year. We've had classes together, but didn't talk a lot. I finally got around to deleting him from my FB. He'll probably just end up adding me again since he's one of the "friend whores", so him adding me really means nothing except giving him more friends.
I don't know if I jumped the gun with deleting him since today is his birthday, and I deleted him right after I wished him a happy birthday. Oh well, I'm sure he probably doesn't even know who I am.
hi um... im 11 and i like this guy his name is Zac he is 12 but wat i dont get is that 1 moment he is nice (sort of) one moment hes not (at all) and i just dont get it like hi some times like calls me baby and then jumps out at me and skares the livn daylight outa me and i am realy realy lost like i like him ALOT but i just dont get him
do positive & wise:TO PLAY BACK,ladies.
i met the same play jerk type.then i awared and started
useing femal power to confuse/seduce him.then heads uo
walk away and leave him there!it's so cool! now he only can fantasize me,but really get nothing from me.
I met a cyber whore. He took my breath away until i found out he was cyber whorin other ladies too..what a jerk..now i'm left getting over a big crush. Why did he have to turn out to be a jerk after all of our steamy conversations..BEWARE Ladies!!!
im 11 i have a crush who is 22 i llluv him he is my dream guy but he has a girl friend but i love him so much but it hurts to think about him and he is all over my computer [pics] what do i do!!!!!!!!!!
Hi, well I kind of have a problem and I really think it's time for me to get over everything.
It all started out when I liked this kid Brian during the end of 8th grade. He would flirt with me alot, and I really liked talking to him. One of our main conversations was normally about my friend Laura. He liked her, but I liked him so much I didn't care. I would always encourage Laura that she should talk to him because I knew it would make him happy. On the last day of school, he gave me a necklace. I got really excited because I thought that maybe this was a sign of him liking me.
During the summer, I met Brian's best friend Corey. He was really nice to me, and we started talking. After a couple months, he told me that he liked me. For some reason, he never asked me out.
When school started, it was our freshman year in highschool. I ended up having 2 classes with Brian and none with Corey. Of course, I still had a thing for Brian.. but at the same time I really liked Corey.
After a couple months in school, Corey went out with my friend Sasha. This really hurt me, I told Corey how I felt. I told him how I was angry with him for leading me on and telling me that he liked me.. and then just going out with another girl.
During this point of time, I was really trying to getover Corey. Since I had 2 classes with Brian, I would always tell him about Corey and he would always make me feel better. The only problem was that Brian still liked Laura from 8th grade.. When I finally got over Corey, Brian and I were best friends.
Brian and I would talk ALL THE TIME in class and I got to know him really really well. I started to realise that not only was he good looking, but also really smart, and really athletic. Of course, he would always tell me about how he liked Laura. Eventually, because of me, Brian and Laura went out.
After 2 months, they broke up. This is when I started to really really like Brian. He acted so much like he liked me. The best friend talk in class turned in to major flirting. I was so convinced that we were eventually going to be together. One weekend, I went to the pool with him and this girl Aly. At the pool, Brian and Aly were talking alot. After a couple weeks, Aly confessed to me that she liked Brian too. This really really confused me. I had no idea what to do. In my confusion, I decided to text Brian and tell him how I felt. Boy, was this a stupid decision. He never texted me back. It was like someone ripped my heart out and stomped it on the floor.
Since I saw Brian so often at school, I had to play it cool. I pretended like nothing happened and I told myself that I would let everything play itself out. Brian would still talk to me and flirt with me so I just thought that maybe he didn't get the text. The current situation between me and Aly was abnormal. Whenever we were together we would talk about brian and try to figure out who he liked more.. because he would flirt with us both.
On valentines day, I was walking to class and I saw Brian. He had a rose in his hand and he was walking towards me. I got really excited and started smiling, and then he walked right past me. I turned around and saw him give the rose to Aly. Right then and there all my hopes were smashed. He liked Aly, not me.
The next week, he asked her out. I would always try to avoid it, but I would see them kissing in the hallway. Whenever I was with Aly, she would always talk about him. This really really hurt me. In school I tried to act as normal as possible around Brian.
One weekend, Brian called me and asked me if he could comeover. Of course, I told him to come. We talked for about and hour and then I finally asked him.. "Why did you never tell me that you liked Aly?" All he did was shrug.
For some reason this really frustrated me. I really just wanted to getover him at this point. My self esteem was crashing. I would always compare myseld with me and Aly, trying to figure out what she had that I didn't!
At the end of the year, I was just so fed up with everything. The whole first month of the summer I didn't talk to Brian or Aly once. I was really convinced I was over this kid.
One random day, I got a text from Brian. He was telling me how much he missed me. This brought back all my feelings that I have tried to dissmiss during that first month of summer.
He would call me sexy and tell me I was hot. I didn't really like it because I'm not the kind of girl who likes to be talked to like that by a guy that isn't even my boyfriend. He would call me these names so much that it kind of got annoying. I really had no idea if he was even still going out with Aly.. I hadn't spoken to her all summer.
I threw the question out there.. "Are you still going out with Aly?" He told me he was, and I scolded him.. I told him how he shouldn't be talking to me like this especially since he was going out with one of my so called friends.
He told me that it was fine because we are only 15..
I just stopped talking to him.
The last week of summer, he texted me again. I told him that he should start being sweeter, and how any girl would rather be called beautiful than hot. My best friend in him started to come back and we started talking about really sweet things.
When school started sophmore year.. I found out that I didn't have any classes with him. For some reason, I was really dissapointed. He texted me often and told me how he misses me at school and I agreed. Well.. I am a cheerleader and he is a football player. On our cheerleading team, we had a choice of which football player to chose as our football player.
Of course, me and my whipped self picked Brian. During the second week of school him and Aly broke up. I never see him anymore, and I really miss him.
Last week, during the football game, Brian got hurt and had to go to the hospital. I was there to see the whole thing. I was really scared that somthing really bad happened to him because he was out cold. I texted one of his best friends and found out that Aly was there at the hospital..
My green monster of jealousy came out. I really don't know what's wrong with me or why I like Brian so much. I'm so tired of feeling like a piece of crap because he doesn't like me.
I really try to just not think about it because I don't really see Brian anymore.. but even whenever someone says his name it makes me sad. I can't picture myself with anyone else but him, and I just want to be with him SO badly.
What should I do? Is he worth waiting for.. or should I just getover him because I've been waiting for nothing for too long?
PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE, and thanks for reading this freakishly long story.
Im a junior in highschool and when i was a sophmore halfway between the year i had a english class with this guy that i now love. .this is how we met. . .(his name is Justin code)
the second day of class we were having a class disscussion and so justins friend bobby was talking and hes the hottie of our grade and so then my eye glances over to the right of bobby and at justin cause he was looking at me. and every since then he would look at me everydayy and more and more so then i started to get weirded out until he started looking at me in the hallways too and he started being really nice like he still wouldnt talk to me. but like we always came to the door at the same time and he would always be like you go first. and so then i started liking him and my feelings for him grew and greww and they became really strong cause he kept staring. and when he would stare at me it would be like with his mouth dropped open and idkk i fell for him.
and then one time in the hallway i find out he has a girlfriend. and i wantd to cry and throw something at him. it hurt so baddddd!!! i was so hurt cause i thought he was the perfect guy really nice and sweet and smartt!!!! hes soo cutee tooo and plays sports and is realllyyy funny. after that in class i stopped even looking back when he would look at me. but no matter what he wouldnt stop looking at me. and by the end of this class i still loved himm and wantd to get to know him so i got his numbr from a friend and textd him and we talkd for like half the summr and then he suddenly stopped (everything was goijng so well)even after i told him he was hott we still talked and his comment after i tld him he was hott ws lol yeah? thanks its good to know im not ugly. whyy??? and now this year he just stares at me when hes the one who stopped talking to me in the first place. i dnt have the courage to even look at him. and i cant stop thinking of him i lovee this guyy.
hes still with that girlfriend and they have been together for like a 1 year and he loves her but he loved her when we had that english class so whyd he lead me on like that?
I am a veteran of dating players. It is true, you need to face reality and accept a person's actions as the TRUTH. Some men love to flirt. It empowers their ego. If he is not calling you. If he is not texting you. If he is not asking you out. HE IS NOT INTERESTED. Heck, once you blow him off he will come running back. Don't go there. Wait it out for a decent guy to come along cause he will. trust me.
When my brother told me the guy I 'liked''s best friend liked me, I instantly became curious and eventually liked the guy back. Now I find that the times when he supposedly told my brother he liked me, he was going out with another girl who was a tramp. I was heatbroken 'cause I though he really liked me and that he was sweet and sensitive, but now I find he's just another 'cool guy' who's 'too cool for a girl like me'. I can't believe I let myself into the stupid game of 'teenage love', one sport I ACTUALLY suck at! I mean, it REALLY ISN'T that easy to get over a guy, now is it? R.I.P. to the love I thought could never die... :(
Earth Angel says:
2 years ago
Great Hub Dudley!! Welcome to HubPages!! Good comments!! Sound advice!! Earth Angel!!