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Children most importantly need consistency in their routine. When a child has a temper tantrum, you have to ignore it every-time, don't give it negative attention and don't give in either. Once you give in to them once, they'll take you as a joke and think it's okay to flip out again, so they can get what they want. Let them kick and scream all they want, but kicking you or hitting you is not okay. So, if that is the case, you get down to their level, make eye contact, and be FIRM. DO NOT, however, yell, scream or hit them. Instead you can be FIRM and let them know "That is NOT okay!"

When you get angry with them and yell, they think it is okay to do the same. You are your child's #1 role model, and whatever you do, they imitate. They need a role model, not someone to be scared of! Once you get angry and yell at them, they feed right into that and learn that they can do that to. So, you have to stay calm, have patience and be consistent every-time it happens.

Never tell a child he is "bad." It makes them feel bad about themselves, and you don't want to do that. What you can say instead is "That is not okay, we don't hurt our friends, that hurts his feelings." That was just an example, but if you have specific questions about what your going through, feel free to e-mail me at Gblogfun@gmail.com, I will be more than happy to answer your questions and give you some suggestions you could use.

You need to praise your child EVERY chance you get for his good behavior. Let him know your proud of him through high 5's, a great big hug, a "great job," or "I see you worked really hard today, I am so proud of you." Praising him in this way makes him feel good about himself.

You want to avoid praising him with material objects, stickers, toys and never bribe them.

Your child will eventually realize good behavior gets positive attention and bad behavior gains him nothing!

It will take some time before you see a change, but with consistency and patience it can happen, you just have to stick by your word, and continue to praise him for good behavior.

-As far as getting your child to eat, you never want to force them. If they won't eat that's fine, they'll eat when they're hungry. You could try to give them choices. Give them choices when it's dinner "You could have meat, potatoes and broccoli, or you could have meat, potatoes and an apple, those are your choices." That was probably a bad example, but you catch my drift? Here again, do not give in to what they want, if they want a cracker for dinner, let them know "If you eat your dinner FIRST, than you can have crackers." Stick by that rule every time, once you give in, they'll do it again next time. If they flip out, ignore it. They will again eventually realize that behavior gets them nowhere. They will also have more respect if you stick to being consistent.

Potty training- Never force them to go on the potty. You could slowly introduce it to them. Tell them this is the potty, when you have to go to the bathroom, you tell mommy or daddy, and we can take you. You can explain how when your finished you flush the toilet. Children sometimes get a kick out of watching it go down the toilet "Bye bye." Instead of telling them to go, say "Let's go to the potty!" Make it sound exciting. When they are ready, they WILL go. You can't force it on them or they will refuse. Buy them a potty book. There are a few really good ones out there that your children will enjoy, and it may get them interested enough to try it out. Especially if they see that lil boy in the story going to the potty and what a great big accomplishment it was for him.

The most important thing is being consistent, bring up the potty all the time, don't give in to negative behavior, and try to give them choices at dinner time.

You will see in time, with lots of patience and consistency, your child will be well-behaved and follow the rules. No doubt, they will test you, and that's okay, just stick to your rules and guidelines, discipline them, but DO NOT punish them.

*Best wishes*