Everybody loves money and wants to have more of it. The ones who claim they don’t, are the ones who struggle with their finances and have a tough time making ends meet. There are many websites that talk of how to make more money and even on hub-pages - the hubs with high scores or the ones that attract high traffic are the ones that talk of how to make money easily, or how to make money online, how to earn money working from home etc.

It is alright to love money, there is nothing wrong with loving money, in fact it is quite right to love it if you want it in your life. The fact was brought home to me when  I was at a seminar held by one direct selling company; and one of the speakers started by asking the question- Do you love your money? Raise your hands the ones who don’t love money, and if you say you don't want money or don’t love money- please come and empty out your wallets and give me all your money. Why would you want to keep something that you do not want or like or love? You can thank me for ridding you of what you do not like. Everyone laughed and it did make everyone sit up.

That also really opened my mind and started it thinking along the lines – ‘ what are my emotions and thoughts regarding money?’ do I look at money in a negative way? Do I feel stressed out over money or  over the lack of it?

Some of my own beliefs quite confounded me! I was shocked to realise that one of my beliefs was that money causes people or family members to fight! Especially over inheritance.  I then realised that it was not the money that made people fight for it but rather the lack of it, for the ones who had more than enough were busy spending it while the ones who did not were the ones struggling for it and thus ready to grab or resort to underhand means to achieve it. Obviously with this kind of a belief I was keeping my own cash flow away, including my rightful inheritance,  thinking I was better off without it because I would have to fight for it, and behave as per somebody else’s wishes to inherit it and that  inheriting money was being lazy and greedy! Also inheritance is ‘limited money’ and so there would never be enough for everyone.

Then I came across a talk show on some blog radio and the speaker asked some salient questions- for example- in what way would I change if I had a lot of money?

That made me think along these lines:

How would having more money affect or change my behavior or personality?

How different would I be and how was it going to affect my comfort zone?

Was I scared of having lots of money because I did not know how to take care of it or handle it? Did I think I did not have financial sense to invest it smartly? (which meant I believed having more money would make me feel stupid!! YIKES!!!!!!!)

Did I believe I need to be working crazy hours to make lots of money?

Was I scared to have more money in case it made me like the ‘moneyed’ people I did not like?

What were the traits I saw in those moneyed people I disliked and did they have those traits because they had money or did those traits exist in them regardless of their money?

Would it make me greedy or selfish? Or would it make me so money-minded that I would forget to be human? (crazy notion! How could I not be human- I was born one!) Where did I get this crazy idea that rich people are inhuman? And what did being human mean to me?

What would my new lifestyle be like if I had the kind of money I was pushing away with my current beliefs? (it would certainly stop me being stressed out and worried and tightfisted I did not know how else to be! How would I relax if I had nothing to worry about?! What a warped belief! To me it felt like it was my duty to have something to worry about. I had to drop that belief in a hurry and it took its time leaving my system.)

Which of my friends would not like it if I had a lot of money and no longer needed to complain that I did not have enough? Would I then hang around with those people?

Am I hanging on to a bunch of people who do not think of money in positive ways and are those beliefs really mine?

Do I really think that if you have too much money you cannot enjoy yourself because you are too busy taking care of it? Or too busy earning it?

Would having more money make me less spiritual or less grateful?

Would having more money make me stop praying to God or would I forget to thank god?

Did God really not want me to have more money because if I had more I would not think of him?

When I found the answers to those questions, I gradually started to figure out what my beliefs were, and the ones I needed to change. Some of them were really warped and some so funny that I  could not stop laughing at them!