HOW TO KISS, GOOD
92This is how you do it
How to be a good kisser? If done rite a good kiss can be mesmerizing, intoxicating and magical. A truly electrifying experience that will leave you breathless, and in a state of exquisite, euphoria.
But a good kiss is more than just a kiss. Its an empathetic journey through each others souls. It starts with the man communicating to the woman that he has a genuine and sincere interest in more than just her physical presence.
That he actually cares about what she thinks, and feels. This is accomplished by being a good listener. There is almost nothing a man can say to a woman, besides I Love you, that will touch her heart as much as, looking her in the eyes and being a good sounding board for her dreams, fears, and her desires.
Start by caressing her hand during the conversation, and squeezing it gently, when she becomes particularly emotional about a topic.
Don't wait for her to suggest a kiss, if you are being a good listener; when she has fully expressed herself,never interrupt, she will slowdown, and ask you what you think, if you have been paying attention to her; you will see the softening in her eyes,
And if you're really paying attention-you will see-that she is tired of talking, and needs to be held. Move in close place your hand so that your thumb is on her cheek, and your four fingers are firmly but gently supporting her neck, slowly, while looking into her eyes bring her face to yours.
Now here is where most guys blow it. Do not start the kiss out, trying to show her how studly you are, by sticking your tongue down her throat and gaging her.
Lightly brush you lips against hers. Withdraw and give her a chance, to say No to the kiss, just in case you've read the moment wrong. But don't prolong the withdrawal, if she gets the impression you think something is wrong with her it's over; If she doesn't look surprised, reassure her by re-engaging;in the kiss.
When you resume the kiss, once your lips touch, you want to parse your lips as if you were sucking on a grape. When she opens her mouth, and exposes her tongue, once again, don't try to give her a tonsillectomy.
Play with the tip of her tongue as if you were licking a stamp or sealing and envelope, keep your lips to an oval about the size of a fifty cent piece, don't try to engulf her head. Never stick your tongue more than half into her mouth. Half way is sexy, any further is desperate.
Wet kisses are fine. Sloppy wet kisses are disgusting. Women know more about these things than men, and if you've done your home work, by listening to her, it is [OK] to let her take the lead now.
This is also the safest way not to blow a potentially lasting relationship, if this is your first kiss, with this woman, She will let you know how far she's willing to go. If she shows signs, of being, out of control and caught up in the physi-cality of the moment-if you really love her-this is the only time you speak.
You are either going to ask her if she's sure she wants to go further, some times another deep look, into her eyes will tell you this, or you are going to suggest that you wait, out of respect for her integrity. A good kissing session can last for hours and hours with out the hint of sexual intentions if you are really into the other person.
Either way a good kiss is more than just a kiss, it can be the beginning of a beautiful relationship.
It works the opposite for women. Check him out, slowly, if he tries to over power you with the kiss, get out of there; he doesn't know what the hell he's doing, You'll have slobber in you ears and you'll feel all yucky. And if he doesn't know how to kiss; you can bet he doesn't know the rest of it.
Enjoy
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THANKS FOR THE READ, WOULD YOU BELIEVE THIS HUB HAS GOTTEN OVER 2500 HITS. GO FIGURE.
HAVE A GOOD ONE
Haha very nice and very true!
Wow!
I am in a long distant relationship and I am ready to get on a bus to go see him NOW!!!!!!!
He knows just how to do this and so do you! At least I hope you follow these steps. Men, if you do, you will never be alone. Women appreciate a man who knows how to do things in the corrct order and to not be sloppy and forceful.
I have dated the pushy, slobbery men and I have not wanted to stay in a relationship with them. Romance and taking time wins the hearts.
Now I better catch that bus!
So insightful and sensitive, its hard to believe ythis article came from a man!
%100 GOOD ON A 45 YEAR old Chinese girl i am 61
Wish I had someone to practice with lol.Sounds like alot of fun
very good lecture I would try to practice
My wife liked kisses until we got married. Can't really try this on myself. Hopefully someday she will come around. She just likes me to massage her or tickle her with my fingertips for hours. We seemed to kiss well together. I don't know what the hell happened.
may be i should try it
what i never see mentioned is that its a good kiss does not just take place above the neck. when i am cuddling with a girl and we start to make out ill have a hand on her neck under her jawline for a bit, and the other one on her side where her ribs are doing a soft massage of sorts. when you use your whole body to convey a message its just more powerful
OK John,
I see you and raise you twenty. The request for this Hub was for "How To Kiss Good?" What you described, comes under the heading of, "Necking," "Cuddling," "foure-play," and "making out."
It all starts with the Kiss, but each adds, it own enhancements. Thanks for the input however I''m sure someone can use the info.
good good,
i would say for sure you should be paying attention to what their saying lol. or you dont deserve to kiss her lol.
but all the same. good layout etc.
wow its not like i havnt known this already!!!! lol but ok
bravo, bravo!
aaaaw!!!......so sweet ...a man actually listening to what your saying???....that will so be the day....and i'v dated the pushy sloppy guy and it was not a picnic
MO-Jo
You havce my sympathy.
im my relation ship it wasnt me who kiseed her it was her who kissed me and added tongue.
Did you take notes?
hey, right, im seeing this girl we havent kissed and we arnt going out but we both know we are into each other, i know how to kiss and given advice i know how to improve but i have no confidence so getting to the stage where i kiss her is extreemly hard for me, i can imagen it in my hed but when it comes to doing it face to face i freeze and i dnt do it, how can i get over this?
OK, if you are both realy into each other by now she is probably wondering is you may be gay. some women are sinsative about this type of thing.
They ask themselves if something may be wrong with them, and after they answer that question NO, the next best answer is something is wrong with him.
Being shy is a natrual part of some peoples make up. Next time you're together, just put yourt hand on her shoulder, look into her eyes tell her you are crazy about her and gently kiss her. That should get the ball rolling she'll guide you to the rest.
nice
I am with this guy. He always tries to get all physical with me when we kiss. What do I do?
OK, you've got a guy that is out for what he can get he believes that sooner or later you will give in and after he gets what he wants he'll treat you like crap.
Kick him to the curve before he hurts you. Start spending less time with him and when you feel you can't avoid him make sure you have a friend along, preferably one that will get on his nerves by reenforcing the hinits you give him tht you are not that kiind of young lady.
Talk to some of his cast aways and let hiim kjnow taht you spoke with them, but mainly do not under any circumstances letr him get you in close quarters where he may try to date rape you to get what you won't give freely.
You may alos want to let him know that you have taken up some other personal responsibilty or chore that limits your time to socialize, so you may not have time to spend with him. I say this just incase he may be the violent type.
Take care and congradulation on being able to recognize a bad situation and not be ashamed to ask for advice.
Take care of yourself Jessi,Much respect,
Jeromeo
good info
I really wish more guys were like this. Keep going with the advice! More guys need it!
oh here is my problem i have a bestfriend he's a boy and he want me to be her girlfriend and because wer'e friends for a long time i accept him.now wer'e 2 years and u know we have lots of hugs but we haven't try kisses now he want to kiss me in lips but i just said ''this is not the time for that give me just a hug ok'' so please helpme jeomeo ella,
You called it Ella. If you're not ready and he needs to respect that. His love, and friendship for you must be greater than his desire to fullfil his own needs.
I can see that you have some life goals that you are interested in fullfilling, and are not ready to sabotage you future by engaging with teenage romance.
This requires strong self dicepline, and is to be commended. Even though it is your decision your parents are to be commended also for instilling such a strong sense of self asteem in you.
Tell your friend you are definately not ready to start withthe heavy petting and you need to stop seeing in settings where you might be alone with him and he may be tempted to continue to try to entice you into premature intimate activity.
Becareful and watch out for peer preasure on this issue not all of you female friends are as strong as you, now this doesn't necessarly make you better than them, like I said your parents have taken the time and you have responded, admirabley to their love for you.
Way to go Ella, Stick to your guns. just say NO!!!!!!!
jeromeo
Jeromeo,
I have been good friends with this guy for over a year. For the past 4ish months we've been getting pretty close. He's spent everyday with me to try to help me because I've been going through a lot of problems. We're not dating, but we act like that. He'll hold me and kiss me and tell me that he loves me. I told him I want to date because fwb's (Friends With Benefits) makes me uncomfortable. He said he would stop all actions, but still won't date. I told him not to stop the actions because it's comforting. I know he wants to go out, but he's afraid that something will happen that's going to destroy the relationship. What do I do?
Dear Angie 12119,
First, its good to have a devoted friend when you face emotional trials. But Let's get real bringing another life into the world is a huge responsiblity whether by design or by accident.
When the posibiltity of accidently having a child arises form upredictable behavior, in other words action that are not planed but just happen. It doesn't make any difference.
When you hug and kiss tenderly with each other you are awakening physical and emotional aspects of your existance that even some of God's Angels could not control.
You have got to decide what's best for you. Sure you are going through a ruff patch as they say, but thinkof how much worse it will be if you comeout of this delimma with a kid to take care of.
You friend seems to love you enough to respect you and abstain from at risk romantic behavior. Follow his lead, maybe dating right now is a side road your relationship does not need.
So stayout of the deep water especially while you are so emotonally vulnerable to wanting to feel even closer to your friend. It would come to the point where you feel, because he has been so supportive, you owe him the precious gift you have to give to a man some day.
If that situation were to arise and he was forced to compromise his feelings of protection for you, so as not to hurt your pride by refusing intamacy, well you see the possibilities for desaster.
If you are going to try dating try dating by going out with adults or at least a third party who believes in abstinence and will help you avoid dangerous situations of intimacy.
I hope this helps fell free to write back if you need to.
Lots of luck, You're only young once enjoy it. Temptation is deceptive.
Jeromeo
hello, i need help with this girl i like sort of; im not sure what to do. I heard that she likes me, and she has a fantastic personality, but im just not quite sure if she does, i don't really want to be turned down harshley if it turns out that she doesn't, tomorrow i am going to try and tell her, but if i don't i hope that u reply so you can give me some tips with this, i've never kissed a girl either, so if i do go out with her, ill listen and use all of your tips from what you said above, but right now i got the problem of actually telling her i like her
Sounds like you need a shot of self confidence. Here's what you do to get yourself out of the bashful rut.
I know you practice good personal hygiene, but listen anyway. Take a good shower. Use whatever after shave or cologne you have or borrow some of dads.
Now here's the part you need to really understand, there is nothing to be afraid of. she not going to kill you for showing interest in her.
Simply explain to her that you really like her and you want to get to know her better. Also let her know that you appreciate her for her intelligence, as well as her good looks, and that you are looking for a relationship based on mutual respect and shared common goals.
Then ask her if she would like to go out for pizza or a burger. If she agrees don't spend the time talking about you and your buds or how much you think about your self.
Ask her what her dreams for the future are college, and so forth. When she starts talking do not interrupt. Just sit and listen,of course when its time to reply to a direct question don't sit there like a dummy, answer her.
Women like for men to show confidence in themselves and though they appreciate humble men they want to feel safe and secure with the men they choose to accept as dating partners.
Now get this most guys think that the goal is hit a home run with a girl and then go back and brag about your conquest. go by the local bas sometimes and see how many old and lonly me you see sitting on the stools.
They felt that respecting women and treating them with the respect they deserve was cool now they are all by themselves. Before you jump into the real dating game, understand the consequences of piggish behavior.
Good luck, and if you mistreat her I'm sure she will write me and, [Bryan] I know where [YOU] live, lol.
Jeromeo
Thanks for your advice, i just got it right now, but today i was cuddling with her and then she had to leave and i really don't want to ask her on msn so im going to wait till tomorrow if i see her and ask her out when we are alone, because now i know that she likes me, and from today; i can tell that i REALLY like her now
Lots of luck Bryan.
mmmm just thinking back to the one guy who kissed me like I've never been kissed before. We'd seen each other often in this particular club, he was the DJ. He would watch me dance every Friday night then one night just grabbed me and pulled me to one side and we danced so slowly together. I can honestly say I have NEVER felt sexual tension like that in my life since and will probably never again. He kissed me exactly like commented above. He took it slow and I was on FIRE! We kissed for what felt like hours but was probably only minutes when my sister finally pulled us apart. I have never seen this man since but will always, always remember him...:-( I did'nt go back to the club for 3 weeks and when I did I had heard he got another job overseas and left. I do wonder often if he ever thought about me through the years. I know what we had between us might not have been love but there was hot physical/sexual/emotional chemistry and I thank god that I got to experience it once in my lifetime.
Sounds like a exceptinally, good memory to Me, I can just see you now...swooning!!!!!
Thanks for sharing.
in my country, kiss is not a good way to show our feeling, but i can't imazine that i'll never do it till i marry, so what should i do?
Practice when eating fruit. But first consider obeying the authorities of your country, better safe than sorry.
maria atx
Very Very true we young ladies are only young once and if you go into deep waters then you end up growing up before time you have got good advice keep it going. i have had to learn with an experience , my son is turning a year in 2 days ive learned some things along the way.
Thanks for reading my Hub.
Jeromeo
made have a great girl
Hey Jeromeo. I have a problem... There's this girl that I really like. She has excellent personality and looks (which I find a nice perk), but she lives about 8 miles from me but we go to the same school.
Sometimes, we used to sit together in class and often I sit in front of her, and when I'm near her, my brain basically switches to a alternate universe of some sort, I start making jokes, etc, so I think she kinda likes me. She seems to enjoy my talk and everytime I meet her somewhere she smiles, laughs and yells out my name in a big surprise. She also seems to be interested in my talk, looking deeply in my eye.
But I heard she's leaving the school and moving away far away from me at the end of the summer. I really, really liked her and I'd at least like to get a good-bye kiss or some kind of a "signal" that she did like me before she leaves. She is a very special girl. :)
Thing is that I lack confidence. Or so it seems. Everytime I go to bed or am very bored, I start thinking many ways how to get closer with her. Then it seems really easy, but when we meet everything always goes as usual and absolutely nothing happens. And now she's leaving ... It has, indeed, saddened my heart very much.
What to do? Let her go and not let her know of anything that I had against her so she might leave with a easier heart / less worried heart? Now, it's 3 o' clock in the night and yet again I go to sleep without her. :(
Like you said your problem is one of not having enough confidence. And being shy. Or not wanting to find out that she doesn't feel the same way about you, you feel about her.
If your feelings are as strong as you say they are and not just lust, [She] could be the one.
Do not make the mistake of letting her leave with out letting her know how you feel.
True love is hard to find and living a life of regret with someone, while you are wondering what may have happen with this young woman would not be fair to anyone you met in the future, you, or this young woman that looks so deeply in your eyes.
Her's an ice breaker, ask her: "when you look in my eyes do you see the same thing that I see when I look into yours?
If she asks you what you see in her eyes, respond with " I see me making you very happy as we build a long life together. But first how about just going to a movie or something.
With the invention of the internet...distance is no object if your feelings are real.
Now you know me...so if this is just about raging hormones you're on you own.
But if you think there is a future do not rush the kiss. Ask her about her dreams and her plans for the future. Listen to her and discuss with her how you can stay in touch after she moves.
And when you kiss her make sure you do it in a tender and compassionate way.
This will be the best preview of how your life will be and it should make her think of that when ever she thinks of you.
Get ready for long hours on the telephone and online, and lots of luck Guy.
Jeromeo
One more thing Guy, make sure you're holding her hand while you talk to her. Women love for the men they believe in to hold their hands.
Big thanks, mate, for the quick reply. If I see her again sometime, I'll 'try' to give it a shot.
ok there is this girl that i want to ask out. Problem is i dont know her and i cant talk to her because she leaves 10 min. Before class ends what do i do? *and great advice did it on my ex it was awsome for her and for me eh she could have brushed her teeth*
Its simple Sam tell the teach you need to leave early for whatever reason.
He does not need to know its a matter of the heart.
And they have these little throw away tooth brushes now. You get my drift?
okay there is this girl that i saw mauch like that sam kid but i dont have her for any classes
Excuse me Ms. This flower belongs to you? The flower should be a bird of paradise. They are the most beautiful, and they say;I think you're special.
You figure the best time and place to,meet her hint...at lunch.
Okay i love your advice.
This guy sent me a text message saying that he wanted to go out with me...but when i replied to this messade(with the word ummm)he said he didnt know what i was taking about and that he mustave sent "whatever the message was" to the wrong person because he didnt even remember having my number...what do i do? What do i tell him
UMMMMMM, Let's give this a little thought, what if this guy already has a girl and she intercepted the reply. So he was forced to play dumb.
I would consider the whole episode a fortunate set of unfortunate circumstances. If he tries to text again ignore it, it would say he only wants you for a booty call.
And I know you're worth more than that. Asheli.
He sure does have the wrong number. Tell him you're too busy making yourself happy to play games.
thx...a tip for ppl to get soft lips...after brushing your teeth run the toothbrush under warm water then rub it gently across your lips...it will take off dead skin
then put on aloe chapstick,baby oil,or patrolium jelly/vasiline
your lips will become irrisitably soft
ok i have this special girl in my class & and d only time we ever talk is when we're leaving. I want to get closer to her and let her know i like her. what can i do
Tell her before class starts, that you'd like to speak to her when class is over, and don't chicken out.lol
This is a fine chapter in the could be written book- 'kissology'!
very good but with all the girls i had they always and i mean always made the first moves haah but thats fine wit me :)
lol :)
I KNOW (Y) THANKS FOR POINTING THAT OUT.
F&FF,
Roland
if only i had someone to try this with. sigh
i av trouble with women cos i'm quite ugly and quite fat, perhaps this advice will help me to get the girl i like to notice me, i guess i av a problem with selfconfidence, nd say sry sll the time nd talk crap alot too lol, bt ur advice is kwl, cheers :)
Long as you believe in yourself size and cosmetic challenges don't matter. Keep a god sense of humor, and project confidence. At three women to every man the odds are in your favor.
well dats good news, thanks :)
Hi
ther is this girl and we have gone out and the last time we went out we kissed and everyone in our chool teased us and our whole grade is goon 2 the movies and they are pressuring me to kiss her again and ther gunnar watch
wut do I do
HELP
Do not exploit what could be a meaningful relationship. If they their into voyeurism let them watch TV. Don't be come a puppet of the crowed;giving in to there need to manipulate for their own amusement.
Time to start be an example and show the others what being a responsible person is all about. And that is protecting those you care about...from this type of immature means of entertainment.
Take the young lady to the side and explain your position and decision to her, not to make your feelings for one another a source of entertainment to the group.
She should be delighted to know how you feel. Caring is serious business and not to be treated lightly.
Hope this works for you.
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Shirley Anderson says:
2 years ago
Love this hub! Had to chuckle about the slobber in the ear....I've dated that guy.
Good job, Jeromeo.