First off, this is not a quick process and that is the truth. I say that as much sensitivity as I can, because we all have been there a time or two. Depending on the circumstances of the breakup, such as, how long were the two of you together? Was 'LOVE' in the equation? Living together, etc.

I could say there is a guide out there, including a book telling you the best way to get over a break up, but that book doesn't give you what your looking for, which is an ear for you spill everything out.

I always found that having a close friend whose known about your relationship from the very get go helps. The friend is already up to par with how things were advancing along, your bumps in the road and the good points of the relationship. A friend of mine is going through a break up. She was dating this man for just over a month and instantly connected. They had a lot in common with history over past relationships, in the same age bracket and both complimented each other. Only they broke up due to trust issues, which is everything in a relationship.

The first thing I would do to getting over him/her, is write it down. The pros and cons of the relationship. How you feel about the break up and what you think went wrong. What could have been different? What you, yourself could've changed as a person?

Second, invite a close friend of yours that knows about the relationship to discuss or vent out your frustations, drama or questions on "where did we go wrong?".

Third, don't sulk around and be lonely. If you prefer to have time to reflect, do something active, go for walks, excerise, take a trip. This way when you do get over the relationship you won't have those 10-20lbs of extra weight you put on by eating out your whole refridgerator.

My friends relationship was not lengthy but she cared for the guy and still does. The one thing I find annoyingly wrong she is doing is letting him back in, I call this stage "on the hook". Its when the guy will call you to see how you are doing and then the conversation starts asked by a question "wanna meet up?" "want to go out sometime?". These hooks are evil! What he is doing is giving you false hope, reject immidately! Try telling him the truth, that you know what he is doing and don't appreciate it. If he denys it, then ask him, 'why are you trying now?'. Be honest with yourself, don't let something that hurt you continue to after it's said and done.