• You been wrong and obnoxious for a long time and suddenly realize your relationship is over. You took your partner for granite on numerous occasions and never really appreciated the things that were done for you without a complaint or reason.
• You felt as if you were so special and wonderful that you deserved to be treated like a king or queen.
• You defined your self by looks or financial worth and treated your spouse as if they were beneath you.
• You cheated with other people rather it be the opposite sex, hanging out , or pure neglect. You were never there.

You are being dumped

• You find out your partner wants out and you further wave the flames by making accusations, because it could not possibly be you. After all, your perfect.
• You tell your partner that they should have been happy to be with you.
• You stop taking care of your shared responsibilities.
• You jump right into other forms of relationships to prove yours didn't really matter.

Realization Set In

• You realize you were not all that great, Your partner made you feel that way.
• You find out you never have been cared about like your partner has cared about you.
• Your life is miserable because you realize what a hole you were, especially when your friends tell you that you ruined the best thing that ever happened to you.Even you mother.
• Your sick on your stomach when you remember the good times in the beginning , before you got so conceited and cocky.
• You realize you are better with your other half.

You want your partner back

You want your partner back and need to ask for forgiveness. You realize you have be honest and humble.But you never had to before.

You pride tells you to walk away and save face. But you realize life is too short and you may never have a loving partner like this again.

Realizing how long it took your partner to leave means that is how hard you have to work to get them back.

• Apologize profusely
• Send gifts with sincere letters
• Take care of any unfinished shared responsibilities.
• Admit to your wrong doing while asking for forgiveness.
• Respect partners feelings and choice in order to have a chance later.
• Be sincere with direct eye contact.
• Don't stalk on the phone or otherwise this can ruin everything!

This can take awhile: but you didn't get yourself into this jam overnight! Be patient and helpful and you may still have a good chance of fixing your relationship.

Filled With Love and Humility

You have now been filled with humility and the anger has now turned back into sincerity. How could you have done so many terrible things like not talking , ignoring your partner, not saying thank you or showing appreciation?

How could you not hold, kiss and touch as if every touch or kiss is the last and best one the very person that loved and treated you so good?

You can at least apologize and ask for forgiveness if nothing else. This is what separates the the real adults from the child-like.

Good Luck on your journey

You have now been through your initiation, good luck. Now rather you get back together with your ex or not. You are a better person ready to give. Heart break happens to all of us especially when we're not looking!

Good luck and always forgive. Not for them but for you. this is the only way you can move on. Rather you were dumped or did the dumping.

If you don't forgive you bring the poison into the next relationship. You get out of a relationship what you put in it. You insecurities will only keep an insecure partner.

A secure partner will not stand for it. Much love and peace!