When you've been hurt, or lied to which often many of us don't like, one can find it hard to want to ever trust that person or anyone else that closly again. It's part of our nature as Human Beings. We have an almost regretful amount of trust and when it is broken we feel that it shouldn't be let out again. It caused you hurt and pain the first time so what's to say it won't again? Well there are some who might disagree with me, however I feel it is needed to trust people in this life or we can risk becoming a worry wort.

When we don't trust people around us we will end up coming up with rediculous thoughts about how they may be "out to get us" or "not trust worthy". This isn't good when we are trying to make new friends and keep our current friends. That is because we need trust in order to keep relationships between ourselves and others. Without trust we don't enable the good things of others to be welcomed into our lives and we run around being sad and depressed because they don't end up happening to us when we expect them to without putting any effort into the cause.

When we trust though, we are welcomed into a whole new world of wonders and greatness. We able to make new friends and move past what hurts have already entered our lives. We can grow from our previous hurts rather then dwell on them and allow them to bring us into a downward spiraling snowball effect. Which if I may add isn't all it's cut out to be. Snow balls are supposed to be SMALL or they can HURT!!

So when you finally become ready to start to trust again here are a few steps to get you started:

1) Take a chance: When you take chances they lead to new experiences and can boost your desire to trust more people in the future no matter how much you distrust people. Good experiences lead to more great ones.

2) Get to know the person first: When you want to get to know someone but don't want to put all your trust in them at first, it's completely understandable! Don't worry about putting trust in them in the beginning. Trust takes time and if they don't recognize that with you and permit it, then let them know things aren't going to work out unless they can take one step at a time.

3) Put yourself out there: When your all shy and hiding from that guy or girl you like because you don't want to be hurt, it brings a waterfall effect upon you. Now don't get me wrong waterfalls are beutiful but they hide what is behind the waterfall, YOU! Don't hide. Be the angel infront of the waterfall.

4) Write a journal: When you are getting back into something that you haven't done before or for a while, such as trusting someone, it can be tough. So if you write in a journal or diary it can help you to look back on your day's ordeals and how you can improve next time. It will help. Journaling is the way to go.

5) Bring along a friend for the ride: Sometimes we need a little help when getting back into the game. So in order to get there, we need to tell our close friend that we need their help. Allow them to take you to places where there are a lot of people to meet like parties or clubs, even church. It can boost your self confidence and your not alone in the race if you've got a true friend along your side.

I hope these have helped you to begin trusting again and let me know what your thoughts are through a comment or two. Have a nice day and get back out there. Don't be shy!

Espian~