Do you remember your first crush and your first break up? Yes you do. It is never too easy to walk out of a relationship wrapping up all the memories created day by day. In fact, it takes a lot of courage and patience to call it a day and move on into a new relationship. There can be instances where the recent past haunts over the present making the existence difficult. The mind state and thought process gets cynical. Your confidence is shattered either by a rejection or a breach of trust. In such a scenario, how to begin something fresh leaving behind the hurt and reminiscences? 

Talk to your self:

There is hardly a case where a human being when hurt doesn’t take time to recover. Its not one of those falls where one can stand up dusting off the pain. The solution however is simple and effective. The best strategy is talking to people as much as you can. It means that taking fresh thoughts from friends. Doing so also assures that you are never alone, as loneliness brings back the poignant memoirs alive. Being social also ascertains that one is ready to move on and it does a world of good to the confidence. 

Everyone is unique:

On the verge of starting a fresh companionship, the mistrusts and the occurrences of past are bound to rise on the surface of a new bonding. It can be the deeds by the previous partner which has left a void in you or the dishonesty which brought the down fall. Whatever the case may be, you need to understand that every human in this world is unique. The new one should not be seen through the same mirror which you used for your past. The approach and the feel should no where resemble the unfulfilled expectations from your history. Trusting your partner is the foremost thing. If that is set straight everything else follows. While, it is understandable to be skeptical in trusting a new friend but, the previous mistakes by your past not necessarily makes the new one guilty.   

Learn from mistakes:

In initial stages of a relationship, everyone tries to be good, but for a bond that has survived for a long time, few mistakes are bound to happen. In such a case, parting is even tougher. If you are one of them, pondering over your mistakes is not a bad idea. You should have a complete idea about your behavior and the reasons for your separation. General reasons for separation can be fear of desertion or extreme possessiveness. Never commit such mistakes again in life. Also, never allow your partner to smother, giving them enough space to express. At the same time have faith and give time for nurturing. Best of all, trust yourself. As in such times, a person looses confidence. Be brave and face the music of life. 

All these, will help you to come out of the bottleneck faster and stronger. Make the transition slow and steady, so that you have less scope of ending up on the losing side again. As this life is too short to quarrel, never make another mistake if you are given a chance to correct one. Most importantly try laughing on yourself. It satisfies you to a large extent. If you can laugh on your own mistakes, you have better chances of correcting them. In the end, move open hearted for a hug into a fresh face and a fresh relation.

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