How to steal your inheritance
87Today I received an email asking if I "Want to legally hijack some major cash today?" Sounds intriguing, but as luck would have it, I just this week discovered an ingenious method of hijacking cash (as well as other assets). Ok, so it's not 100% legal. And it takes a little more than a day. But it's most definitely a hijack.
The idea is brilliant in its simplicity: Steal your own inheritance.
I'd like to take credit for it, I really would. Alas, my brain is not wired for financial intrigue. I don't have a criminal mind.
The beauty of this idea is that even the most diabolically challenged (like me) can pull it off.
Step One: The Trust
You will need the following: Two elderly parents, a lawyer, an unsuspecting sibling, and some patience.
First, set up your Family Trust. There are two components to the trust: financial and medical. Obviously, your interest is in the financial. So as you are sitting with the family and the attorney, "graciously" allow your unsuspecting sibling (US) to be named as the person in charge of medical decisions for your parents. Since parents always want to be fair, they will naturally assign you to the lead financial role. Everyone will be happy. Especially you.
Now in this initial Trust document, there is a first position and a second position. Make sure you get the first financial position. Your US will be put in second position on the financial and you will be put in second position on the medical. This is all fair and square and makes the whole thing appear legit. Mom and Dad's future needs are now legally in the capable hands of their two devoted children. There are two decision makers for medical, two for financial. Lovely.
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Step 2: The Setup
The Trust may sit gathering dust for some time. That's to be expected. The provisions of the Trust do not come into play until one of the parents becomes ill or dies. This may take some patience on your part. But trust me, it will be well worth the wait.
Now let's say the "triggering event" is that one parent becomes very sick. For the sake of argument, we will say it's the father. Suddenly the Trust document comes down off the shelf. Time to double check who is really authorized to make decisions for Dad's healthcare. Chances are very good that by this time, Mom is pretty distraught and probably not in the best mental shape to be authorizing "chemical code" or "DNR" decisions with Dad's doctors.
This is where having your unsuspecting sibling (US) as the primary healthcare decision-maker on the Trust comes into play. He will be so focused on doing the right thing medically, that he will not be paying any attention whatsoever to the financial side of things. After all, Mom and Dad still have healthcare benefits to pay for Dad's expenses. They still have income coming in. There's really nothing happening at this point that affects the financial aspect of the Family Trust.
At least, that's what US thinks...
Step 3: The Old Switcheroo
While Mom and US are dealing with Dad, you'll be busy in your own way. You'll have several clandestine meetings with your attorney. He or she will give you the high sign when it's time to make your move.
Since it's your own family we're talking about, you will know when the perfect moment arrives. It is imperative to wait until both US and Mom are totally distracted with caring for Dad. Hopefully by this time Dad will be really, really ill. It helps if he needs hospice care, as implementing hospice requires Power of Attorney.
Now assuming your US is like most, he is dead serious about his care-taking duties. He knows hospice is needed. When your lawyer suggests that he (US, not the lawyer) should obtain Power of Attorney, he (US, not the laywer) readily agrees.
However, to make this happen, Mom, who is still listed in the Family Trust, and is not sick or dead yet, needs to be disenfranchised from any and all decision-making power.
How do you accomplish this, you ask? The answer is simple. You get Mom declared mentally incompetent!
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Step 4: Movin' On Up
If you play this step right you will actually be able to get your US to cooperate as your unwitting accomplice. Have your lawyer tell US that it's a "mere formality" to get Mom declared mentally incompetent. Convince him this formality is necessary for him to get Dad enrolled in hospice.
Your ojbective here is to get US to be the one to obtain the doctor's signature on a form declaring Mom mentally incompetent. Trust me. He will not suspect a thing. He'll do anything/everything he can in the interest of supporting Dad and Mom through this incredibly difficult time.
As soon as you get that signed piece of paper, grab it and run -- don't walk -- to the lawyer's office. You've now got what you need to rewrite the trust in your favor! See how easy that was?
Step 5: Grab those Assets
With Dad now on his deathbed, both Mom and US are 100% distracted. They will have no idea what you're masterminding over at the old attorney's office. It will be months before they find out -- and by then it will be too late. Hehe.
So here's how this works:. Now that Dad is out of the picture (figurately for now, literally in a matter of weeks or days), that leaves only Mom to contend with. Oh wait! Remember, we got Mom declared mentally incompetent. So that means that the original trust document is no longer valid. Mom is officially legally incapable of making financial decisions for herself. Luckily, she has you, her faithful Trust executor, to make them for her!
Oh my! And what a conscientious little trust administrator you are! You are so on top of things and so diligent about managing the Family Trust that you don't waste a second. No sirree. The minute you get get that "mental incompetence" declaration signed, you get the lawyer to rewrite any/all sections of the Trust document that don't suit your needs, and off you go!
Money for Nothing
Step 6: Laugh all the Way to the Bank
De facto, you are now the only person with any legal claim to the Trust. With the mere stroke of a pen, you've obliterated both Mom and US from the document. Instead of the Family Trust, you could just as well title the revised document The Bank of Me.
Now, at some point after Dad kicks, US will probably regain his mental equilibrium. This is not to be confused with Mom -- her mental competency is gone, baby gone. It's signed, sealed and delivered on that scrap of paper her doctor signed. But US will eventually start poking his nose around the finances. You see, being a true caretaker at heart, he's still got a vested interest in making sure Mom's taken care of, now that she's a widow. And that means both physically/emotionally and financially.
No worries, however. US can't touch you or Mom's money. He's been summarily written out of the Trust document. That lawyer the whole family worked with to write the original document? Sorry, brother. That lawyer now represents you and only you. Not Mom and not US. YOU are the Trust. They are -- well, they are toast.
Be a "trust buster" -- that's a GOOD thing!
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Step 7: What's Mine is Mine, What's Yours is Mine
Congratulations! You're now in sole control of all the assets in the Trust. You and only you have full access to all of your parents' bank accounts, investment accounts, deeds of trust, credit cards, etc.
Basically, you get the whole enchilada, and brother gets... nada.
You may (or may not) choose to leave a little something in the till for Mom. After all, she did raise you. And it is ... oops, I mean WAS... her money. But she'll never write another check as long as she lives.
Step 8: Relax, Retire Early
Still not convinced? Go ahead. Be my guest. You can sit around and wait, and wait, and wait for your inheritance the old fashioned way. But who knows how long your parents might live? And how much of "your" inheritance will even be left by the time they check out?
No, my friends. In these uncertain economic times, we need to think outside the safe deposit box. Mark my words: Hijacking is the estate planning wave of the future.
After all, it's your inheritance. And besides, you know Mom and Dad always liked you best:-).
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Woooo that was so so well written, with a little streak of sarcasm and venom perhaps, loved it !
Thanks advisor4qb. I will add elder abuse. It does fit, our situation. In fact, "our" attorney is working on a case against her as we speak.
Badco -- Guilty as charged, sir. I wrote it with my fangs bared:-). MM
OK so I was thinking of a bunch of bad things to say about this hub until I read the comments.. sorry if you were the victim in all of this. I have been dealing with some of issues you have mentioned above with my father...But I have had the good fortune of dealing with the Elder Planning Center.. i don't know if this is too late now for them to intervene..
Continue to vent if you need to.. we are here for you.
This is based on fact? I am so sorry. I am dealing with a situation that could blow up into this type of destruction and the saddest part for me is the dismantling of family. The venom and rationalizing that comes from such an event is astonishing. But if you can turn it into a Hub like this, well, I know you are going to be ok. Thanks so much for telling your story in this brilliant way.
I'm so sorry you're going through this! It's worse to be betrayed by a family member, I think, just devastating. Hang in there.
Money for nothing!! Amazing the things people will go through and do in the pursuit of money. I feel for you and your husband.
Wealth in only a few simple (though slightly illegal, maybe) steps! Congratulations, MM, you've just become my financial planner! LOL
Hey, you may or may not be venting, but in the end I think you are opening the eyes of some who may have even considered this an option with their justifications in place.
Keep sharing the other side, venom and fangs are ok, sugar doesn't lessen the effects of poison and poison is what you are talking about here.
As always I enjoy your presentation style and pictorial attachments.
Ms Chievous -- Hooray! That means my hub duped you into believing I actually did this. There is no way in the world I would/could ever think of such a diabolical scheme. I only hope this hub alerts others who might encounter similar scoundrels.
Storytellersrus -- I am so sorry you are dealing with a similar situation. Quite agree with you. The money is secondary. The "trust" within the family has been irrevocably broken. I only hope the person involved gets some help. Rationalizing is a big, big part of it.
QOTL -- Who needs Bernie Madoff when you've got family members who think like this! Thanks for visiting.
TM -- I don't believe the money is even primary. It's CONTROL. Sick, huh?
Emohealer -- I hope I have opened the eyes of people who are involved in family trust situations to be careful who you "trust." And that also goes for the medical decisions. Our attorney says it is always a wise idea to have the executor be someone who is not a beneficiary. My trust is going to be rewritten as soon as all of this is over. That is, assuming Hubby and I have any $ of our own left over from the legal battle! Thanks for commenting. I am so glad you like my hubs!
Janetta -- God love you, woman! You actually made me laugh out loud. I'm operating on 3 hours of sleep and am just a bowl of emotional jelly. I sooo needed your comment this morning. Thanks!!
Oh Mighty Mom..........SO SORRY to hear that you are going through something this diabolical.
A friend of my grandparents and then parents when she was widowed & my grandparents were already gone became a victim to her sister who got some (evil) lawyer to declare her incompetent. This was a wealthy lady. She was slapped into a nursing home (her home & possessions sold).....ended up wearing cloths of people who had died in the nursing home......every time my parents would visit she was without her glasses and hearing aide, etc.
My parents made such a ruckus that the sister had her moved out of state to some other nursing home until the poor soul finally died.
I think people who do things like this (for money) are going to have some tall explaining to do in the next life!
Hi Mighty Mom. It is scary how some family members are predators and feel justified. Scary, scary stuff.
So sad. Who can even think that way? I boggles the mind. Thanks for writing this MM.
Peggy W- Thanks for the anti-diabolical support. We would really like to get some explanation and maybe some restitution here in this life. We're certainly working on it!
Raven King. Predators -- good word. Predators do feel 100% justified, don't they?
Tom. I never would have, that's for dang sure! Obviously our situation is not unique. I have heard from our attorney that this is quite common. And the comments on this hub pretty much verify that, don't they?
Where were you when I needed you?
I am so sorry Mighty Mom, Hope things work out - all the best :)
MM, I was marvelling at how devious you could be till I read the comments...what a terrible thing to go through!
Mighty Mom, hang in there! Never ceases to amaze me that siblings who grew up together or children of loving, rich parents end up duping their innocent family just to get their inheritances and their siblings' inheritances.
I'll keep the above in mind just to make sure the same doesn't happen to any of my (rich) relatives or friends. Thanks for the eye-opener!
I don't want to leave a comment if I will be incriminated in anything. So I won't.
CR -- I'm currently advising Janetta. If it's not too late, I'd be happy to take you on as a "client" as well. LOL.
Kiran8 -- Thanks. Us, too.
FP -- It's actually taking quite a bit of ingenuity and a bit of deviousness to fight this legally. Like a chess game where the pawn is a dear 87 year old woman!
emievil -- The irony here is the parents are by no means rich. We are not talking about a lot of $$$. It's really about "control."
Puppascott -- You crack me up, friend! LOL. I'll pretend I didn't see your non-comment:-). MM
THANKS ALL FOR YOUR SUPPORT. I swear, I log on a few times a day just for a reality check that there are still good, caring people in my corner. It's so wonderful in the face of this evil.
Good GAWD this is awful. Just awful. So sorry, so amazed, kinda speechless. Scum-sucking bottom-feeding venomous little skank is how I would characterize your sister-in-law.
Teresa, God love ya! I absolutely love your line: Scum-scuking, bottom-feeding venomous little skank. This must be what they mean when they talk about "getting your Irish up." LOL. THANK YOU! MM
great hub....This is horrific! What an appalling piece of work this thieving mongrel of an(ex?) family member is - makes you wonder how long this evil plan has been germinating in that nasty greedy little brain. We have been diddled out of a couple of inheritances but the trick is to have two joint long term POA's - one being the family member; the other being the family's employed lawyer who works for the benefit of the person who requires the "care". They are then required at specified times to report their decisions and expenditure etc to the state authorities....that is what happens here ..wasn't always the way. So sorry this is happening...cheers
happened to me a year ago,i could see what was happening and spoke out,was told i was paranoid and evil for suggesting such a thing could be done by such a lovely lady and her daughters,result was my dad died without me being allowed to see him and rest of extended family "accidently"given wrong funeral date!we are named in trust(they are trustees)not allowed anything for 80years-i am 46,my children are 20 and 17....
Hello dear ajcor -- haven't seen you in awhile. Hope you are doing much, much better thn i at this point. I have no problem having checks and balances. The problem is the transparency has been lost behind a cloud of toxic smoke. Makes my blood boil.
Steffiw -- OMG, that is AWFUL. So sorry. I guess it helps to know that no matter how bad it seems someone else always has a sadder story! Thanks for sharing. MM
getting stronger by the day mighty mom,i truly hope there is justice for everyone some day,miss my dad even at 46,desperately but we are the better people and we are LOVED AND RESPECTED,something these people will never have-great hub,food for thought!
Thanks MM - haven't really been around as much as I would like - hoping to get back on track soon - I can totally understand how this toxicity and sneaky behaviour could cause bloods to boil - I just hope that justice wil prevail. We have had a situation in our family where after so many, many years the truth is finally coming to light...look after yourself MM...deep breaths and long walks could help...cheers
Glad to hear that steffiw. There is a certain peace that comes with knowing your heart is pure. You just know your dad knows the truth. Even if Hubby and I lose our fight, I know we have love and respect. Thanks!
ajcor -- I am trying hard not to stress about the outcome. I don't want to live in fear. Deep breaths and long walks are essential. Just ate a bag of M&Ms too. Chocolate is good for the soul, too! MM
HAHA glad I could make you chuckle!! :D
My brother and sister did this to me and my other sister. They took control of my father who was suffering from dementia after my mother passed away, had all the family money put into a medical trust for him with their own names attached and hauled his senile self to a lawyer at a point when he had no idea what he was signing and got me and my sister written out and in a way that they could keep inheritance taxes at a minimum. Yay for them, I guess. Dunno how they live with themselves.
I wish you better luck than I had.
Iðunn -- God Gawd, woman. Sometimes I think you and I are cosmic twins or something! Our story is almost the mirror image. It was the dad who had dementia and died first. The mother is actually quite able to express her desires. She gets rattled and can get confused, but is NOT "mentally incompetent."
Don't know how you can be so blase about your siblings cutting you out of the inheritance. I could learn a spiritual lesson from you, obviously.
Better yet, we plan to nip this plot in the bud BEFORE it's too late.
Stay tuned... and thanks for visiting! MM
Oh MM, this is soooooo good! What a pity you didn't know about this before all the hoo haa that you've been through!
Thanks, CV. Keep on the lookout for the next installment. Trust Busting for Dummies!
keep it up......
Wow this is terrible! I cannot imagine just snagging the cash like that. But then I hear of worse where the one in charge after the death just takes it all.
Thanks for visiting, mukut657 and Erick Smart. I could not have imagined this either. Needless to say, this is not the first time -- nor will it be the last -- this kind of power play has been done. There are plenty of lawyers who specialize in this exact problem! Who knew? Wish I didn't!!!
I believe that one of the worst things you can do in life is benefit/make a profit on the dead, especially when the dead is your own kin! I invite anyone to try this because for doing so, they will roast for it! Truly, this is a great hub and hope that people that read this will benefit by only learning from it and nothing else!
mightymom, it wasn't a lot of fun but it follows a family history of money as priority, lies and garbage so it was less surprising than it could have been... to me, anyway. my sister karen was pretty mad but that was because she used to be one of those finagling freaks who benefitted from and expected the remainder of my parent's money and boy was she surprised when it ceased being the three of them screwing me over and ended up with two of them screwing us both over. I still think my brother david will clean out the bank account and rip off the final sister over time, if he hasn't already but I quit communicating with them all finally. it's like that game show where people keep dropping through the floor randomly until only one is left.
I fled the game early in life and had few expectations and I'm sure I was the better for the flight. toxic people, all of them.
dohn121. Thanks for your comments. I hope someone is able to benefit from this information and prevent the same thing from happening to their own family.
lðunn -- Sounds like in your version of the game those who got out early are better off. Those left standing in later rounds got screwed even more because they didn't see it coming. The final sister is in for quite a revelation when your brother turns on her. So sad.
I cannot imagine (correction: could not have imagined until this happened0 having that kind of non-relationship with my brother and sister. This has really made me appreciate them so much more!
dunno if it helps but you have my warm thoughts. I do hope you come out ok in your situation, but if you don't, money really isn't everything. I mean, it must be something or two adults who both own two houses each wouldn't have stolen what would be a pittance of their own incomes from their disabled sister by commiting a felony, but whatever it takes for people to do that, I'm just grateful I don't have it in me. I'm still happy, I doubt any of the batch of my siblings ever will be, even with the money. I suppose that is something.
Just ridiculous....
So true. Money can't buy me -- or anyone else -- love. We have love on our side. They don't call it the root of all evil for nothing.
We have consulted counsel and have been given some very, very wise advice. Hubby and I are hoping to reclaim our own sanity pretty much as of NOW. The solution is so brilliant in its simplicity that we can't quite believe it. And NEVER would have thought of it -- for one thing, because we are not attorneys. Ours even admitted "Hey, this is a dirty business." No kidding!
Glad you also have something your siblings don't have. Too bad they don't value family. Their loss. WE love you!!!
1kmjs -- It is, isn't it? Or as many people here would spell it "rediculous." Thanks. MM
This sent so many things running through my head I might have to write my own hub so I don't hog your comments section. I'm glad you can vent here and get some support, which it sounds like at this point you definitely need. ((((hugs))))) What you are experiencing sucks, there's just no nice way to say it. But what's really astonishing is how often this kind of thing happens.
I was executor on both my grandmothers and my mother's will and both times other family members stepped in to bully me and become dramatic and abusive. Only one of them was smart enough to actually hire his own attorney though--that was my uncle, a former CEO of a multinational corporation who nearly went to prison for rigging bids and other lovely types of fraud. He's comfortably retired now, a multimillionaire gentleman farmer. That was his punishment once he was acquitted--early retirement with millions. He gave his own mother a private funeral (it would have killed her but she was already dead) and told us we were to ignore her will and distribute her estate according to his wishes, which, after one of the ugliest scenes I've ever witnessed we did end up doing, just to be done with it.
Crime pays in the U.S. It pays really well. And when parents die or become ill it brings out the worst in so many people. Every rivalry, every neurosis, every resentment, comes to the foreground and if money is involved that just makes it worse. It's hard to make sure you get what you want once you're dead. My experience has been that people often don't, even after they've tried their best to insure it legally. Good hub.
Hi Pam. Thanks most especially for the hugs. Somehow I knew you would have experienced something similar -- you always do! Please do write your own hub about your experience -- which has some different components. Then we can link to each other.
Yes, this is all too common.
The attorney Hubby and I met with last night looked at Hubby and basically said, :I can see just by looking at you you have only one agenda, to help your mom. Your sister doesn't share that agenda. It's that simple. This is a DIRTY BUSINESS." We were hoping for a knight on a white horse. What we got was a sharp poke with the reality sword.
At least we know where we stand.
Stay tuned for the saga Part II.
Thanks again for commenting and your support. MM
My grandmother always said that "money is the root of all evil" and of course as a child I could never understand why. When she died I wanted only one thing of her's. A beautiful marchasite/onyx oval cocktail ring. My sister took all her jewely (she had no money) and I got nothing. A few years later she "hi-jacked" money from my aunt that was ear marked for my father, uncle and I and I didn't get a dime yet again. I still speak to and am close to my sister (after a 2 year seperation where I had to think about this relationship). I had found out she was homeless (never was good at handling money) and found her in another state being ripped off of her welfare money by our biological mother (guess the apple doesn't fall far ha?) We are very close now and when people ask me "How can you still speak to her after what shes done? She took YOUR money" I always say "It's just money". Of course they shake their heads and think I am nuts. Just a couple of months ago my beloved father died. (In the process of writing that hub), my step mother has already gone through and gotten rid of many of his things. When I heard this I thought "hmmm is there anything of daddy's I want to remember him by?" and then thought of how ridiculous that sentence was. I need nothing to remember him by and anything I could have ever needed, he already gave me and I carry it with me always. Your sister in law will have the pay the piper one day for putting things and greed ahead of family and love. She has gotten away with nothing.
wow good hub. eye opening.
Moonchild -- Yikes. You've really been through the mill, haven't you? I do totally agree about memories of your dad. You have everything you need in your heart!
Rickyracer. Thank you for visiting. Hope you don't EVER encounter anything like this. MM
Hahaha love it... oh wait, no it's bad! =) It sucks there are people that have done this and will do things like this any time they are given the chance.
Can't we all just get along?
Hello darntoothysam. LOL. Yes, It's good info. No, it sucks! LOVE your avatar! MM
I was thinking this was a humorous piece and that you had a pretty sick sense of humor, until I read the comments. Your family member will do doubt need the money in her own old age as I doubt someone like that will have any friends or family to support her! Sorry to hear you're in such a crappy situation and hope you can work something out.
Wow I read this: http://hubpages.com/hub/My-Sister-No-More
So this scam happened to you. Sorry sweetie.
I hope you would read this about a much bigger scam and maybe write on it yourself: http://hubpages.com/hub/Why-Goldman-Sachs-Is-Commi
Hi Karen Banes, I think I did intend it to be humorous. Or more satire. Biting satire. I dunno. I was pretty upset when I found out what was going on. Thanks for lending your support. We're working on the solution now.
Hello dear bgamall, Yep. That poem's about the same situation. I did read the Why Goldman Sachs... hub and it is fascinating/disturbing. I need to reread it because it struck me as just so outrageous that I could not believe it to be true. These days, however, NOTHING surprises me anymore.
Thanks for visting. I always feel better when I see happy furry creatures! MM
Well played mighty mom.
Thank you, Wesley! The cards are still on the table and we've got an ace in our hand that "she" doesn't yet know about. It ain't over yet! MM
ROFL!! Mighty Mom that was an extremely humorous hub. There's enough info here to write a book. I'm sure everyone can identify with some greedy family member that has taken much of what you write about seriously.
Hi hglick. Glad you found this humorous.That's how I intended it. The situaton itself is anything but. But sometimes writing a funny hub makes the harsh realities of life more bearable.
Thanks for visiting. MM. P.S. I LOVE your avatar!
I'm so glad to be an only child! What a mess MM!
Yep, KCC. That's what I tell my son, too!
Funny article with just the right touch of sarcasm.
Hi Pollyp2000. Thanks. I'm glad the sarcasm came through! MM
I didn't think the sarcasm was appropriate for such a terrible deed. But let me share you my story - when my dad passed away he decided to leave our inheritance in the hand of our mother. It totaled millions of dollars. We could have lived 3 life times and still had enough. Mom kept on warning Dad that if he gave the inheritance or divided it - me and my siblings would marry horrible partners who would divorce us and run off with the family fortune. Fine, she was always super thrifty. But instead, it was mum who kept on getting conned by sweet talkers and threw our inheritance over to sweet talking stockbrokers/conmen or invested it in dubious schemes. I told her she was out of her depth as she had always been a housewife and had zero expertise in financial matters. The truth hurt her pride and she refused to accept my counsel. I mean, I was her baby ffs, what the hell would I know? So having lost most of everything, she spends the rest of our inheritance now at the casino. $10k a week. I struggle to forgive her. She's such a stubborn foolish woman who refuses to see a doctor for her depression.
Hi Jerome, Sorry you took offense at the sarcastic, satirical tone of my hub. Since this is 100% my experience, I use humor to try to diffuse the intense feelings I have about the situation. If I don't "write it out" I would sit and spin in circles all day or tear my hair out. My Hubby, whose sister is actually the one who did this, had a dream the other night that she taunted him to the point where he shot her. He was horrified. But that is how angry we are.
As for your story, I'm truly sorry. Amazing that your dad died worth millions of dollars and didn't have the sense to know his wife would not be able to handle that kind of money. A smarter thing would have been to cut the estate in 1/2 at his death. 1/2 to Mom and divide the other 1/2 into portions for each child. That way you get "something" and Mom has plenty to live on. Then, when Mom dies, whatever is left you divide evenly.
It sounds like Mom now has a severe gambling problem on top of her depression.
Not to be diabolical, but you and your siblings should carry her to the doctor and have her examined.
Not sure, either, what the terms of the Trust state -- who becomes in charge of the family money in the event Mom becomes mentally incapacitated. Because honestly -- and I mean this sincerely and not at all satirically -- she sounds like she should be saved from herself at this point.
Is this how your Dad would have wanted Mom to use his money? And what happens when she runs out? Who then pays her living expenses or care facility????
I would consult legal counsel immediately. This sounds crazy. Good luck! MM
Hi, I guess I took it the wrong way because one of my Uncles did the same thing to my dad which caused him a great deal of bitterness. Now a similar thing has befallen my family, maybe its some kind of generational curse? At least, it caused me to think more seriously about God, Jesus and life. Ah, there is nothing we can do legally - as its legally her money and she's not doing anything criminal. You can't put someone in jail for doing wasting her own money. She's not insane per se. She just does very dumb things occasionally. Dad would be spinning in his grave if he knew what mum was doing. The terms of dad's will was specific - it all went to mum. He didn't suspect she would become this way. Dad was pretty smart - academically - but he was not a very good judge of character. Poor EQ. He was more worried than me and my siblings would do something stupid with the cash. What happens when it runs out? Well, I guess mum then has to depend on the charity of the children she cheated the father's inheritance out of. Very hard. We're trying to contain mum at the moment - shuffling her from one grand kid babysitting session to another - in the hope that she'd find more meaning in life looking after grandkids than in pressing a poker machine button. It works, sort of. We pray too - that seem to be the only thing we can do.
Jerome, I wish you luck. Please wish me luck, too. And it sounds like you have spirituality going on, so let's add prayers for each other. Life is not fair. But, it helps me to know that it could be worse. And it could for you, too.
Hang in there. MM
nice tips
Jump Mam. Sorry to admit it didn't pan out for the perp. So if you were seriously going to try it, I would suggest a different plan:-). Thanks for visiting. MM
Wonderful hub. Its really difficult to believe that this has been written by a poet. You are a competent writer. Congratulations.
glad to hear the legal aspect is almost over, hope the healing doesn't take years and years. we're all here for you!
Aw, Ropey (I feel like I need to give you a name of endearment) you are a sweetie. Thanks. MM
advisor4qb says:
5 months ago
Narcissists who do this should be put into jail. Great hub, Mighty Mom. I can only imagine what you must be going through with that sister-in-law of yours! Just remember that even if she reads it, she will somehow rationalize that she is justified in her actions. Sickening! A good keyword for this might also be "elder abuse!"