Self-esteem is the best gift we can give our children. As parents we face the challenge of changing one's own family history for our beliefs transcend the limitations of our parents.

leave our children an invaluable legacy that will be transmitted to future generations: the love and accept themselves, attitudes that will help focusing the face of adversity As the palms of Miami ... Recently I attended a seminar on education. As a father of a toddler, (as well as a teacher) I am very interested in learning about how to educate my son.

Personally, I am convinced that self-esteem is the best gift I can get myself and my son, and thus to choose an education system I also like to keep track of the values that are transmitted from the school. The person in charge of the seminar said something that caught my attention, she did a nice comparison of the meaning of values education with the palm trees in Miami ...

Miami is an area that is often exposed to severe storms and tornadoes. Most of us have seen images of fuertísimas terrible storm with winds that sweep the area, razing buildings in its path, dragging cars and causing extensive destruction ... but one thing is still standing: the palm trees. Moved by the wind shaking from side to side, and received tremendous shocks. But the tornado to pass, they remain strong there.

We as moms and dads, we can educate our children in a manner such that, when subjected to the onslaught of life, be prepared to deal with them. That are strong to resist, but it flexible to adapt to change and not break, to remain focused in the midst of difficulties.

The roots of the palm that remain strongly attached to the soil, are like the roots of self-esteem: self-acceptance, respect and self-assessment. Self-esteem means feeling and confidence that one is capable of taking the helm of his life. We are mirrors in which our children are watching But How do we achieve? Children learn by imitation, almost exclusively.

We, their parents, we are mirrors for them. Young children are very good observers of what is happening around them. Sometimes doing something and then turn his face to see your mom or dad looking like approval or disapproval, and the response obtained in adults, this is the "image" of themselves they are seeing in that mirror, then in particular. They have another look in a mirror where we reference, until they develop their personality and their own understanding.

But even so, they will beat them in belief, those who were closest to their environment as children. That is why they are so important the first years of life, from conception to 6 years especially. Self-esteem develops from the quality of the relationship between our children and the most important people in the environment in which they grow. They capture the emotional state as radars in a given situation, look at the eyes, read behind the words, gestures, tone of voice and body posture, and draw conclusions. Sometimes true, sometimes false, but for all of them valid.

These conclusions are true or not, are those beliefs about iran as themselves. So no matter what you say but how you say. Everything that we reflect to our children is the base of the image you have about themselves. The opportunity to change history Maybe ourselves as past childrens do not receive the affection and attention we wanted, we needed our parents. Our parents, in turn, will receive much less than they could give us. Every generation delivers what he received as a legacy, and then makes its best effort in the task of parenting. But be that as they have done so, we can choose to operate from the commitment and transcend the limitations of our parents and our society. Louise Hart says in his book The happy family, "Our children give us the opportunity to be parents who have always wanted to have." In one family, self-esteem begins with how to be parents.

Children can not choose how to be servants. As parents, we realize the significance of the change that we have to change our children's future by changing our beliefs and our negative patterns ... They in turn forwarded it to their children the same, and so on from one generation to another.

It can be inspiring to think that you're not just making the effort to change yourself, but these short-chain, family history, to make your children a wonderful gift and invaluable. So where do I start? For accept you, for love more, respect you and take care of your needs first. Such attitudes will enrich your relationship with your children, and they learn to love and to love and respect you. There is something that is now very clear to me: imitation is not just one way of learning for children ... the only one. You're ready or take the first step? Would you like to change your own family history from the love and acceptance? Why do not you do it?