At first you need to be honest, you need to be you.

You cannot go around BSing girls to get with them, because once you are with them, it will bite you in the ass. I truly believe that in life, there are certain things that are meant to be, and in order to really take advantage of life's opportunities and blessings, you have to be yourself, because YOU are the one with the opporunity, not your childhood friend Will who used to give you advice on "How to hook up with chicks" and you believed him, because he lost his virginity before you did.

So anyways, you can really mess up the best things in life by being dumb (especially when you're in a bar and drunk) and you can also fall into the best situation and wake up next to an awesome girl wondering how the heck you did it. Well, those are secrets of nature, life, chemistry and subliminal magic which we're not meant to figure out, but we need to respect them, accept them and work with them.

The worst thing you can do is try too hard. You come off like a total control freak when you do that. You need to be able to let go, to lean back and say "If it happens, it happens and if not, I will move on".

You have to leave yourself the space to be able to do that.

You need to also be ready to give a relationship your all, and if you are in that emotional state of mind, the girl will feel it and be more likely giving you the chance which is exactly what you want, right?

No, I am not a relationship guru. Just a dude who messed up more than any other guy I have ever met, and after years of the same results from the same mistake, I woke up today and read some of Jennifer Bowman's stuff and felt inspired to share something. Girls and guys will never be able to really understand each others, but the older we get, the better we get and it's never too late to learn something new.