How would you cope with an insult?
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We all would have experienced being insulted on at least a few occasions in our lives. We feel so depressed and experience a lot of pains and unhappiness when somebody insults us. Nevertheless, great people have lived without getting affected by insults. They could cope up with insults very easily.
Once the Buddha had to go a small town to preach his principles and on his way, he crossed a few villages, where he met many people and shared his knowledge with them.
When he was in a particular village a group of people who were against his teachings recognized him and started to abuse him with harsh and uncivilized words. Nevertheless, Buddha remained quite calm and unaffected. Their abuse and insults did not have any impact on him. They were astonished at this great quality.
Thereby, they felt ashamed on themselves and asked him how it was possible for him to endure such insults. The Buddha told them," I was visiting a village just before coming here and some of my followers presented me with food and many gifts. I did not need anything and therefore they had to take back all the gifts with them. Similarly, I do not like those words you just hurled at me, you have to take them back too. Therefore I have no need to worry at all"
There is really no need to worry when we are faced with having to cope with an insult in our life. Nobody is free of having to face insults in this world, at some time or the other in their lives, so why should we worry? However if there are any mistakes in ourselves we should try to correct them instead of brooding on the insults. It is far better to analyze the situation and learn how to overcome and correct our faults, than to look for specs in those who insulted us. We should in fact be thankful to those persons for pointing out our mistakes.
So, dear friends, when we are faced with any insult the next time, we will learn to cope with it and manage it diligently.
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Thank you Uma for your wonderful comments.These few words imply how much knowledgable you are in philosophy.I really admire your knowledge.thank you very much.
very nice write up on coping with insult.
thank you Usharaj for your comment.
There are many people in this world who could learn a great deal from the teachings of Buddha - and I am one of them. Thank you for sharing this wisdom with us Vijayanths.
Nice to note you like this hub,thanks jooles01.
Thank you. I just read an insult, a silly one, but it hurt me. I did a Google search on how to remain positive after an insult. Your post was the first one I read, and that was all I needed. Thank you for sharing this wise advice.
I do always (I hope) try to improve what I can, but this particular insult was on a website and kind of a "low blow": the poster wrote that I was ugly, something I've never been called. I'm actually fairly pretty, but it made me think that maybe an ugliness inside came through to that person.
I hadn't felt too bad, but just needed to read something to make me get past it. Thank you!
Thanks so much for this post, getting insulted or joked upon does not feel good indeed, even tho i was smiling and coping it, i still felt upset inside. But after reading this post - I can now try and see through these insults.
Thank you!
iF I AM LISTENING TO A ROMANTIC SONG AND AND MY COLLEAGUE INDIRECTLY PASSES A REMARK THAT SOMEONE IS TRYING TO BE ROMANTIC AT OLD AGE IS REALLY A PAINFUL INSULT HOW WOULD I DEAL WITH IT
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Uma Shankari says:
8 months ago
When your inner mind is as still as Buddha's, well, there would be no effect of praise or scorn. You will learn to take both with equanimity.
Uma