Anytime that you want to approach someone that you don't know you feel a little uneasy. Hey, I am pretty comfortable talking to people that I don't know, but there is always a fear of rejection. How do I overcome that and talk to people, well...I suck it up and get a little confidence. After all, what do I have to lose? This speaks in regards to meeting anyone not just someone that you are attracted to.

Where matters of the heart are concerned it can be a little more difficult to approach someone. What you should first tell yourself is...do I really want to get to know this person, or do I just enjoy admiring this person from afar?

If you really want to get to know them find something to strike up a conversation about. In a recent experience of mine, one of my friends thought this guy that worked at WalMart was very attractive, but she was too scared to talk to him. We went there a couple of times together and casually walked around the aisles that he was near to make it look like we were shopping, but really we were checking him out. I kept trying to tell her that she should go and talk to him, but she was scared, and she wasn't sure what to say.

The last time we were there I was just about to give up on her ever talking to him, when he approached us to ask us if we needed help finding anything. Well, my first reaction was "no" because I had all the stuff I needed and I wasn't the one that wanted to talk to him. She followed suit and also said "no". She immediately regretted that we had both answered this way. This was her opportunity. She asked him to help her find some face soap, and this allowed her to talk to him. I ducked out because I wanted her to know that she could talk to him on her own, and also because I had face soap in my hands, how dumb would that have looked? She met back up with me afterwards and felt this surge of confidence. She handed me her business card and told me to give it to him. This was and is a huge step for her.

If you are at a party find something general to talk about. Something like, I really like the music that they are playing, or I like your shirt. This works for both sexes. The worst thing that could happen is that they don't want to talk to you, or you find out that they are not worth talking to. Nothing lost, nothing gained.

In most of my hubs that have to do with relationships I always reiterate the same thing, be open to all possibilities. You are your own spectacular you and you should not be afraid to talk to people. Let your personality shine through!