How to ask a girl out on a date
58By: Joseph Matthews a.k.a. “Thundercat”
The Type Of Girl
Okay, now when I say "type of girl," I'm not talking about who she is (blonde, brunette, 5'7 tall, etc.). I'm talking about how INTO you she is.
See, if a girl likes you, it doesn't matter when you ask her out. She's going to say YES.
But if she's on the fence, ambivalent to you, or maybe not all that attracted to you (yet), she may need a little more time for you to "work your magic" on her before she'll agree to go out with you.
So before you ask a girl out, try to figure out where she's at on the "I'm Into You" spectrum. It WILL affect your outcome.
Now onto the second part:
The Way You Ask Her Out
This is very important, because it's where most guys make a mistake. There is a certain strategy to asking a girl out that can be successful 99% of the time, and I'll share it with you right here.
Regardless of whether she's into you or not, it's important that you display your desire for her. Now, I'm not saying you have to be drooling all over her in lust -- but I am saying you need to FLIRT with her.
Flirting is important because it will subcommunicate your intentions. Too often, men will hide the fact they like a girl, and then when they do finally ask her out, the girl is surprised and scared because it seemed to have come out of left field.
When you flirt with a girl, what you're doing is "priming the pump" for the date. So when you DO ask her out, she's ready for it and in some ways, expecting it. This will totally bypass that "Shocked deer in headlights" look most women will give you when they're suddenly asked out by a guy.
When you try befriending a girl first, you run the risk of getting pegged in that dreaded "let's just be friends" category. But if you're flirtatious and the girl knows your intentions (even if its on a subconscious level), you will be able to avoid that pitfall because you're making it clear from the beginning that you want to be more than just friends. So if the girl you're working on requires more time, do the work, but don't completely cloak your intentions.
Also, don't do the "Would you like to go out sometime?" line to ask a girl out. That's a TOTALLY loaded question because it instantly snaps her into the "dating" mindset.
You may want to date a girl, but you don't want it to FEEL like dating, because there are all sorts of preconceived notions about dating that can work against you in the long run.
When you ask a girl out, try doing it indirectly. Saying something like "Hey, I'm going to this great concert (or movie, or bar, or whatever) tomorrow night. Why don't you come along?" or "Hey, what are you doing for dinner on Thursday? I know this great place that I think you'd love!"
When you ask a girl out like this, you are, in fact, asking her out on a date, but you're bypassing all the "expectations" of dating. It helps keep things light and fun while getting you the same result.
If you want to know more about how to tell if a girl is into you, how to effectively flirt with a girl, and how to ask a girl out on a date, you should definitely check out my book, The Art Of Approaching. I go into great detail on all the preliminary steps you need to take to get the women you want.
If you haven't gotten my book yet, what are you waiting for? The time to learn how to get more women is now!
Good luck! Happy dating!
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im real happy with this advice, maybe I can ask Hannah Lusty out now (you do not know her)
thank you for putting stuff like this on the web for guys like me who are crushing on a girl and dont know if she like us or if shes ready to date!
im real happy with this advice, maybe I can ask Hannah Lusty out now (you do not know her)
thank you for putting stuff like this on the web for guys like me who are crushing on a girl and dont know if she like us or if shes ready to date!
god this helped i did not know how the hell i would ask my girl out
hi
i am 10 year old and i am goin to ask a really hot girls out this stuffed helped!!
this stuff helped me....thanks.
Thank you. I used the indirect approach like you said and my girl said yes.
dude i got to try it but if it dosent work ill be pissed
This makes total sense. You make it like you have plans already not like tv S#$* actually asking them to go out
This is excellent and legit advice. I've used quote both "methods". As in Flirting or trying to be friends first. If you try to be friends, the girl will never think of you as anything but a friend, unless you are just that incredibly lucky. With the other method it took around 10 min. before you are such great "friends" with the girl she's guarenteed to say yes. Joseph Matthews a.k.a. “Thundercat” great advice and article.
I hope this works on the girl I wish to ask out, I will try your methods and even if it doesn't go down well, atleast your trying to help the less confident guys out eh, cheers mate. ;)
thanks for the advice,, i asked out a girl at school using ur advice and she said yes,, thank you sooo much, : )
i want to ask her out . i wonder if she will be impressed by my rank on halo2? and how many action figures i have? do you know if girls care about guys having all series one street fighter figures including bison psycho figure? i think girls should be impressed by this.
halo king your idea of impressing a girl with action figures is lame no offence but it is. just follow thunderkats advice.
eh i'm 8 years and i'l like to ask a really hot girl out and she is 10. Please i need some advice.
Whenever I see her in the hallways, I look at her, and (as long as she's noticed me) it seems like she's looking at me, but glances away if we make eye contact; does that probably mean she'll go out with me?
Yes she probably will, if she looks at you and turns away..that means she's flirting with you. Well atleast thats what I think...when I like a guy I look at him..and when he looks right at me..i turn my head quickly:)
im gonna ask this REALLY hot girl out. i hhope this works
i'v wanted to ask a girl out at my school, but i've been too nervous. I'm guna try this and hope it works...
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yah all of this is true more boys need to read this stuff cause all the ones i know are sooooooo clueless about girls p.s. the only reason im on here is cause my brother added it to his favorites lol heeeeees sooooooo desperet hehe
thanks thundercat, there's a really pretty girl at my school i want to ask out, i've been shy all of my life, one time she told me at a dance that I was "REALLY GLOWING" what does that mean? does it mean she was checking me out? i hope so, this advice HAS to work, thanks man, wish me luck
Hi im 11 years old and im african but theirs a girl i like and i dont know if she likes me or not when i talk to her she only talks a little and shes kind of serious and shes is vietnimese.im a little overweight and i dont know what to do!!!!! please help me
i like dis girl and she's 2 years older than me but i cant ask her out give me some tips plox!!
I did everything wrong lol! And I still not only got a date, but a girlfriend!
Hey...ummm... well i am desparate right now,so i need ur help Skiffy. I am a freshmen in high school,and i want 2 impress a girl. this is the second time i like her,but i messed up on the first time. She does not like me,sooooo... How do I impress her?
i like this girl and im in elemntry and i have still no idea how to ask her out (she likes me alot) and your advice is kinda " the way of the elders" so yeah! help please! =L
i think this will work, as a matter of fact... im gonna go test it out right now! i'll be back with the results
can't wait to try this on Brooke. oh wait she broke her leg. oh well guess i'll have to try in a month or so.
I am going to try dis to a girl that i like.she always laughs when i say i say i joke and she always looks at me is that good
yea, but dont always think cause she laughs youll get her easily, but as long as u know go for it,




oliver winder says:
2 years ago
im real happy with this advice, maybe I can ask Hannah Lusty out now (you do not know her)
thank you for putting stuff like this on the web for guys like me who are crushing on a girl and dont know if she like us or if shes ready to date!