Husband love your wife

...Husbands should treat their wives, loving them as parts of themselves. For since a man and his wife are now one, a man is really doing himself a favor and loving himself when he loves his wife. No one hates his own body but lovingly cares for it... Eph. 5:28-30 (paraphrased)

It's really amazing when a man and a woman develops friendship, trust and try to become honest or open to each other and that will conclude that they are compatible feel loved and then they are ready to get married.

This is really nice especially when we have the blessing of the author of the first marriage our God the maker. We need this.

Because even we're friends before the marriage, there will be differences that will cause some frictions and sometimes this serves as a test to what you've promise to each other.

Lots and lots of marriages become successful when their love and promises are base on Apostle Paul's advice. Men should know that they are the heads of their wives. BUT remember that the wife is your own body.

Mistakes are possible it can happen that even your own teeth bit your lip, it hurt but it's beyond your control it's already done.

The measurement of loving your wife is how you love yourself. When she's wrong you don't need let her feel that she's a failure, she already feels it. Your wife needs encouragement tell her you understand and if it's against you tell her you forgive her, forgiveness would be easy, you can offer it. It will help her forgive herself. She doesn't need to beg your forgiveness. That's part of your body she is in pain you need to ease up the pain. There's no problem too big that you cannot solve it.

The head should initiate to resolve things. Should initiate to express love. You were given an example how to love. God is your head and God is love, He is the perfect example how to love even the unloveable. How much more your wife.

 

...You wives must willingly obey your husbands in everything...Eph. 5:24 (paraphrased)

This is the secret of all successful woman in their marriages. Apostle Paul's advice to all women.

The question is, "Is this possible?" Yes because the man was already told to love their wives. When the wife is LOVED it's easy to obey.

Love is already builtin in womans life, they don't need to be commanded to love. Obedience was commanded. Man needed to earn the obedience of the wife, it takes their love to do it. When the woman see and feels that her man loves her she will obey him in everything. Obedience is automatic. Love is everything, this one word is powerful it can move mountain.

There's no boundary in love and that the wife can easily confess that her husband is the head of the family. She can show to the world that she's willing to obey her husband to the fullest.

We need the power of God to intervene when the woman feels that she's less loved. This is the reason why she was commanded to obey. When the husband has a shortcoming, Wife should do what God wants her to do. Support the husband especially in the time when he needed her most.

Wife your husband might be the head that commits mistake you'll feel it coz you're one body in Christ and it hurts remember you cannot detatch yourself to the body when your goal is to be successful in your marriage. If your head is aching you drink pain pill don't cut it off. Try to wait on him that he can recuperate, then work with Him with love and understanding.

Wives be ware also that you won't push your husband to their limit. We need to pray for this. There are times when a woman is loved with her husband, sometimes she tends to abuse or become spoiled that obedience is overlook.

Remember Sarah's mistake, Abraham was a strong man but because she loved Sarah, he followed her request. When Sarah a strong spirited woman falls to this and regreted what she'd done in her time how much more we are now in this time.

Let Abraham obey his head and don't take the lead. Sometimes God allows it, woman to be the head or to lead when nobody is capable to lead.

In this situation applies the feature of a vehicle. A car in a regular transporting normally goes forward to go to some destination. But in the point of where you pass through the place where it's dead end you need the reverse going backward before it could proceed to the travel, there are some delays but it can reach where the car suppose to be going.

I conclude marriages should be this way working together for good. Wives we could be the reverse the important part of the marriage vehicle. We can reach the success, we can build our own family legacy that we can pass on to our generations.

Laws given by Moses in the OT - Johua 1:8 says Constantly remind the people about these laws, and you yourself must think about them every day and every night so that you will be sure to obey all of them .  For only then will you succeed.

The ten commandment was then.  Now in our time was compressed to Love God above all things and love your neighbor as you love yourself.

Sometimes people still confused how to love themselves that's why it's more difficult to love others.  If we don't learn how to love others or our spouses, children, family, friends, church people in our community, how can we love our God that we cannot see.

It's really a huge task for all of us.  We need a powerful God to help us do this.   To be  successful in all we do.