It is not a pleasure pleasing people you despise. Isn’t it funny that when a person you don't like very much comes around, you put on a smile? Why do we try to hide it so much? There is no rule book that says we have to like everyone. Do we think we are fooling people? Or, are we fooling ourselves? First of all, what is it that would make us not like another person so much anyway? Sure, some people have some annoying habits and just don't view life the way that you do. Is it possible despise is a cover for jealousy? Even if the person you despise is actually a despicable person, don't you just feel sorry for them? Yet we still remain to be polite. And isn't even more horrible that the person you despise doesn't know you despise them, mistake your politeness for actually liking them?

It can be draining to please the people you don't really care for. I mean actually draining. Have you had this experience? Trying to be polite and entertaining to someone you don't really care to be around. At the end of it all you are glad it is finally over and want to take a nap. It is actually physically draining. It is unnatural to the mind and body. Why do we do it? I think some of us feel we are being the bigger person tolerating a person we deem out of the norm or just plain pathetic? But are we really doing that person any justice? Are we being just to ourselves? Do we feel our dislike for someone is wrong and believe if we kill them with kindness we will make up for it? In either case it is still draining. In this case we are just punishing ourselves.

The truth is there is very little pleasure in pleasing people. I don't believe the goal is to please people. Especially the one's I despise. Honestly, in order to despise someone, you would have to judge them. And if you feel you have to please someone, you would have to feel that you owe them. Those are two no-no's in my book. It is just not realistic to have room for everyone in your life. You can be honest without being mean.

Okay, so where do we draw the line? Exactly! It's all about boundaries. There are physical and mental boundaries we must hold in place to maintain balance. Once you have been able to maintain those boundaries, the people around you will know where you stand. Those who respect the boundaries will stay around and those you don't pay respect to the boundaries will just slip away when there is nothing to gain.

To despise or to be despised is not a good feeling. And pleasing a despised one is not an option. If you hide your despise behind a please, what does that make you? You should despise the pleasure of pleasing someone you despise enough that it makes you straight.