I Like this Girl at School and.......

I'm not sure if she likes me.

I am scared to ask her out.

I think she hates me.

She has a boyfriend.

I know she likes me too.

When I first published the hubpage How_to_get_a_Girlfriend

I didn't realise just how much of a response It would receive, over 159 comments and over 100 emails and counting all with different dilemma's and different pleas for help from teenage boys all over the world, although I myself thought the hub to be informative, I have realised that I have barely scratched the surface and although the page answers some questions it leaves a whole lot more unanswered questions in this hubpage I will try to answer more of your questions and hopefully this will help you to go out there and get that girl.

Be honest with yourself, when you see a beautiful girl across the room the first thing you think to your self is something along the lines of "look at the boobs on that" or "what a body" or even " great ass", you look at her like she is an object rather than as a person.

If the same girl in the same room looks over at you and smiles what do you think? Being honest remember first thing we think " She wants me" it's true and you know it as well as I do. A girl can't look at you but your hyperactive imagination has you in bed with her two minutes later.

Girls are not a shallow as we are, they look beyond the surface, yes the might go for looks at first, but after the initial Wow! Factor she probes deeper into the person to try and find out what makes us tick, looks are not really that important to girls once she learns what kind of person that you are.

Girls like to talk and ask questions they like you to listen to what they have to say and they like to hear what you have to say, this is an important part of the process of getting to know you, they want to know what type of person you are and they are unconsciously weighing up the pro's and the con's of being with you during the conversation, Will you be good to her? Will you treat her with respect, are you a good person. Are you nice, and so on and so on.

In my younger years I spent many a night lying on a bed with a girl just talking, nothing more just talking and getting to know each other.

I like this girl at school But !!!!

Uncertainty and lack of confidence are the downfall of many relationships that could have been, by the time you have plucked up the courage to say something to her, she is already married with three kids in tow, it's not easy we fear rejection and we fear the embarrassment of being turned down and being the next topic of conversation in the girls room.

So how can we take the but out of the title above, and change it to and, I like this girl at school and I am going to ask her out on a date, and I am going to tell her, and I am going to ask if she likes me.

It really is ok to be a little nervous, it is ok to be scared and it is ok if you mess it up so long as the girl you are after can see that you are speaking from the heart.

Fear of Rejection and Fear of Embarrassment

Rejection hurts but you get over it within days, yes it is a step in the opposite direction that you want to go, but it is not the end of the world, there are a million other girls out there in the big wide world who would love to go out on a date with you.

Rejection helps you on your way to finding the perfect girl for you, turn that negative into a positive, if she say's no when you ask her it just isn't meant to be, better to find out now than go through a dramatic break up 3 months down the line.

At least you will have asked her and you wont spend the next few months or years asking yourself, what if?

Embarrassment is nothing, when you fall over in the street you look around you to see if anyone saw it, if they did you turn red and walk away as fast as you can, you just made a fool of yourself and you know it, it's the same principle if a girl rejects you, you get Embarrassed, it is really nothing and you will get over it in a few moments.

So what! You asked her out she said no and she made you look a fool in front of your friends, it's not really that big a deal and you should really just shrug it off, the relationship you desired with this girl would never have worked out anyway, especially if that is how she talks to and treats people.

Positives from negatives.

Rejection and embarrassment are the two main reasons for our lack of confidence, when we want to ask a girl out.

If you learn not to fear rejection or embarrassment then you should be confident enough to ask any girl out.

Best friends

I am best friends with a girl but I really like her and want to take our relationship further, but I am scared that I will lose her as a friend if I ask her out.

The strange thing is that girls ask this question too, fear of losing a friend drives us to hide our feelings and the question remains unanswered.

I could start by saying that if you were true friends with her, you would be able to tell her anything, but in this case you really are trying to spare her feelings.

You don't want to hurt her or lose her as a friend and you certainly don't want her to hate you.

Being best friends with a girl has the advantage of you both having mutual friends, get some of your friends to talk to her friends and to her, get them test the water asking questions like "Would you go out with him" or " If he asked you out on a date ........" get them to try and find out how she feels about you whether she likes you as a brother figure or if she sees you as a potential boyfriend.

I find though that honesty is the best policy ask her face to face, if she is a true friend she will either say no and give you a good reason or she will tell you that she has felt the same way for as long as you have but has been like you afraid to ask, please remember though even if she says no that does not mean that you cannot remain her friend.

70% of all successful relationships are based on friendship first.

I realise that I have only scratched a little deeper with this page and I hope it helps, feel free to email me with any questions I will be only too happy to help if I can, ddh1jimmy@gmail.com