I Lost Me Helping You

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By KCC Big Country


Have you ever got so wrapped up into helping someone else that you began to neglect yourself? What about someone who has spent years trying to help someone?

It's important to remember that many of us, myself included, tend to dedicate far too much time helping those around, when we really need to find a balance of helping them without compromising our own needs. The following poem (if you can call it that) was written on a night when I the frustrations ran high for me. I felt like I was smothering as I struggled to understand how I could waste so much time and energy helping someone else while I lost more and more of me. It was the beginning of me trying to find that balance.


You came to me in so much pain,

shattered by years of neglect

Cold and alone

I was a kind ear and a friendly voice.

I gave you hope and I was always there.

Years have passed,

and you're still in such pain

But now you wonder where I've gone

You no longer feel hope

My ears can no longer hear you.

My voice, now unable to speak.

You have consumed me.

I lost me while helping you.

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Laughing Mom profile image

Laughing Mom  says:
8 months ago

oh WOW!! This is so good, KCC! I know people who've been through it, but no one could have written as well as you did!

KCC Big Country profile image

KCC Big Country  says:
8 months ago

Thank you so much LM!

Whikat profile image

Whikat  says:
8 months ago

I really appreciate these wonderful poems. Your words are powerful to all those who have been, or are presently in this situation in their life. Thanks for sharing.

KCC Big Country profile image

KCC Big Country  says:
8 months ago

Thank you Whikat. Poetry isn't normally my thing. Inspiration hit me early this morning and I wrote and published three in just over an hour. Glad you enjoyed them.

jjrubio  says:
8 months ago

This so so good. How powerful and understandable. WONDERFUL!

KCC Big Country profile image

KCC Big Country  says:
8 months ago

Thank you so much jjrubio!

C. C. Riter  says:
8 months ago

I likey, very good

Randy Behavior profile image

Randy Behavior  says:
8 months ago

I feel this KCC. Well done.

KCC Big Country profile image

KCC Big Country  says:
8 months ago

Thanks CC Riter and Randy Behavior!

Elena. profile image

Elena.  says:
8 months ago

"But now you wonder where I've gone"  That says a whole damn lot, KCC. Ufffff. I hope all those who ever wondered stop to think twice. Kudos.

KCC Big Country profile image

KCC Big Country  says:
8 months ago

It's usually too late.....sadly too late. Thanks Elena.

trish1048 profile image

trish1048  says:
8 months ago

This one speaks to the gut. Such pain, so devastating and so sad and heartfelt.

I'm glad you were inspired, these three you did speak volumes.

KCC Big Country profile image

KCC Big Country  says:
8 months ago

It's about giving so much, and having nothing left. Being left with nothing to even call your own and also realizing all the effort was also wasted on someone who is no better off than they were. All they did was consume you leaving you a shell. It sucks.

rongould profile image

rongould  says:
8 months ago

I've seen it happen to several couples. Toxic relationship personified! Really strong writing and imagery.

KCC Big Country profile image

KCC Big Country  says:
8 months ago

Thanks Ron. It seems it's almost impossible to help those types of people without losing it all.

mayhmong profile image

mayhmong  says:
8 months ago

This really has gotten me all emotional with tears. We can only do but so much to help one another out. (sniff)

KCC Big Country profile image

KCC Big Country  says:
8 months ago

Awwww.......thanks mayhmong! That's the thing isn't it? It really is difficult to help someone else without losing part of yourself.

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