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"I Need Some Space" - How to Win Your Ex Back

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By terrancesharpe34

Separated couple (Photo by e-Vanvan on Flickr)
Separated couple (Photo by e-Vanvan on Flickr)

The majority of us have experienced the words, "I need some space" from our partner. This reaction can arise in various phases of our busy, stressed lives - 1) new career, 2) family issues, 3) fear of commitment, etc. We've all been there, right?

So, you're here today because you want to know how to win your ex back... Let's see about mending your relationship with wise-to-follow advice.

Clearly, you still love your ex, so keep the lines of communication open, maintain some sort of contact - an e-mail, a text message, a phone call, or, maybe even an instant message. Remember your ex needed space, so allow them adequate time to respond to your efforts, avoid leaving multiple messages (even if days apart). Leave one telephone message, or send a single e-mail / text / instant message. If you don't immediately receive a response, your ex just needs a little more time.

Once your ex reciprocates by answering the phone or texting/e-mailing you back, keep in mind to make it short. How to win your ex back is to respect their space needs, so if they respond to you, make sure you're the one to end the conversation on a positive note. For example, you can say simply, 'So nice talking to you today, I have an appointment shortly, so I'll catch up with you later' or 'I'll talk to you again next week, I know you're busy, but it's been good talking to you.' This will prove to your ex that you understand their needs; they'll appreciate you for it! They'll get the feeling after a while that you can have short, positive interactions, which means they won't feel pressured when you both talk because they know it can be as short as five minutes. Let's face it, you're both busy and have your lives to carry on with. You're simply making time for each other.

After a period of time of handling your interactions in this method, you will prove to your ex that you want to be a part of their life. How you'll know if you're on track to solving how to win your ex back in your life will be demonstrated when your ex begins to initiate interactions with you. Once this occurs, you can be open with your ex and let them know how you feel, what you're seeking. Never sound desperate - you want your ex back, but you also want to be with a partner that loves you as much as you love them and their presence in your life. Remember to reflect on positive times you shared together, memorable dates, vacations, funny moments that kept the two of you laughing so hard it hurt!

So, remember the keys to how to win your ex back are: 1) maintain the open lines of communication, 2) respect your ex's need for space, 3) keep interactions short (be the one to help make it brief), 4) don't sound desperate, and 5) reminisce on positive interactions.


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