There are many reasons why marriages fail. If yours is on the brink and you want an answer to the question "Can I save my marriage?", here is some helpful information.

First of all you need to honestly assess your marriage. Is there anything left worth saving? Sometimes the answer to that is no and you have no choice but to move on. But, If you honestly feel like you still care for your spouse, and there is still a lot of love and good in your relationship, the next thing you need to do is honestly evaluate your role in the breakdown of your marriage.

This isn't about placing blame, it's about learning from past mistakes and being willing to change behaviors that were destructive to the marriage. It is these behaviors that have brought you and your spouse to this point in the first place. If you can honestly commit to changing your bad habits you are half way there.

Next, you have to remember that you cannot force your spouse to love you, respect you, or be willing to work on your relationship. The first thing you need to do is ask them where they stand. If they say they don't think there is anything to salvage and they're not willing to try then you really have no choice but to end the relationship.

If on the other hand, after an open and honest talk you both agree that there is something in your relationship that can be saved, and should be saved you do have options.

Going to a marriage counselor will make a lot of sense at this point. It will be important to have an objective third party to help each of you change bad habits and develop better communication skills. Trying to do that on your own will be difficult or almost impossible since you will likely feel hurt and like you are being criticized if your spouse tries to point out some of the behaviors that you have that they don't like, and vice a versa.

One word of caution though; not all marriage counselors are created equal. Some are better than others. It may seem like a pain in the neck but you should make sure that you and your spouse are comfortable with whatever counselor you choose. If you are not, find another counselor.

Unfortunately there are those times where couple have grown apart, or really never had that much in common in the first place. They just cause each other pain. There are some cases where marriages should just be ended.

So if you've asked yourself "Can I save my marriage?" the answer could be, maybe. It can not be done by you alone. If your spouse is willing to make changes and meet you half way then you have a chance. If your partner says it's all your fault and isn't willing to admit their part in the marriage failing, then your marriage is probably dead already. It is time to move on.

NOT READY TO GIVE UP YET? WANT TO GET BACK TOGETHER? TRY THIS!!!