I recently read the FAQs page on a personal blog. The author stated that she had no intentions of accepting comments or email regarding the blog and that everything she said was basically how everyone should think. So this is my response.

Dear blogger [who wishes to remain anonymous],

I am fat. I am 5 feet, 3 inches tall, and I weigh a whopping 213 pounds.Very little of it is muscle.

Once, I ballooned to 235 pounds, and I haven't been under 150 pounds since the fifth grade.

Do you hate me? According to your blog, every fat woman is ugly.

Fat women are also bitter, so you say.

I beg to differ on both counts.

I am beautiful.

Yes, I am a beautiful fat woman.

I get checked out by at least 5 or 6 men every time I go to Walmart. And my husband doesn't like me going to bars without him, because he knows I'll get hit on.

Why? Because I'm HOT!

Miss Blogger, you may think that my fat is disgusting, but it's not. It's just fat.

And I've earned it.

I have 5 amazing kids, each of whom has left his or her own tier of stretch marks on my abdomen, butt and upper thighs. Yes, I can actually differentiate which set of marks came from which kid.

And it's sexy.

Furthermore, I am not bitter.

Not that I don't have plenty of reason to be.

• I've struggled with health issues since I was in my mother's womb.
• At the age of 4 I was molested.
• At 5, I contracted Malaria and Dengue Fever and was diagnosed with arthritis.
• At the age of 16, I tried to commit suicide and failed.
• At 17 I was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia.
• On my honeymoon, when I was just 18, my husband slammed my head against a wall and tried to strangle me.Stupid me, I forgave him, and the abuse went on for 6 years.
  
• When I was 19, I developed lymphedema, which has caused my legs to resemble an elephant's.
• Four of my children have been sexually abused, and so have I.

So I think it would be normal for a person like me to be at least a little bitter, especially with being fat and all.

But I'm not.

I'm happy.

And I tend to make those around me happy too.

I'm sorry, Miss Blogger, if you've been hurt. And just in case we run into each other on the street, I promise to keep my gargantuan body properly dressed.

But please, don't group every fat woman into your idea of fat = ugly + bitter. Because it's just not true.

Sincerely,

kp