It is a sad situation that when you break up with someone and want them back, you tend to make a heck of a lot of mistakes. Your ex then stops paying any attention to you and making you feel even worse. You then make more mistakes that exacerbate the situation.

Are you making these mistakes.

1. Ringing them all them time.

2. Texting them.

3. Hanging about outside their home.

4. Pleading with them.

5. Threatening to harm yourself.

6. Trying to make them jealous.

What can you do to fix these mistakes.

1. Stop ringing and stop texting. What you are actually doing is not allowing your ex to deal with the situation. You are just making them angrier. How can their getting angrier help you get them back? Be realistic it can not so give them and yourself a break. Stop.

2. If you are hanging about outside their house how will that help? After all you want them back not to be arrested for stalking. It is time for you to step back and look at your behaviour in this situation. You will have to allow the your ex partner some chance to even miss you.

3. The full on begging and pleading will never get you anywhere. You will appear weak and silly. You can not get someone back into your life, if they have left, by making them think of you in terms that devalue you as a person. We have seen the movies where one person is on the ground arms around the person's legs who is walking away, begging and pleading. Remember how you thought they were ridiculous. Don't make yourself ridiculous.

4. Trying to get someone back by saying I'll kill myself, or I'll hurt myself, or someone else, is not an endearing trait. I'm not going to lie, the person may come back to you, I have seen that happen. However, your ex will not stay with you. You have a find a way to rebuild your relationship and it will not be with this kind of blackmail. Please do not pretend that you think this behaviour is really valid. The use of a blackmail technique like this never has a justification.

5. Okay so you want to go out and sleep with some people to make your ex jealous. It may work they may get jealous but in general they will probably think a lot less of you as a person. They will not want you back because who really wants someone who sleeps around. It only proves to your ex that you are not a good person and that they were right to leave you behind.

Where to now?

Alright so do you still want your ex back? Are you looking at your behaviour and thinking it has been a bit shoddy up until now?

There are proven psychological techniques that you can use to get an ex back. This e-book that you can get straightaway may help you in your pursuit to rekindle the flame of love with your ex.