I want to stop being afraid.

Have you ever thought this? Is fear and anxiety causing problems in your life?

You are not alone, many feel just as you do. But what have you done about it?

This state is one of those that evolution has given us to do a specific job. To warn us when we may get hurt, so it is a good thing to feel, right. The problem for some people is what they do when this state comes in to there life.

Tony Robins defines fear as “false evidence appearing real” and a lot of the time it is, because your mind can not tell the difference between what is real and what you are imagining. MRI scans show that when you imagine something the same arrears of your brain light up as if you are actually experiencing the event.

In every day life it is why you can feel guilt about the past or worry about the future when neither are in reality happening.

I was in this state a few weeks ago. Someone attacked me and threatened to beat me. The more switched on will say you should have seen it coming and avoided it. I did see it coming and made the decision that this gentleman needed to be stopped as he was endangering others.

I disarmed him and defused the situation and he walked away with his ego intact a win win situation for all. I only was able to do this because I controlled my fear of getting hurt or of hurting the other person and quickly moved out of this emotional state into a more useful one.

So my question to you is why do you want to get rid of something that is designed to protect you and look after you? Why not learn to use it? When it strikes why not take the steps needed to avoid being possibly hurt?

Do you know what the difference is between fear and panic? I thank Marc McYoung for this one. It’s knowing what to do. When you have developed a reliable asset for dealing with your problem then you will never experience panic.

But if you do not know what to do then you may freeze, not a good state to be in as this may get you hurt or in real life you just won’t take the necessary steps needed to deal with the problem.

It is made up and will never happen. Are you in this group of people? If something might happen or could happen then what steps are you taking right now to change your future to reduce the chances?

Your emotional state is your responsibility no one else's. Maybe you just have not realised this in your past. There is a lot that you can do to learn how to control and use your emotions so that they add to the quality of your life and allow you to experience more joy and fun and security in your life.

Below are two links to some of my sites. You know what to do.