A few days ago my husband asked me to do something. This was something I had been a bit negligent about, and was so obviously mine to do it's too embarrassing to even say what it was. The unusual thing about this exchange was he actually had a "tone". You'd have to meet my incredible husband to know how rarely that happens. He almost never uses a "negative" tone with his voice. He certainly never raises his voice. That said, the tone of his voice was notable.

Later that evening he apologized for being abrupt. I jokingly replied, "What are you talking about Sweetheart? I didn't hear you say anything." He went on to refresh my memory. "Seriously, I didn't hear you." I assured him. "I never listen to you when you are irritating me. That's how you always stay perfect in my eyes."

Now of course, this isn't a model for good communication - or is it???

No problems get solved from the energy of frustration. Of course I heard him. I immediately took note. I realized he was right. However, as for his snarky tone of voice - that went in one ear and out the other. When it comes to David, I only see him as the miracle of perfection he is to me. For the most part he can do no wrong in my eyes. On the once in a blue moon occasion he might slip from that throne, I ignore it. If it's more then a slip, I ignore him entirely, until he's returned to his "perfect in my eyes" status.

I realize this may sound entirely unrealistic to many readers. However, believe it or not, and you can ask anyone who knows me, it's part of my commitment to my marriage. I only recognize the divine in my husband. He makes it easy. However, it's been a good practice for me. Everyone, myself included has relationships where uncovering the divine is a little more of an excavation. However, just imagine a life where all your relationships were 100% divine all the time. Believe it or not, it's possible. How??? People are human. Human people are messy! Maybe, yes, part of the time. But, everyone is also divine part of the time. Work with me here. Imagine a life where anytime anyone in your life showed you something slightly not to your liking, and you either ignored it, or walked away from it until perfection returned.

Bank teller grumpy - ignore it.

Daughter disrespectful - walk away.

Librarian obtuse - ignore it.

Husband has a tone - ignore it.

Mother complaining about the holidays - hang up.

You get the picture. To give your attention to or engage in anything that is less then perfectly pleasing is choice. To disengage is also a choice, one most rarely exercise, but a choice none the less. Is life 100% perfect? Obviously it doesn't seem that way 100% of the time. However, do I have to notice that??? Heck no.