Unfortunately most of the time where matters of the heart are concerned we are sometimes blind to the reality of things. I don't know how many times I have been in love with someone that didn't love me back, or known someone that is in that situation.

Here's some harsh reality... We often love people who don't love us back!

I know that is hard to swallow, but now that you are past it, here is some advice...

First off, don't make it a situation where you point out everything that sucks about the other person. This will only make her dislike you, and you don't want to do that. Have you told her how you feel? If you haven't...you should. I really believe that honesty is the best policy. Otherwise you will spend days, months, years or even decades pining away for someone that doesn't know how you feel. Get it off your chest, you will feel better. If she doesn't reciprocate your feelings, there is nothing you can do to force her. Just accept it and move on. That might mean staying friends, and understanding that's all it will ever be, that might mean not being friends anymore.

Here is something that I have heard when I tell people that I like them... "Oh I really like you too, you're like my best friend, my little sister". Okay, if you have heard you are like a brother to me, you are never going to get to that place with them. Just accept it.

Overall, my advice is to put yourself out there...and if the feelings are reciprocated...don't force it. Love can't be forced.