In love with someone who loves someone else

Well unfortunately you can't make anyone fall in love with you, no matter how great you are. Sometimes love is blind, and we have no idea why we love someone. We just do. It's like cupid flung an arrow right into our hearts. When we're in love, we feel great. When it's over, we cringe in agony. And you may have no idea why this girl is in love with this guy, but for whatever reason she is. Maybe she's got some dependency issues or she likes rude jerks. I don't know.

But have you told her how you feel about her? Not the "I love you so much, be mine," but have you told her that you had feelings about her and wanted to explore those? If you haven't, maybe it's time you did. Or if you're too nervous or shy about doing something so up front, why don't you start sending her flowers or writing her little letters to tell her you care? You could even act like a secret admirer, sending her these little presents and telling her that she deserves everything in the world.

Some examples:

Flowers: "These are no comparison to your warmth and beauty."

Chocolates: "Sweets for the sweetest girl I know."

Teddy bear: "Just as precious as you are."

I know these sound corny, but some girls really love hearing these things. We're saps for romantic comedies, chick-lit, and romance novels.

If you play the secret admirer card, maybe one day she will return your feelings. But if she doesn't, be ready for some real pain and sleepless nights. But you've just got to accept that it wasn't meant to be. Not everyone in the world is going to love you. Maybe you're just not her type... maybe you're too tall or short for her... Whatever the reason, she just may not be the girl for you.

But you'll bounce back and find someone who likes you for you. Don't hang on to an infatuation and the dream that maybe some day she'll change her mind. And if she does, will you still want her even though she's stomped on your heart repeatedly?

Good luck,

Asian Chick

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