My biggest problem with life and people is that everybody around me and associated with me must be happy as often as possible. But this cannot always happen. So how do we react to situations we find ourselves in that we know are difficult and painful

I often feel inadiquate when I see people around me unhappy. I'll go out of my way to make them happy and when I feel I feel absolutely useless.

I have just gone through a second failed marriage. I had no intentions when entering into any of my marriages to fail but circumstance had it to happen that way. I tried in vain to save them both but once again failed dismally.

I find that sometimes I must be around people in an attempt to forget the difficult situation. Other times I need to be away from people to try and sort it out on my own.

I am a manic depressive person. I need to sort my difficult and painful times out as soon as possible. If I allow them to mature it could become fateful to me. In other words it could end in death. So far God has been very good to me in that He sends the solutions to me before it is too late.

When I am tired I find it difficult to get out of trouble. Every nerve fibre in my body is on alert. When people rag me I find I have very short fuses. And when I try and explain myself I get run into the ground to no end. However, this I can handle easily.

Some days are very lonely for me. However, after my second failed marriage I decided to remain single no matter what. I am prepared to go through the quietness that has become my enemy over the years. I am prepared to sit alone and just work on a new book or play a strategy game online. I prefer being by myself.

I also like to be among my friends. I have a problem in this department. I don't drive at all. So how do I get to them?

I am fortunate to have many knowledgeable friends who give me advice the value of gold. I take all into mind and heart and absorb what I can. No one has offered me advice I cannot use. I find it comfortable to have the knowledge of knowing.

Men bottle their problems in most cases. They find it difficult to talk to others about the problems they face. We are not multi skilled. We cannot be tough in being the breadwinner and soft when we need help or assistance with a problem.

I am in a difficult position at the moment. I want to remain single for a long time. But I also want to keep my female friends. Many of them don't want to associate with me while I'm going through my second divorce, even though my wife deserted the marriage three months ago and I have not seen or heard from her since. I cannot get on with my life until the previous marriage and divorce has been removed from me completely. I am in a limbo that I cannot get out of. It is affecting my work and the way I feel about life. Being so stressed out and tired is also not helping me.

The only thing I have available to me is the ability to write books, ebooks, hubs and lenses to try and forget the situation I am in.

So if you're wondering how men deal with dificult or painful situations in their lives..... We can't and don't. They continually eat away at our characters until some woman comes along and offers us a life-line.