I know who wants to actually date or meet someone through the Internet. But to tell you the truth that is actually how I met my amazing guy. I was tired of going out, the dating scene was the same thing. None of the men I had met at bars or clubs wanted anything serious. It was always the same thing, you'd have a drink or two, exchange numbers, he'd call and set up a date. Then he'd take me somewhere nice, we'd have great conversation. The next morning I would be so excited about finding someone who seemed to have the same things in common and wanted the same things as I did. But later in the day I wouldn't hear from him. Then another day still no phone call. So I would then call, I know such a bummer when you have to call the guy that took you out. No answer, I'd leave a casual message and never get a call back. So I turned to the Internet after about three years of bad dating. Then once I got out there and met people that were tired of the dating scene as well. I actually got my phone calls returned. And I have met an amazing guy that wants the same things as I do. Now we are engaged and planning our wedding for next year. So I'm writing this hub so that others will be able to find the same happiness.

Continue reading for my safety routes with finding someone on the Internet.

In our society we've moved past the days of relying on friends to set us up on dates or hoping to meet a great guy on the street of our hometown. Everyone has busy lives so most singles turn to the Internet looking to meet some for love. The type of person that is tired of hanging out in bars or clubs looking to find it. So if this is you then read on I've come up with a list to help you set up an Internet profile the right way, safely and effectively.

We know that if were chatting and flirting with a man via email, instant messaging, or chat rooms. That we also are wanted to meet them in person. But then in your first meeting the person arrives and its a total mess. He's older, fatter, shorter, and doesn't look anything like his photo. And then he quickly admits to not being a real lawyer. That is the most frustrating part of online dating is actually dating the person that you are talking to.

So you must be aware that with online dating comes that fantasy part. Which in itself is only just a fantasy. So if you keep reminding your self that meeting someone online is just one way to meet someone new that is looking to date the same way you are. If you keep an open mind and approach it with a positive attitude you're on the right track.

So first your going to want to choose your screen name. Usually you look around at other people's screen names to help give you an idea. But I recommend choosing a name that's significant to you but is not strange to someone else. For example, you see a woman that calls herself SexyLady4u or HotMama69 that's just saying that their easy to get into bed. Yes it does attract men, but only the ones that want to get laid. So basically you don't have to put that much into your screen name, just keep it simple. Try to use your real name, this presents you as truthful and straightforward. You don't need something clever or cool. Just be yourself.

Don't lie about your age. Some men in their mid forties will do so because they are trying to attract a younger woman. Maybe these men are just wanting a younger woman but some of these men are wanting a younger woman because they have decided they want children. So this Mr. forty something is going after this twenty nine year old of course he's not going to reveal his true age until he meets her, takes her out and shows off his new Mercedes. Instead he could've just revealed his age and that he simply wants to date a younger woman in his profile. So be honest about your age because you do not want to build your relationship on deception. This will certainly collapse quickly.

So being honest about your age, you should also continue with this honesty with your height/weight and posting up your photo. Many sites ask you about specifics, but you don't have to reveal this information. If your using a recent, good quality photo then the height and weight portion should speak for itself.

When your writing your profile, let me say again to be honest. If you're dishonest your really backing your self into an impossible corner. So say that you do meet an amazing guy and the first thing that he's going to learn about you is that you're a liar. He eventually is going to learn that you were never a Dallas Cowboy cheerleader or that you don't have a modeling contract. Another mistake is that people don't write about who they are they write about who they want to be. The objective of writing your profile is not to sound like this ultra sexy, cool person that just sounds like a fantasy. Some dating sites ask you a series of characteristics like are you warm and caring? Are you adventurous or spontaneous? These yes or no questions just suck, don't they? And when your reading someone Else's profile that says their caring and kindhearted. How can someone write that about themselves, and you wouldn't find this out until you've really gotten to know the person.

Another thing to consider when reading another person's profile, they could put something like "I love hiking" thinking they are adventurous and like the outdoors. Then it comes to find out they love to sit on the couch and watch people hike. So when writing your profile be honest and don't confuse the situation anymore than it needs to be.

It's fine to be a member of a bunch of dating sites. You want to attract as many as possible. Your looking for the love of your life, he could be anywhere! But first you will want to decide how many sites you want to have or that you can keep up with. Be cautious not to start a romance with someone where you spend weeks e-mailing but never actually meeting. This is not a way to get to know each other before the date. Your investing to much emotion and expectations in him that he may never deliver. That just leads to disappointment.

So first just exchange a few emails, then ask Do you want to talk on the phone? Based on how the phone call goes arrange to meet for coffee. But do not talk on the phone more than once. Your objective is to arrange a face-to-face with the first phone call. So if the face-to-face is a no show then you haven't created this image of this guy and you can move on. Remember this is time for you to investigate. Not invest.

What you need to keep in mind when Internet and online dating is to not create a fantasy around someone you haven't met in person. This isn't a healthy way to date. When hiding behind a keyboard or a phone receiver, it's easy to be a different person. Always be brief until you meet in person and find out if you feel the same way.