Is Divorce Always A Bad Thing?
67Divorce - Good Or Bad?
People decide to get divorced for all sorts of reasons. Sometimes it is just one party that has had enough, while the other is still madly in love. Determining whether a divorce is a good thing or a bad thing will always depend on the situation.
Divorce is a good thing when...
1. Both parties just want to move on and get on with their lives.
2. When the whole family is suffering because of the marital stress (in other words, you are resolving this problem and making the family's suffering go away to the extent that you possibly can).
3. When you both decide that it's the best way to go. At least you can agree on that, right?
Divorce is a bad thing when...
1. Both parties blame each other for the fate they have been dealt.
2. When one party wants the divorce and does not want to try and work it out whereas the other party doesn't want the divorce and wants to try and work everything out. Conflicting wants.
3. When divorce is wanted for all the wrong reasons. It is also bad when the break up of a marriage is due to such things as infidelity.
All in all, divorce isn't such a bad thing. If it's what is best for everyone it is what needs to be done. Yes, you were both in love once upon a time but things have changed for whatever reason and life is all about change and with change comes the chance to move forward. Divorce isn't a bad thing, it's just a bad experience.
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I always look at it from my kids perspective - what do they see, how will this shape their views in the future? I want to raise them with the right ideals about marriage and do so by setting an example. Actions do speak louder than words.
I must admit - I believe marriage is forever - regardless of how bad it gets. But, especially when kids are involved, if it is causing them suffering, something needs to be done!
divorce " can be worked out if one does not want it it is more likely in some "cases" the other one who is in involved like the mother in law tells her daughter to divorce him all to if the mother in law did not like him in the first place and who was divorced her self. some women find worse men then the ones she was married too at times the fence is never greener of the other side" when there is kids yes they are the victims of who get stuck in the middle. and they hurt for what becomes of it. and most of the times as I learn t most father and mothers that are divorced have there children follow in to that same category my sisters x husband parents divorced. my x wife sister did with her x husband cause his parents had divorced and re married. so any one who does love one another its better to work out some ones differences. if there is still some spark there left" to
hold a marriage,
what if the guy is a bad example and both want different kinds of goals. He just plays X box and thinks the kids can take care of them self now and later . I want to be stable and have a good life but be able to help with the kids even after there not kids anymore . I have a lot of regret and he likes to keep us in debt. Do i get out and hope for the best or do i stay and let the kids think that its ok to spend ur life on the couch.
Bozyslawa says:
2 years ago
thanks for your advice and thoughts, much appreciated!