Is It Possible To Make Someone Love You ?
69We all change, all the time
Human is changing, by nature. We are the sum of our experiences, so anything we do makes us different. However I'm also convinced that beyond this variable part, we all have a true personnality, which makes each of us unique, and that does not change a lot.
This core part of personality has been given many names: soul, subconsciousness, aura, "moi intérieur", and so on. Call it as you want, I don't have any preference, and I'm not used to any special word for that.
In my humble opinion, this core personality has a lot to do with love, even if I can't really explain how. Not that I don't want, but I simply not understand all of it yet. If you have any additional element, feel free to send them in comments.
True Love Is The Only Love
I assume that what you look for is a genuine and reciprocal relationship, based on truth and trust. You want love the other for what he / she is, and you want him / her to love you for what you are.
Even if some love doctors offer pills, potions, and other magical products supopsed to make your partner love you, do you really want this ? Can you live a relation where you know you basically cheated the other at the very start of it ? Will you even beleive your partner is truely in love ? No way...
Start Building Experience Together
The best you can do to make someone love you is to start going out with him / her, and share time, being yourself. Do not try to impress your partner by changing you - you don't want his / her love being based on someone you are not !
Chaging who you are beyond experience, or trying to to it to your partner to be is not something that can be sustained for a long period of time. If both of you are sincere and love does not come, end of the love-story.
I know it is hard to hear, but sometimes you love someone who does not love you. This can be a destructive situation for the one not being loved and forcing or simulating love would be destructive for the one not being in love.
Life is not always sweet, but so it is...
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You're right Sirya, but beware not hurting yourself in making you a powerful personality...
I agree but in my own words the problem is I lost the words because I am not sure how hub pages work and they have gone somewhere.
Gareth.
Now i got somebody to love me!!
Glad to hear that Cinda !
The guy am in love with seems not to be responding.I thank God for him but i'll learn to let go.
nah, i just lost my gf of two years who is the only girl i ever loved and tried and tried to get her back, and now shes with someone else. id like it to be true but its all a lot of bollocks
I'm sorry for you brian, but as I wrote in this hub is the best that can be done. But doing the best you can don't automatically means it'll be sufficient...
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Sirya says:
9 months ago
Quete an enlightening hub,
I'd like to add my point of view.
It is very possible to make someone love you, but you can never force someone to love you.
This is because each one of us has a personality. You can make someone love you only by making the most of yourself. Create that real powerful personality that becomes magnetic, then express your love to the one you feel for.
each on of us has the power to add on our personality.
Though as I said, you can never force someone to love you. Let me say that, your spouce is not obligated to love you.
If you are married, you need to start a '2nd Courtship'. make more of youself, improve yourself. You will find out that your spouse will try to keep up, and that will kindle the flame you have.
Warning: you can never win someone love by being their slave. They might end-up pitying you if not abuse your love.
Sirya.