Imagine, That it has been a long, hard week at work. All you want to do is get home to your wife, take her out for dinner and drinks, so the two of you can relax and catch up. On your way home you call the house. There is no answer, so you call her cell. You get her voicemail. So you leave a message, "Honey, I am on the way home. Thought we could go out for dinner and drinks. Call me." She does not call you back. You come home to an empty house. Maybe she had to work late, you think. So, off to the shower you go. After all, if you're gonna get "lucky" tonight, you've got to look your best. Well, she never calls, and now it is after ten, so your thinking, "what the hell?" You keep calling, but there is no answer. Finally, she arrives home, it is after midnight and you are hot. Where have you been?, you ask. She tells you that she had a last minute meeting at work, she is beat and she is going to bed.

If you are still reading this, chances are, your wife has done this or something very similar to you. If you bought the story she handed you, it had to be the first time she had done anything like this, right?

Let's take a minute to analyze her story, in this scenario. When was the last time you were in a business meeting until midnight? Unless you had clients coming to town, that you had to entertain, this simply does not happen. Besides, if she had clients coming, she would have known, right? Logic dictates that she would have mentioned it. And she cannot pick up the phone? That is bull-shit too.

Wait a minute. Before you dismiss this story, I need to let you know, this actually happened to a friend of mine. In fact, he let his wife tell him this story over sixty times during a three month period. This guy had it bad.

Okay, so maybe your story is different. But you do have a story, don't you? Otherwise, you would not still be reading along. You have doubts. She just... has not been the same lately. Has she? And you are wondering, Is My Wife Cheating On Me?

Okay, we have established that you are wondering whether or not your wife is cheating on you. But, you may feel guilty for feeling this way. After all, she is a great girl. Be careful! Never underestimate your wife's capability to cheat. Today, women are nearly as unfaithful as us guys. Whether a wife is cheating or not, is a legitimate concern of many men today.

First off, according to www.mrgoodman.com, women cheat for very different reasons than us men. Women need an emotional connection, one that is intimate and causes them to feel as though she can confide in you and bond with you on an emotional level. Women need to be the center of their man's attention. Also they want to be desired, experience romance and feel special.

Do I need to draw you a picture? If you are not providing her with these things chances are, she will cheat with the man that does.

You should also consider the fact that she may not love you anymore. She may cheat rather than end the relationship herself. She may lack the confidence to confront you. So she cheats, in the hope that you will catch her and end the relationship yourself.

Personally, I think it must be different for every woman. But here are some things to look for, according to www.AskMen.com.

Has her behavior changed in any way? She may not be as needy as she use to be. She may have stopped asking you to help with things she normally would.

Has she stopped getting upset with you over things she normally would? Are all the small things you screw up, suddenly okay?

Has she stopped sharing her daily activities with you? Is she being secretive?

Does she switch conversations about her into being about you? In other words, does she avoid communicating about herself all together, with you?

Is she going out of her way to shower you with attention?

These are just a few of the many red flags that may show that your wife is indeed cheating. Like I said earlier, I believe that every woman is different therefore, it is logical to believe that the signs as to whether or not they are cheating would differ for each woman.

Check your gut. Do you just have a feeling she is cheating? Or do you have a strong feeling she is cheating? Worst yet, do you have proof she is cheating? How you handle this, is totally based on how you answered these questions.

If you just have a feeling, it would most likely be best, not to go off half cocked and accuse her of cheating. Maybe something is wrong with her, and she does not know how to tell you. So, ask her. She is your wife. Communicate with her. Let her know you are concerned and ask her if she is okay. Be sure to communicate the behavioral changes you have noticed. Be gentle, remember that you want her to feel comfortable. By no means should you attack her with accusations.

If you have a strong feeling, again do not go off on her. Alienating her is the last thing you want to do, right now. If you feel that she has lied to you, do not assume it is because she is having an affair. Once again, communication is the key. You might say, " I know you have not been completely honest with me ", and then ask her, why? Remember, to do your best not to have an accusatory tone.

If you have proof, well then you are pretty much on your own, and I am not quite sure why you are reading this article. Because you already know that your wife is cheating on you. But, you may choose to tell her that you are aware of the affair and then let her know what you plan to do. For me, this would never work. I would most likely find a bottle of whiskey and voluptuous women to drown my sorrows into.

I really have no idea. You certainly are under no obligation to. I know that I would not be able to. I have tried and it never worked for me. I just harbor way to much resentment. This is a question you will have to do some serious soul searching to answer. Here are some questions for you to ponder over, while deciding.

• Will you be capable of trusting her again?
• Why did she do it? ( If she refuses to say, you may need to reevaluate whether you can trust her again.)
• If it has to do with your relationship, are you capable of fixing it? (Be honest with yourself.)
• Is the relationship worth the effort it will require?

In closing, I would like to admit that this is a very difficult subject for men to discuss openly. Mainly because it cuts to the very core of our manhood. There seems to be a prevailing perception that if we admit our wives or girlfriends have cheated on us, somehow we lose our " Man-Card ". If you are going through this, it is important to remember that you are not the first and you certainly will not be the last. That fact is women cheat. And while they indeed, do cheat because of different reasons, they still do it nearly as much as men do. You are more apt to lose your " Man-Card " over doing nothing. So if you think, or are sure your wife is cheating. Be a man and do something about it!