One of the hardest lesson in life is that not every thing that happen to me was my fault but it is my problem.This is a hard saying but it's very true,we all have been hurt by something or somebody in most cases we are scared.And these scars probably have lead to some of the choices we made.For some of us those choices have led us down paths that leave even more scars.

The day comes when we see the path we are on leads no where,and we begin to want to live better but we find the weight of the past and our bad choices have handicappedus,and we seek help and we keep being told to get over it.Words like forgiveness are hard to digest,but we must or we die.If we take a hard look the people or what ever harmed us they have moved on and we are stuck.Stuck with the pain,shame,guilt,and anger the list goes on and on.We can not or will not see that we have begun to self inflect we are really hurting ourselves to get at those who harmed us.Hurting people can not afford resentments and when we hold on to past wrongs seeking to get even or recevice pity we have let resentment take up residence and we forget how to forgive.This lack of forgiveness is like cancer it eat away at our spirit causeing all types of spiritual illness that only God can heal.

When we look honestly its our own fault that we still suffer years later,when faced with this we want to run,but do not no where to run.Run far away from the problem but it sticks with us everywhere we go it goes there seems to be no way to be rid of it.But there is its call forgiving yes to be free of tragedy cause by others we have to forgive.Because when we forgive them we can forgive our selves.

When we forgive our selves there a freedom,that comes to us that lets us know that know we can go on.We feel the presents of God and our life and we realize it was not my fault but it was my problem and God could only remove it when I ask him too.That seems to be the hadrd part asking God to take it;but when this is done something remakable happens I get to move on and I realize I have been given something I can give away freedom.

This is not and overnight matter neither is it easy you will need some help I have found the twevle steps and other people that have overcome to be very helpful and helping me to see no its was not my fault but it is my problem.And I must remember I was not made to solve promblems on my on God is there to help along with people who have overcome and get joy helping others overcome.

If you find yourself today not being able to get past old hurts I hope you will read this hub and look up to God and ask him to lead you to those who have overcome,I know he will answer because he answered the same prayer for me.

And Today my life has meaning and purpose I no longer hate me or the people that harm me I have been set free and so can you.