Jerks vs. Good guys: the battle for the hearts of girls rages on


All of my life I have been the good guy, I was chivalrous and that meant more than holding door open. I treated girls with respect and dignity. I lived with decency and did not expect the world from anyone else. Though in this day and age many more guys are becoming jerks and by jerks I mean guys who will say anything to get a girl, from saying “I love you” and pulling whatever they have to get a girl and then most likely never calling them ever again. Here I will give the account from the side of a good guy who is flirting with the line that divides between jerks and good guys.

During highschool and before that I was a good guy, I am very friendly and outgoing, very social and would give you the shirt off my back if you needed right there, and right then. I am not a hideous monster who needs to hide away in some neither deep dark place nor am I take good care of myself. I had a very active social life and was a well known party boy (I didn’t use any drugs though, ever). I was never the quiet chubby little nerd who spent their Friday nights and weekends doing homework and wishing they had friends as they practiced their tubas by themselves in their rooms with their stacks of comics and numerous random electronics and star wars posters on their walls. It did not matter when or why but I was always out and about playing sports, bonfires, dances, any kind of social activity I was all over like acne on a teenager.

So here it is

Chivalry is dead so why should “nice/good” guy defend something that is dead. This is not the battle of Thermopylae; there is no glory in sacrificing yourself for an ideology most people do not even know what the word means. Many good/nice guys are placed in an area of social order dubbed the “friend-zone” where all chances at romance at off and the person if lucky is only seen as a friend, in a worst case scenario they may be seen as a younger or older brother figure leaving basically like a statue at an art museum, no touching in anyway. To get out of the friend zone means taking risk that can completely kill a friendship whether through a kiss or even an exchange of words. It is almost like Stockholm syndrome, you have started to find admiration for your captors (of your heart) when in reality you should have run away screaming in pain.

To be in the friends zone is complete and utter chaos in the mind of a person. The chance or hope to even spark some kind of relationship is if not completely impossible you would need to speak to whoever you believe in to get a miracle worked out to get that person.

I theorize if a guy was to become more a selfish person, or a “jerk” gearing him up to do whatever it takes to get the person they want. Why should they do any different because of morals or ethics, moral and ethics may possibly be more extinct than dinosaurs. Chivalry is an even rarer thing. It used to be many guys opened and held doors for ladies and other people and now if a guy holds a door for a lady it’s only to check out her ass. The entire system or culture that people have in America for dating and love is completely gone. We are turning to all the wrong places, we should not be blaming Hollywood, if we were to do that we might as well blame the grim brothers and whomever thought of the story of snow white or Cinderella. Love stories are some of the greatest things this world has ever had, in every movie, in every house, in everyone’s mind they have a love story they can tell. Love is the strongest emotion we have, but the most misused thing in the world.

When I conveyed to friends my scenario to change from a good guy to a jerk many of my good chick friends replied with this answer “because you’re better than that” to me this answer was a bit alarming I felt people had not weighed out the two sides or the overall goal. And why should I, a good guy or any good guy remain a good guy, you do not get a reward for it, the people who view you as a good guy probably wouldn’t lose a wink of sleep over you changing. So why must I be held to a higher standard? It does no benefit to my life. Why should a guy not be a selfish to get a girl, if that is what works, you do not fish with a basketball because it doesn’t work, use the right method for the job.

People who are off the radar of those who they want often hear it many times throughout the course of their dating history, “just friends”. Should they lower their standards because the social atmospheres of their wants are completely out of their reach and just learn to settle…in the best way I can say this “HELL NO”. You can settle on a house, car, job, expectations in sports, or anything like that. NEVER IN LOVE. LOVE is the most powerful force/emotion/thing what has you in the entire world since the beginning of time. It is more powerful than any weapon; it makes us happier than any material gift or money.

Many of the people who’ve heard “you’re better than that” felt as if they were treated like statues who are made of stone, and have no feelings and are not humans. Actions that can seem completely harmless when people do not observe or consider others can and will change a person and add a completely new degree of hate and utter contempt. If those guys are better than that why are they treated like they are the scum of the earth this goes far beyond looks or money and status or anything that should be taken into account when it comes to matters of the heart.

If we were to think of the current social scene and sense of how things are in the world of teenagers and college age kids as well sex, drugs and pregnancy are three problems which are constantly on the rise as it seems as if morals are quickly either never being learned or administered due to peer pressure or other social norms which people feel they should abide by.

Many people both guys and girls are for lack of a better term “giving it up” as if it were free to whoever showed up. The sense of shame and decency seem to be completely forgotten like this current generation has amnesia. Each generation as we all further to make our lives more connected through technology as well as easier people tend to be “easier”.

The people who are deemed “good guys” as much as girls say they want a good guy but most of them fall for the supposed “bad boy” who breaks their heart and they know it is going to happen. There is a point of a taking a risk or gamble when it comes to dating people there is no problem or complaint from me about that. Being hurt is inevitable however making smart decisions is not as inevitable as it should be. Yes, they are kids but still as we grow older and being the generation with the most knowledge than any other in the history of the world as well as the most powerful tool being the internet including having the fastest access to information than ever before. Why is it that people seem to get more ignorant is there a lack of hunger for knowledge, or are the newest electronic devices affecting our hearing or brain waves.

What consolation is it to guys who have morals and give people chances, who are proper and still open doors for girls, not to look at their butt rather they want to do it because it is the thing that you’re supposed to do. What consolation is it that he needs to wait because and all of the good guys have heard this “you’ll meet some girl who’ll love you for all you are, and she’ll be the luckiest girl in the world”. I was unaware that so many people were psychic and were able to see into our future while they’re there they should see if the war is over, if there’s a cure for cancer or tomorrow’s winning lotto numbers. It is a phrase as old as any in the world of romance in the twenty first century.

There is no consolation to any guy deemed a “good guy” that they should wait and get some girl who has had more sexual partners than the population of a average size class. Also if a good guy was to do these things and a girl who has been mistreated she would be more guarded to not let another guy in knowing what she has been through therefore she would think he was a real asshole like the rest. Putting more on that guy as in pressure and things to do to woo her. Why should a guy who has no prior dating glitches and walks the line of a gentlemen now even flirting with the idea of being a jerk go through all that work. Aside from the fact more than 75% of marriages end in divorces (a good/nice guy with morals) would want to wait till marriage to have sex though if a girl knows these numbers and apparently feels she knows men then his is at an utter loss.


“Who saves Superman when he needs help?”
-No body.


Being a Jerk by Johnny Mac (dictated)/Jesse-James

Simply put being a jerk is a lot easier when it comes to dealing with girls. The majority of them bought into the whole thing that guys are assholes and they(the girls) are these “badass, independent women who can bitch anyone out if you cross them” most of the time it reflects a song which is currently popular. A wide variety of girls feel that by trying to emulate this idea of beauty or what they feel guys like they will find “Mr. Right” though it is not the guys fault for being a jerk if you’re a jerk then be a jerk you cannot help but be what you are.

Girls play mind games and feel like they can make the rules and do this and do that. I am no gentlemen and I will never be, if I find a girl I like I stick it out until I find out who she really is behind all the makeup and other things they hide behind. I can go out on any given night whether it be a holiday or a rainy Tuesday night in Savannah and find any girl and take them home because when you’re able to that the whole being a nice guy thing doesn’t work the sooner you’ll get what you want. My friend Jeese-James, as we call him has been a very good guy his entire life. He may have had his slip ups and he may not be perfect but he does not run, he does not hide. He will stick with you he is not afraid of commitment or anything like that. Though for being a gentleman and abiding by these laws of chivalry which has been dead and not practiced by even the best of us for quite some time. Why should he do that, being a “good” guy never got anyone anywhere you look at every politician, entertainer anyone successful. Get your hands dirty and go after what you want and do whatever you have to get it. I am not saying break the law or anything but “Jesse-James” should not have to deal with girls who want him to deliver the world and wouldn’t even say hello to him in public. If in my life I was asked what I would consider a very wrong and disgusting act that is something that would take the cake.

How many times has anyone ever given themselves to him whole heartedly, none. So would any girl who has ever considered him a “good/nice guy” lose a wink of sleep over him actually getting what he DESERVES, if they do then they’re fucking hypocrites and need to have their hearts ripped out, O wait they might not have one. I want my friends to be happy, Jeese-James and I share the same philosophy. The people we love and we care for and those who need it we pray for them, I may be what people consider a “jerk” but I consider people’s feelings. It is not like girls don’t say no, or they can’t break up with me first. It just happens to be that I am the one who pulls the trigger. I read his whole rant on decency and stuff like that, that’s great but what’s the point of being the guy who lives by the rules in a world of chaos. That would honestly be like being the best athlete at the special Olympics(even though I respect them because it take a lot to do that) it’s just saying.

If I get a girl I want because I am saying what I want, and I am saying what I am after and she likes me for that am I still a jerk if I say “I want to get with you, because you’re hot” and she says the same thing. Since when is honesty been a bad thing.

The bottom line is this, he should be allowed to get who he wants because it does not make anyone’s life any better by him not being allowed to be happy and live by this ridiculous code of ethics and morals. He does not have to change he just has to change his approach. Why should he wait while others indulge in the world around them having fun and romance while he has to be the nice guy. In the best way I can again say it “FUCK THAT”. Woman killed chivalry because when it came time for men to uphold the code they realized for thousands of years dating all the way back to the dawn of time, jerks have been here long before the good/nice guy. It happened in every year in the history of the world that the girls went to the jerks, and that the good guys went without and by the time the women realized their mistakes the good guys were either no longer available, dead or because jerks themselves.


If you’re not willing to do whatever you can to get what you want, then you don’t want it bad enough.


Jesse-James is not superman, he is no knight in shining armor he is human and I think too many people forgot that. When they finally realize their mistake I hope they are all fat, ugly and are so helplessly drowning in their own bad choices because they deserve it. No good guy should have to live knowing that he did all he could to get the girl he loved only to lose her to some jerk or be completely off the radar or just turned away.


If they grow up to be nerd billionaires the hurt never leaves. Some wounds never heal.