How to Choose a Safe Social Network for Your Kids

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By RobHart

What are Social Learning Networks?

Your children can meet new online friends, have fun and learn a great deal from taking part in online Social Learning Networks. These are a new breed of social networks, restricted to real children and dedicated to helping their learning.

You need to know just 4 things to help your children get the very best from this exciting new educational development:

  1. What can my children do in Social Learning Networks?
  2. What can my children learn?
  3. How can I help to keep my children safe?
  4. Where can I find a safe Social Learning Network?

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1. What can my children do in Social Learning Networks

Children can have fun sharing their interests and at the same time they learn all sorts of things. They learn personal skills that will help them now and in the adult lives and mostly they learn by doing. Here are the kinds of things they can do:

  • Email friends – They can email their online friends and learn how to express themselves, carry on a conversation and build a relationship. They might also learn how to format their text and send email attachments.
  • Home pages – They can build their own home pages about their interests – music, books, fashion, sport, TV, films, pets or school subjects. They try to write interesting stuff that other children will want to read. They learn how to use html codes, create and upload images, sounds and videos.
  • Creative Writing – They could write articles and submit them to the editors for inclusion in the community magazines or clubs. They can even run their own online clubs, groups or online magazines on something that interests them and get other children to send them articles.
  • Discussions – Take part in discussion forums on fun and important stuff, like daily news forums on what’s happening in the world, or perhaps a media forum about the latest books and films, or an animals forum about threatened wildlife.
  • Competitions – They can enter competitions like Home Page of the Week or the Best Animal Photo competition.
  • Awards – They can do online courses like How to Be Safe Online or How to use Multimedia on your Home Page and they can win awards to celebrate their achievements.

2. What can my children learn?

The most important thing children need to learn in any online community is how to be safe and in good Social Learning Networks this is a strong focus.

  • How to be safe online – They learn how to look after their passwords, what they should or shouldn’t say in emails, what personal information it’s safe to give out and what to hold back.
  • How to behave – They learn how to behave respectfully online, for example: no swearing, no bulling and no sex talk. Good online communities like good schools or clubs, create a friendly atmosphere and a positive, mutually respectful ethos and they have mediators who look after the children and make sure they all behave.
  • How to understand others – Children make friends and work with others from all religious, cultural and economic backgrounds and every one is equal online!
  • How to communicate – Communication is a really important skill for adult life and children learn how to communicate in different ways – in emails, in forums and on their home pages. They learn to communicate with different audiences of people.
  • How to do – Children learn best by doing and in online communities they learn a host of useful IT skills like creating images, formatting text, using html codes on their home pages and a whole lot more.
  • Every subject under the sun – In the forums, magazines and clubs children can learn about every school subject as well as making sense of what’s happening in the everyday world.

3. How can I help to keep my children safe?

In a good Social Learning Network your children will be safe, but you need to help them select a safe network. Before they join, you can ask a few important questions:

Who runs this community? Make sure the organization running the community is one you can trust and has a good reputation for child safety. Ask these questions:

  • Do they publish their telephone number and address?
  • Do they have a good track record of running online learning communities?
  • Do they have any awards for child safety?
  • Are they endorsed by people you trust – the government, child safety organizations
  • Are they approved by your child’s school or other parents?

How are members validated? If just anyone can join a children’s community, then unauthorized adults could join and try to harm your children. So there must be a validation system to make sure applicants are real children of the right age. If pupils join through school the teacher can confirm they are genuine. If children join from home they should have their parents permission and the parent should be asked for full contact information that should be checked by the community organizers to make sure it’s reliable.

How is communication monitored? – All communications between all members of the community should be automatically scanned to stop people using bad language and to alert the mediator to anyone trying to insult, bully or find out personal information that could make a child vulnerable. Every word of every message should be recorded and saved so the mediators can check back on anything suspicious.

How are members looked after? – There should be trained human mediators online during the times when the children can communicate live - to keep them safe, to make sure they are behaving well and to help them with any questions. Make sure there is an emergency button your children can click if they see anything that worries them – it should send an urgent alert so the mediators pay attention to your child straight away.

How are parents and teachers informed? – The mediators should be able to contact teachers or parents if they have any concerns about a member, so make sure they ask for full contact details. Make sure there is a telephone helpline number and an email address you can contact if you have any worries.

After your children join – here are a few things you can do to keep them safe.

  • Be on call - Make sure your contact details, like email address or phone number, are up to date so the mediators can call you if there is a problem.
  • Be on hand - Encourage your children to use the computer in a room where you can keep an eye on them to make sure they are behaving well, keeping safe and they can turn to you for help.
  • Be on guard - Don’t let other family members use your children’s passwords, because if they do anything outside the community rules – your child could be kicked out. So make sure others respect your children’s privacy, encourage your children to keep passwords safe (not lying around on a scrap of paper) and make sure they “log out” every time they leave the computer.
  • Get help - If you have any worries – call the community helpline or email the mediators.

Children Talking About a Social Learning Network

4. Where can I find a safe Social Learning Network?

Check out the two safe Social Learning Networks below, created for children by Intuitive Media, a UK organization, which provides children’s online learning community for government and has a sound track record for child safely and a dozen awards for their work for children.

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Cup of Joe  says:
18 months ago

Great Hub Thanks!

Carole F  says:
18 months ago

Thanks for a really useful guide. As a parent I worry about my kids being safe online but I don't want to stop them from learning and having fun. I checked out the SuperClubsPLUS and GoldStarCafe sites and they look great. I'm going to get my kids schools to join up.

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RobHart  says:
18 months ago

Thanks Carole. Yes your kid's school can join the sites and sponsor your kids, or if you find the school is not able to help, you can sponsor your child to join as a parent.

Carole F  says:
18 months ago

Thanks, Rob.

I'll let you know how I get on with the school.

Lucy  says:
18 months ago

My cousins are 11 and 10 and they are on Bebo. I don't think they're safe. Both of them have had messages from weirdos. And... when one of them complained, she was kicked out of Bebo for being too young, but she just joined again straight under another username!

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RobHart  says:
18 months ago

Hi Lucy.

Bebo is for kids over 13, but as you clearly evidence, there's nothing to stop younger ones getting in, and some of them do become prey to the predators. The Social Learning Networks are much more rigorous in validating the children's ages through their schools. They also monitor all members' communications closely to protect the children.

Craig  says:
18 months ago

How do the learning networks monitor all the chat that goes on. Surely the kids can get round any system??

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RobHart  says:
18 months ago

Good question, Craig,

In SuperClubsPLUS and GoldStarCafe, they have automated systems that completely strip out swearwords, racist words and sexual words that are not appropriate for the age group.That makes it extremely difficult to be abusive.

Then the systems alert the human mediators to any messages with words or phrases that might indicate bullying, flirting or grooming. These messages then have to be approved by a mediator, who checks the context and meaning and only approved messages are delivered.In this way any attempted bullying or grooming isstopped before any damage can be done.

Craig  says:
18 months ago

Sounds good, but who are these mediators?

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RobHart  says:
18 months ago

You're right to ask, Craig, you need to feel your kid are in safe hands.

The mediators are educators - mostly practicising or ex-teachers, who have had rigorous background checks and enhanced police checks. They are carefully selected from among the most capable and enthusiastic teachers within the learning communities, then they are intensively trained in mediation by Intuitive Media and they also get training in child protection from NSPCC.

Craig  says:
18 months ago

Fair enough!

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myworld2u  says:
18 months ago

Good and informative hub.

Do you recommend MySpace for children ?

My daughters joined MySpace. I don't know whats the big deal with this social network (with over 20 million members ??). But I am sure its not the best and good for everybody.

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totally_insane  says:
18 months ago

its a good advice for many parents. I will rember that

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RobHart  says:
18 months ago

I definately would NOT recommend MySpace for for children. They recently declared to the Attorney general that they had found 29,000 registered sex offenders on MySpace. It think they were probably the stupid ones who gave their own names. The clever ones hide behind fictitious personas - some pretending to be young children, so that they cane entice real kids into their predatory nets.

Older teens, who know how to keep their personal information to themselves and deal with "wierdos" could well find MySpace an exciting place to be.

National Background Checks  says:
5 months ago

It's always scary to me what goes on online nowadays. Children and teenagers have a means of communicating with the outside world, and unfortunately, strangers that I never had when I was younger. Social Networks have their place, but I agree caution must be exercised.

Lee Renton  says:
2 months ago

Just wanted to say that I found your article very informative and useful for parents.

I have read a number of articles on this topic which has resulted in my involvement with a project which is trying to get on top of this issue and provide a safe solution.

Its called Mylittlebigworld: http://www.mylittlebigworld.co.uk

We are trying to provide a free social network site for kids which has a unique, 'child management area' which allows the parent to keep control of what the child does, plus all children need to be authorised by a parent to use the site.

The site is still in beta with a new version being set live at the end of this month based on the feedback we've been given so far.

We'd appreciate any feedback to help us get it right!

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RobHart  says:
2 months ago

Sorry, Lee Renton, but I would not recommend your site as safe for children.

Any adult can get into your site posing as a child, there is no way you can currently stop this. Also children can easily get in without parental permission by giving a hotmail or other email address as the parent's address.

Lee Renton  says:
2 months ago

Hi Rob Hart, in response to your points about MLBW.

Any adult can pose as a child, which is the case in any social network. The method that we are trying to implement is when a child registers on MLBW it requires the parent to be notified, and in turn activate the childs account before they can start to make friends and communicate with others. This means that once activated the parent will be able to view information about their own child and who they are becoming friends with in MLBW. If consent by the parent isn't given then the account is frozen out.

We are trying to provide an environment where parents who care can monitor their young childrens activity with out stopping children playing on the internet and learning. The more parents we can have registered, the more moderation they will be as the site evolves.

Reference to the way children can get around the parent email, this also is the case on any site, even more so on sites such as facebook where they just give wrong DOB and interact with older members. We can only monitor situations like this, however, parents that are making sure that the internet use by their young children is monitored will be able to make sure they know who there children are talking too, and report any members acting inappropriately or suspiciously. We are trying to work on the principle of safety in numbers, thats why the parents are key.

Let me know your thoughts on our registration method, as you may not have realised our full process? And maybe how you'd like to see it improved?

Thanks

Lee

Lee Renton  says:
2 months ago

Sorry, to add a little more, I do realise your affiliation with the sites listed in your article due to you being CEO of Intuitive Media. However, we don't see our site a competitor of these, more a free alternative potentially.

Thanks for your time.

Lee

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RobHart  says:
2 months ago

Hello Lee,

Thanks for expanding on your system. There ARE sites where it is extremely difficult for an adult to pose as a child - namely the sites Intuitive Media runs, where validation is done through schools and we know the children who join are real children of the age stated.We also moderate every single word and image that passes through the site so that no bullying or grooming can happen. In 1 million child years, we've been able to protect 100% of our children from each other and from predatory adults.

This level of validation costs time and money and I know this is not a cost-effective method for your site or dozens more like it. I agree we're not competitors, there's room for entertainment and friendship sites as well as educational sites.

However, your only way of "validating" your users is to ask for parental permission, but that's totally unreliable. Children can and regularly do offer spurious parent emails and can get through the whole of your registration system very easily and predators can do the same and infiltrate your community.

I'm not saying you're doing anything wrong, only that you are doing the best you can do. My comment is that does not make your site SAFE for children and you should not claim that it does.

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