Chidlren are by far the funniest in the world, their innocent, truthfulness and infectious beings that we all love to be around, especially when they are young. However, as kids are growing older, us parents, tend to do something that makes it less funny and more work. What is going on with children today? I don’t believe that beating, whipping or spanking your child is the be-all-end-all; however, I do feel there is a thin line between whippings and time out. The level of disrespect that I see children showing their parents, at all different ages, well, is rather sad to me. I think parents need to be in charge and teach their children about respecting others. More importantly, I think parents need to be the parents, instead of having the children make the decisions.

In today’s society, discipline has changed so much that the children manage the parents. During school, children arent' showing respect for the teachers and teachers are trying to help our children.  We have reversed rolls. I think that is heartbreaking, what is wrong with us parents? Parenting is hard, I know and as parents we have to start making some changes.  Were we raised so bad that now we give into our kids at every whim? I am just a mother but I believe in the following;

Parents must unite – don’t let the children play you against each other, stand behind your spouses’ decision (if you don’t agree with it, discuss behind close doors later) but always try and stand behind your spouse when they are punishing the child. Parenting is hard, but worth it if you do it right.

Parents take charge – it is up to us to have the structure in our home. Children need structure, whatever structure works best for you and your family, make it a structure format that brings children security. Take charge of your life and your children’s. It starts young, at a toddler's age if not before, but you can do it.

Parents talk to your children – when I have to discipline my son, afterwards, I will always discuss why he was in trouble, and I make him repeat it back to me so I know he understands why he was grounded. (He is six) I do this so he knows that I love him and why I was upset or yellowing, parenting is hard but communicating to your child is very important.

Parents it’s up to you – if you want respect from your child then show it to them, others and more importantly to your parents and to your spouse. It’s a learned behavior; they will follow what you do!

I am certainly no expert, however, I have witnessed many friends allow their children to backtalk, yell and win arguments instead of managing the situation. I believe all children act out for attention and we parents are responsible to give our children time, love, coaching and help but above all else, teach them the values of respecting others and themselves.  Being a toddler, child, or a teenager is hard as well and it's up to us as parents to teach them.

Parenting is hard and sometimes we just need help or advice but keeping trying it’s your child that you are creating; make them the best they can be.