This has always been a hot topic between exs who cannot get along. Do they allow the kids to send possessions between homes during visits or not?

Let's look at the family law's position with this. The answer is YES! The items are viewed as the children's own possessions (not sure if I jive with that or not....) and as such, the children should be allowed to take things between homes.

But what happens when ..hmm let's say "mom" decides to take the gameboy dad bought and slam it against the wall? In our case, "mom" pretended nothing of the sort happened- that little "Johnny" dropped it. Little Johnny though, and several other witnesses, have a different story to tell.

In the end you are out $100+ and no one is stepping up to the plate to pay for it. What do you do? Do you take this to court? Do you add it to the list of crap that the ex has pulled? Never take this type of incident to court without a ton of other incidents to back it up. You will look frivolous and end up coughing up more $ to pay for ex's legal fees. If you are trying to make a case for parental alienation then yes, add it to the list. You need a lot of ammo to win a parental alienation case. If you aren't headed down that road then the solution is simple - don't let it happen again. Take control of the situation. You cannot control what the ex does but you can definitely limit their affect on you and your wallet. Limit the items that you let the kids take both in terms of quantity and value. Tread carefully - you don't want to look spiteful. You need to market it as in the best interests of the children. But trust me, if you keep sending items and they don't come back (or come back in pieces) then it is time to wake up and see that everything has to come with boundaries.