Kink for the non kinky, spicing up your sex life

If things are getting a little lack luster in the bedroom these days, it may be time to try a little something different. You may have heard about this 'BDSM' thing, but all those props and whips and chains and things just seem a little too much. That's okay, you and your partner can experiment without being dangled from the ceiling by your nipples, although that does have its charms.

Here are a few suggestions to get you started...

Sensations

Different sensations can add a great edge to your love life, things like being blindfolded and teased with a feather can be a good start for the cautious, or pick up a paddle and try a good ol' spanking if that sort of thing turns your wheels. Just make sure not to ever strike anyone above the middle of the buttocks, as you lose considerable padding above this area, and if you miss you may actually hurt someone, which will totally take the fun edge off the evening's activities.

Restrictions

Gags, ties, blindfolds, these are all types of restrictions. Not being able to move, to touch, to see, or to speak changes the love making experience considerably, and some totally fall in love with the feelings of helplessness that comes from having their hands tied whilst their lover gently plays with their body, or of not being able to see what's coming next while wearing a blindfold. This can also be a great exercise in trust, and some find this type of play to be somewhat scary at times, so take it slow, and build on up.

Role Play

You're the naughty school girl, he's the stern headmaster, or maybe he's the pizza delivery boy, and you're the lonely housewife. Role play is a fun way to step outside yourselves and rediscover one another in a totally different light. Remember how you used to play when you were a child? This is the same thing, except it's the adult version, and if you liked cops and robbers when you were little tyke, you're going to love it a whole lot more as a big bad grown up. The secret to enjoying role play is allowing yourself to let go and be in the moment, to enjoy yourselves and not worry about appearing silly, lovemaking is about sharing and vulnerability and role play can help you be more open with your partner, which always leads to better intimacy.

Caution: Be Safe

You can get into all kinds of trouble if you accidentally tie a rope too tight, or lose the key to the cuffs, and not that wacky sitcom kind of trouble either, more like the loss of circulation, lots of pain, possible death sort of trouble. For this reason it is not recommended to ever tie anyone up in ways that they cannot escape unless you have a dungeon of staff on standby, or at least your friend's kidnapped dog who will make his way home with a little note attached to his collar, something sure fire like that.

Safety and common sense first people. It might seem like a hot idea to truss your loved one up like a chicken, and go out for some pizza, but in reality, that is very, very stupid, and being stupid isn't sexy.