If you find yourself reading this and you are not 50....no worries! Ladies find comfort in that whether you are 30, 40 or 50 there are safe fun options for a mid-life crisis that won't wreck you life, marriage or cause major scandal in your community!

It seems there has been an awakening of the female spirit. Ladies seem to a hit a certain point in their lives and they find themselves not only wanting more but truly needing more. It is usually occurs as a woman's children begin to get a bit older. Young children provide a huge distraction for women. This is why a "mid-life crisis" happen to women of different ages. Depending on when a woman has had her children will depend on when her "crisis" hits- if it hits at all. If you don't have children it will depend on how long you have been at your job, married to your spouse, dating your boyfriend or boyfriends.

It seems the root cause is always feeling lost and unfulfilled. Is it because you never really pursued your dreams or because you have spent countless years catering to parents, children, friends and significant others? Basically everyone but youself. .

Woman are very good at fooling themselves into thinking they are happy when it is really just a reflection of what is going on around them. If your children are happy then you are happy. If your parents are happy then you are happy. If your mate is happy then you are happy. Something as simple as a great hair cut or looking good in a new pair of jeans can will actually provide short term happiness. Yes, all of these things do need to be going well but unless your core is happy, ladies you will always feel the desire for something more no matter how happy the world is around you.

When the "crisis" begins to rear its ugly head in a woman's life it tends to go unnoticed for quite a while. Women are the grand multi-taskers. Woman are busy creatures who don't stop to smell the coffee no matter how many trips to Starbucks they might take. They tend to assume if things around them are not "so" great then that must be the cause of their angst. They don't realize that yearning feeling is a lack of fulfillment that will gnaw at them until it is recognized and grown into something tangible that they can work on and accomplish.

Since these feelings do go unnoticed it is best to start off slowly. Ladies you deserve a "break today". You must carve out time for yourself, end of story! You will never find out what you really want if you are not relaxed enough to have a clear head. As they say "life is struggle". Everyone has crosses to bear and demons to contend with albeit some much worse than others but every lady no matter the size of their struggles needs to rest, think and just BE. You will not find your hearts desire when you are feeling tense and fuzzy.

The first step to finding what you want and need is to relax. Often one of the hardest things to do is to learn how to relax and do it in a guilt free manor. Start out slowly. Hot bubble baths, candles, spa treatments, buy yourself some flowers, a cozy blanket anything that will work for you. Then take it it a step father. Spend the night at a hotel....a little room service and a movie can go a long way. Exercise, learn a new sport, join a book club (exercising the mind is great), take a class. This can not be done as a one shot deal. Find what relaxes and clears your head and do it on as regular a basis as you possibly can. As time goes on you will find your thinking should become clearer and clearer which will lead you to start exploring the bigger picture what will ultimately fulfill you.

Now it is time to THINK OUT OF THE BOX! This can be a bit scary if you are not accustomed to it. Fear can be a a powerful emotion. An emotion that can save us from danger as well as harm us if we let it rule our feelings and actions. Often woman don't expand their lives due to fear of failure or rejection. Low expectations are usually set as to not fall short of them. All this will lead ultimately to the gnawing feeling of discontent.

Try something crazy. Hair can make or break a woman. If you get it right it can be fun, fun, fun. Blondes go brunette, brunettes go red and redheads just pick a color. Have a little fun and see how the other half lives. You might want to warn the husband don't want to shock him. Hey, it might be fun!! Chose a color that you always wanted but didn't dare. It can always be changed back!

Cut that hair ladies. Sometimes hair can drag you down. Break away from that comfort zone and feel fresh! You don't have to go short unless you want to. But chose something hip and contemporary. Do your research. A bad hair cut could set you back in your journey of self discovery. A good one can spring board you to be open to even more discoveries.

LADIES LOVE THE SISTERS!!! Woman are communal creatures by nature and love to be together, talk, bond and laugh. When is the last time you really belly laughed? Real laughter will work wonders. Hanging out with close friends who you can be yourself around can be very inspiring. Choose a regular night and go out with the ladies. Have fun and really enjoy yourself. Now, opportunities may present themselves for drinking too much, flirting and trouble. This is not the time to act like a kid in a candy store. This is your time of self discovery and relaxation. You will be no good to yourself or anyone if you run a muck!

TATTOOS. A very popular and now mainstream thing to do. Woman of all ages are getting tattoos in various places on their bodies seen and not seen. Woman are getting tattoos for a myriad of reasons, maybe they want to represent their children, a religious faith, a loved one, or just fulfill a desire they have had since they were young and too afraid to do it. This is a safe way to do something out of your comfort zone with out really effecting anyone but you. A somewhat bold move but very effective if you are so inclined.

MOTORCYCLES. Women and motorcycles are on the rise all over the country. From top executives to just plain old soccer mom are getting motorcycles and ridding their way to freedom. They take long rides with groups of other enthusiasts and clear their heads on the open road. Obviously there is a safety factor to this one but many women are doing this and having a great time!

Travel. Go see the uncharted land you always wanted to. Even if it takes a long time to save up do it and go! Go with a spouse, friend or alone. Just go! Seeing new places and people will really give you a perspective on what you have and want. No trip is too big Egypt, Italy, France or places in your own country that you have never seen and are not in your comfort zone. Try interesting things on your vacations, scuba, safari, horses, hiking anything you don't usually do. Basically really "live" the vacation.

SCHOOL. There is probably something you always wanted to be. A doctor, lawyer, actor, nutritionist, designer, whatever it is start getting your feet wet. It may seen insurmountable at first but taking steps to achieve a heart's desire is really important. Do what you can at your own pace. If you realize the goal is achievable you will really start to feel better.

Women are complex individuals who really are pretty straight forward. They are happy when they are fulfilled and their environment is safe and secure. They need to feel strong and in control of their lives. They are great at doing for everyone else and can acheive great satisfaction from that. The down side is too much of that can lead to the feeling of being lost and unappreciated. It is our own fault for being so damn good at everything.

Ladies take the time to find who you really are. Do it slowly and be aware of the people around you and how it will effect them. Women, you can get that second wind. It won't happen over night and it shouldn't. If you calm your mind and spirit life will play out the way it is supposed to if you let it. Remember to listen to what life is telling you!