We've all been dumped...it sucks. But not all break ups are permanent. Don't give up men. If the break up ends on a good note such as "this is just a good time for me", or "I need some space". Then that may just be the real cause of the break up. There's something I called the "3 month period", after the dating stage and getting to know one another and you get finally get together, the first three months are heaven. Sex all the time, you love spending time together, you never argue, everything is peachs and cream. Then reality hits, like it always does, fights about space, jealousy, and the biggest factor money! When the bills start rolling in, stress hits us all and at times we all take our anger out on the one we love. Here are some things to avoid the break up.

1. Get your sh*t together! Most women don't like dating men without a job for the simple reason, you have no money! Women are expensive! Think of them as an extra bill, but don't spend so much money on them that you have no money for rent and car insurance. Women want to know that you are financially stable.

2. Respect your mother. A lot of relationships break up because the mother doesn't approve of the girlfriend, or the girlfriend is disrespectful in front of your parents. Use communication and make it very clear that she needs to be respectful around your parents. As well as your mother needs to respect your girlfriend. You DON'T want a confortation. If you see an issue between them, you step in and speak don't let the girlfriend speak for herself. If a girl is constantly rude around your parents, it's time to get rid of her.

3. Homeboys. Don't change how you act around your homeboys with your girl, as well as don't leave her out. You're girl should be included in your life. And don't announce her as "your friend" unless you really are just friends. Be proud of your girl, as you would want her to be proud of you.

4. Time after time. Spend time with your girl but not ever moment of your existence. Give the woman some space and make her miss you and want to spend time with you. Smoothering is the worse thing you can do. But not spending enough time makes her feel neglected. Don't neglect your responisibilites just to spend time with her, INCLUDE her in your life, don't make her your life. You did have one before you met her.

Now if you tried your hardest and still it went sour, but believe you still have a chance to be together then don't give up. If you break up here are some things to do.

1. Give her space. Let her call you when she's ready to talk. Let her think about the decision she has made, and also it gives you time to think "Do I really want to be with this girl?" Don't bug her.

2. Don't check her myspace. Myspace is the cause of many relationships now and days, and also one of the reasons they break up. Don't get all nervous when you see comments. It's her personal space as well. Leave your jealousy at the door. If you've split up, don't react to everything you see on myspace...it's just a website.

3. Stay busy. Getting all emo about everything is not going to solve anything. Stay busy with school, work and activities. Women like to know that you keep yourself busy, and when she's ready she'll want to be a part of that again.

4. Don't do the "friends" thing. Don't talk to her like you're her friend or she'll keep you that way. Try to see where things went wrong and improving the behavior that turned her off in the first place. After you've given her some space, give her a call...not IM or email...or see her in person. Don't shower her with gifts, but something sweet to show your thinking about her is appreciated. Women don't like to feel like they are being bought. Don't be afraid to remind her of why you feel in love with her in the first place.

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