I remember something my mother taught me years ago, a very powerful
lesson dealing with relatedness to other people which has something to do with living the law of attraction as well. She said, “Don’t ever
allow anyone to make you someone who you’re not.” I’ll say it again.
Don’t ever allow anyone to make you someone who you’re not. This has
multiple implications but there are two that stick out in my mind
right now based on current experiences, situations that I’ve gone
through.

One is to not allow someone to rob you of your joy. This comes into
play when you say things like, that person made me so mad, whatever
the case may be. Secondly, that can also encompass becoming someone
else because you are around a certain type of person. We talked about
this in another Law of Attraction podcast, (by the way you can subscribe to it--Antonio Thornton Thinkbanc Law of Attraction--it's free!) about if you want to start attracting more
money, you start associating yourself with people who are making more
money so that you start taking on those characteristics. But then it
also goes for the opposite side, and not associating yourself with
people who may have the characteristics or the behavioral patterns
that you don’t want to mimic.

I’ll start up with talking about the first one which is not allowing
someone to rob you of your joy. This is something that we’d say on so
many cases, oh, you know, that person made me so mad; that person hurt
my feelings, or whatever the case may be. But in essence, what you’re
doing is you’re giving up your power to create your own reality to
someone else.

In essence, you’re becoming a puppet, if you will. You’ve heard the
phrase when someone says, oh that so-and-so really pushes my buttons.
You know that ‘pushing your buttons’ is no different than ‘pulling
your strings,’ I have to say. If someone can push your button and
cause you to act a certain way, you’re nothing more than a puppet,
because they’re creating your reality. This is not what living the law of attraction is all about. The thing is that you have that control.

Now, you may be saying, well, my wife, my husband, they know the
things that make me mad; they know the things that upset me. Well, the
reality is they know the things that upset you in the past, but you’re
choosing to allow those things to upset you now. This person doesn’t
have to be just a spouse. I used that based on, that’s typically where
people have this type of conversation.

I’d even have to say, usually, it’s someone who’s very close to you
that has the ability to manipulate you in that way. So, it may be a
spouse, it may be a boss, it may be even a sibling, it could be any negative
person you're attracting.

But when you say this person pushes your buttons, you are allowing
them to create your reality, and this is a very disempowering place to
be. It’s very disempowering to be in a good mood, but this one person
comes in and say this one thing, and then they completely rob you of
that good mood, because they “know your hot buttons.”

You know, you’ve just given it up. As I say, you’re just giving up

your power to create your own reality, your power to practice the law of attraction. That is so unfair to yourself.
But we do that when we allow people to “make us” angry or make us
upset, when it’s a choice. It’s a choice to be upset. Because when you
really look at it, what’s actually happened, if someone said
something; now, the thing that they said, you have chosen to, either
take offense to it, you’ve chosen to allow it to hurt your feelings,
upset you, whatever the case may be.

I’m not saying this to allow people to say anything to you and just
brush it off, whatever the case may be. But when you find yourself in
a situation where you are repeatedly going into a place that you don’t
want to be because of someone else, you have to recognize that it’s
not because of them – it’s because of you, allowing them to put you in
that place. That's how the law of attraction works. That is 100% your choice.

You’ve all heard the phrase, “Sticks and stones break my bones, but
words can never hurt me.” Well, you’ll find some people say, yeah, you
know, words can be very hurtful, and they can be. But they’re just a
choice. It’s a choice. You can choose to allow those things to hurt
you. You choose how to live your life and apply it in living the law of attraction.

I remember watching an episode of a show I watched years ago, “Six
Feet Under.” It was on HBO, if I’m not mistaken. It’s kind of a weird
show, I don’t even know the details of the show, but I remember one
episode, which really stuck with me for some reason. There’s a young
lady with a daughter in the show, I can’t remember, Claire, that was
her young daughter; Claire, she was an artist. I don’t remember the
exact scenario, but someone had said something about her art, and they
were doubting her as an artist, and said, “Oh, your art’s really not
that good; you’ll never be a successful artist.” She was very down
about that because he was someone, I think, that she respected, or
someone that she really cared about who said this about her.

So she was in the kitchen, down and depressed. Her aunt came in and
said, “What’s going on? Why do you look so down?” She goes, “You know,
someone said to me that my art’s no good and I’ll never be a great
artist.” Her aunt says something with the nature of, “Well, they might
be right about that.” Claire got upset about it, she says, “How could
you say that? You’re my aunt. You’re supposed to support
me..blah-blah-blah.” The aunt says something really, really profound.
If you remember the scene from watching the Six Feet Under, you’ll
probably recognize that (??) (7:00) but hopefully, you’re getting the
point here. The aunt says, “Well, Claire, if you’re so upset about
this person’s saying those things to you, maybe there some truth to
it; or at the minimum, maybe you believed it to some degree.”

And she went on to say, I don’t know if she used the exact phrase, but
she says, “Well, you know, if someone calls you a purple people-eater,
you probably wouldn’t get offended by that, because you know that
you’re not a purple people-eater. But when someone questions her art,
there was someone who believed that she may not be a great artist, and
she gave up her joy to someone else.”

I share that story with you to really look at your own self. If there
is someone in your life you feel is pushing your buttons, someone you
feel actually pushing your buttons, then what I would have you
consider doing is really doing a self-evaluation, to ask yourself, “Do
I believe this to any degree? Is this something I actually believe
about myself?”

What you’ll find is if you do the work, you’ll find that there
probably is some portion of you that believes that thing about
yourself, because if you didn’t, it would not impact you. If you did
not believe it, it would not matter.

So there’s a really great lesson to focus on again, not allowing
someone to make you someone who you’re not. What I’ll do is I will go
over part two of this podcast. But really think about that and really
evaluate where you are and what you believe about yourself., because
that’s wanting to allow you to take your power back to create for
yourself and not allow this other person to “push your buttons,” or as
I like to say, pull your strings. That's living the law of attraction.