It's very common in long-term relationships to feel like you are in the same routine day in and day out. Here's something to think about... What are you doing to change that rut?

In the beginning, or what I like to call the "honeymoon phase", you want to be around your partner all the time, and you love doing spontaneous things for and with them. You might send your girlfriend flowers at work, or set up a romantic picnic on the beach. Then you find yourself being together for a long time, but doing the same ol' thing all the time.

For some people this offers a sense of comfort to know that they can count on the same thing all the time. For others, as yourself, you find yourself getting bored and feeling like you should move on to greener pastures. If you are not willing to make the change with this girlfriend, what's going to change with the next? If you love her, and you really do want to be with her, but find yourself bored, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!

I know so many people that blame their partner for the boredom in their relationship or marriage. What are they doing to change? Are they offering spontaneity to their relationship? No. They are just expecting it.

If you feel like you are REALLY trying to change things, or offer some variation in your relationship and your girlfriend still doesn't reciprocate, then you might want to think about moving on. Relationships are a two-way street and you have to be part of the change.

So today, bring your girlfriend home some flowers...just to tell her that you love her. Then take her out to dinner at her favorite restaurant.

Ladies...this isn't just for guys. They shouldn't have to do all the work. I love to surprise my fiance with something romantic. We are the type of couple that loves to come home and do the same thing every night, so we try to mix it up once in a while. Go out of town, take a romantic trip together. Go dancing, or even do something fun together.