Ever wonder what the heck is going on with you and someone you are entangled with? Doesn't it seem like it is all their fault? Do you wish that you could understand why you are in such a situation?

Such situations certainly at times can bring us down or it can escalate into something we have no control over. I may seem that way, but in reality we can control what is going on. We can control our own actions through our own thoughts and emotions.

Here is a problem solving technique that has to be practiced. It will help you understand the situation much better. 

Sit down in a comfy chair. Dis-associate your self from the emotions that you have with the situation you are having. See the two of you in a living room battling it out. Now take yourself out of that body and see yourself looking into that living room window. Watch what is going on. Listen to what each person is saying and how they are saying it. See what the other person is doing. Remember or pull into your mind what you know about this other person and do the same for yourself. Understand, without emotions, what each person has been through. Now see if you can see the situation for what it truly is. Is there something that your are supposed to learn from this or is it something that you are to teach them? We are all teachers and we are all student's in this life.

After doing this you may undertand what it is that is going on with the both of you and you can now plan the course of action and your thoughts accordingly.