Many people today perhaps because of the soaps or the lifestyle of the rich and famous are looking for love. But are they looking in the right places? Some are looking for a guy that, well looks like Brad Pitt (real name William Bradley Pitt). Some are looking for a Scarlett I. Johansson.

Some think that the bars or the clubs are good places to pickup their life long mate. Some think that the chat rooms a are good place. Some are joining social clubs looking for love. Some are going to church service looking for love. Some are look for the guy or gal that appears to have it all.

Some are looking for someone to make them feel alive, even if it is just for a moment or a twinkle of the eye. Some turn to drugs, “yes drug is my love.” Is that you? I believe before one launches out on a journey looking for love, looking for their life long mate, first know yourself. Learn to love yourself, before anyone else.

Don’t go out looking for someone to validate you. Don’t ignore the obvious things about yourself if you are a little slow, slow in learning of the basics or poor in judgment. Then it is a good idea to confide in someone who is older yet wiser and one with high moral values.

Their are to many people today who don’t love themselves. There many who are setting a course to change the way they look. Why? Is it because they do not love themselves? You be the judge. A man seeks out the love of his life and then demands that she get breast implants and so she does it only to discover that he doesn’t love her any more. WHY? Because he feels she has fake body parts. Is that love? Please! Do be careful.

Believe in yourself. Look in the mirror and say “I am beautiful.” WHY? Because God does not make or create junk! I believe too much emphasis is focused on the cover. It has been said, “don’t judge the book by the cover.”

There have been many a things gift wrapped and with a bow, sent out to be delivered, only to discovered once opened, it was a cut off finger or feces. A lady may ask a man, “do you have AIDS?” The man says no I don’t have any sexual disease. The lady believes the man, she has no reason to believe that what he is telling her is not the truth. Only to later discover he lied. Again trust but verify. I know some will have a problem with that. Well, I know for a fact that it has happen. Some will not tell you the truth.

Are you looking for love in all the wrong places? Will you go along just to get along? I mean a man says to a lady, “if you really love me you will do ____________ for me”. You fill in the blank. Don’t give up your moral values just for pleasure. Once you lose your virtue (virginity) you can’t get it back. Remember marriage is for life. “What God has join together let no man put asunder.” Are looking for love in all the wrong places?

Don’t just look at the tree but at the fruit that the tree produces. Don’t ignore the lies. Don’t ignore the anger swing moods. Don’t make excuses for them when they began to physically and/or mentally abuse you. Know your limits. Let it be known up front what your likes and dislikes are and mean it. And don’t make excuses because of a cute face or over look them because your so-called friends or family said so. Make No Exceptions! Please give your comments and/or experiences. Thanks! And may God continue to bless you all.